Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

He couldn’t bake but I can’t either. Some people hate cooking, there’s nothing wrong with that

My DH didn't cook while we were working. I worked nights,so cooked left his in the microwave
He's started cooking since he retired. I have a hiatus hernia so I have to eat by 6, he wouldn't have been home from work by then. My late father never even made a cup of tea in his life. Born in the 30s..

Yes, he does at least 50% of the cooking, everything from ordinary weeknight pasta to a full Christmas dinner, and is actually more likely to also do a pudding than I am (because he's the one with a sweet tooth). We also share the shopping and meal-planning. Because we're both fully-functioning adults.

I'm 15 years older than that. As I said, I'm glad the load is now shared, honestly. DD had a male housemate who was an excellent cook. She's not an enthusiastic cook particularly. I know a fair few people older than I am and I would say, far more of the wives/women cook. I'm glad the pendulum has swung.

Going against the grain of the "generational" comments, my husband cooks several times a week and is 64 (I'm 50). So it's not always the youngsters!

My DH is in his fifties....he lived alone for many years before we lived together and didn't starve...he can prepare basic food. In a million years, he wouldn't dream of making a cake or pudding. I cook vast majority of his meals.

My friends are married to men who are a bit younger in their early forties and they all cook. It is partly generational I agree.

Yes, he cooks several times a week and also clears up. (We have the rule that whoever cooks also clears as it means the other person has a complete night off from kitchen duties.)

His meals are lovely, though tend to be much more elaborate than mine. Partly because he enjoys cooking (I'm less enthusiastic) but I suspect it gives him an excuse to do less child wrangling, hmmmm.

I would absolutely not have married someone who didn't expect to cook meals regularly. The thought of having to decide what to cook, and then cooking it, every damn day with no one ever making me a home cooked meal makes me want to cry! I would honestly rather be single.

He's never made sticky toffee pudding though neither have I!

I don’t have a husband, will a DP do? Yes he could, better than me. He does 99% off the cooking.

I'm 52, as is DH (who does virtually all the cooking). Most of our male friends cook. My dad cooked too, and he was born in 1943. If you can read (or follow a Youtube video), you can cook. It's not hard.

Honestly surprised by the replies here. I'm a bit older so perhaps it's generational but I know very few men who cook day to day in my age band. Most can survive. cooking wise but some would starve or live on marmalade sandwiches. I've never cooked a sticky toffee pud as I don't have a sweet tooth at all. Never met a man who has either.
How lovely that younger people are sharing the culinary load better than we did.

Yes to the roast every few weeks. He has never tried puddings but nor have I.

Yes. He loved to cook and was very tidy - cleaned up as he went along so hardly any mess afterwards.

Yes, he is a good cook, but does make a mess as he goes

Absolutely no chance.

Even Gousto recipes seem to be beyond that.

However, he is very dyslexic and struggles with the recipe cards. Plus ADHD and he just loses his temper.

It's deeply unattractive.

He almost literally cooks every meal and if he’s not here I’m most likely to do freezer tapas 😂 he makes amazing cakes and desserts, people have asked him to make cakes for birthdays, a couple of weddings etc. He does all the washing and clearing up etc although I have a higher standard of cleaning so might top that up afterwards, which is hardly his fault!

I also don't begrudge DP using whatever utensils he needs! I've eaten well for over a decade and have barely had to lift a finger to make that happen so he can use all the pots in the kitchen for all I care.

DP enjoys cooking too but it's still a chore to an extent, in the sense that sometimes he'd rather veg out on the sofa but he has to get off his arse and feed us anyway. Even if you enjoy doing something, having to do it every day takes it out of the pure leisure realm.

I wouldn't say I actively enjoy washing up but I enjoy it more than trying to cook, and if I put my favourite tunes on it's not really an awful experience.

(Often, especially if DP is cooking several things at once, I'll join him and his glass of wine, and I'll do the cleaning as he goes along. Less to do afterwards and it's a nice way to spend a few hours together.)

If I could start again one rule I would have is whoever cooks cleans up too.

That’s the way it works in our house.

I'm conflicted on this, DH enjoys cooking, pottering about, getting out all the bowls and utensils listening to sport on the radio , having a glass of wine etc while cooking a meal. He finds it relaxing, and is always keen to cook even if I say I will.

There is nowhere near the same enjoyment level, of wiping up spillages, putting ingredients away and washing greasy pans.

In an ideal world the person cooking would tidy ingredients away, wipe surfaces and spillages and wash up a few things as thry go along. Then fair enough the other person clears up the rest.

This seems hugely unfair to me. I don't cook, so it seems obvious that I should clean up. Should the cook spend hours in the kitchen making a delicious meal and then go back to clean it all up while the non-cook contributes nothing to any of this?

Yes. He cooks regularly. I cook more often just due to finishing work earlier but he will then do the dishwasher and tidy up after.
He doesn't usually make puddings or bake so I might get questions on the sticky toffee pudding but I have faith that he would be able to make one!

My dh can and does regularly. He cooks at least twice a week.

I think you are allowed to change the rules as you like on this one!

Mine can cook (used to when he lived on his own) but generally doesn't. He does nearly all cleaning and all laundry so I'm happy to cook. On the rare ocassions he does cook anything it'd be ready made oven food eg pizza/chicken steaks etc and would somehow take longer than normal and he'd spend so long cleaning up it'd be stone cold by the time we ate.

Yes. He does tend to use a lot of pans though! But no more mess than I would make.