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Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

314 replies

Oyoh · 28/01/2025 15:08

For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

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StrawberryWater · 28/01/2025 15:17

He cooks 3 nights a week. Doesn't fuss at all. He never cooks anything too complicated (think meat and two veg or something with chips) but not a grumble or complaint.

He can do a roast but not a sticky toffee pudding. He does make nice ginger cake though.

toastedcrumpetsrock · 28/01/2025 15:17

Yes of course, although he can get stressed serving up - there's a lot of us, he cooks at least 50% of the time

Ilovemyshed · 28/01/2025 15:15

Yes, he usually takes the lead and is a better savoury cook than me.

Immo8 · 28/01/2025 15:15

My DH absolutely could and he's a great cook and will tidy up as he goes and load the dishwasher up etc. I don't have to ask him to cook either. I do however plan the meals and the weekly food shops but otherwise he would get too many snacks! 😂

My ex DH was completely hopeless in the kitchen and would moan if he had to even make himself a sandwich for work!

Turbottimes · 28/01/2025 15:15

When my husband cooks it’s elaborate, takes ages and he likes to add lots of chillies so the kids won’t touch it. He then gets cross no one appreciates his brilliance.

I usually choose to cook to avoid the above.

HeddaGarbled · 28/01/2025 15:15

No one in this house would bother making a sticky toffee pudding, but normal meal provision, yes, no problem. We tend to take it in turns.

Thisiswhathings · 28/01/2025 15:14

Yes he can , no problem.

JC03745 · 28/01/2025 15:14

The roast- Yes
He doesn't normally make cakes/pudding, so he likely wouldn't even know where the cake tins etc are kept.
He's just go a buy one if needed 😆

foreverbasil · 28/01/2025 15:14

Of course, excellent cook. I couldn't imagine being attracted to a man who couldn't

OpalFruitsYay · 28/01/2025 15:13

Anything more complicated than beans on toast, no. And he wouldn’t even clean up after - just leave the stuff in the sink / on the table.

PermanentTemporary · 28/01/2025 15:13

DP can. He's an excellent cook and enjoys it, does dinner half the week, bakes and stuff. He clears as he goes and the kitchen is immaculate afterwards. I regard this as decent grown up functioning rather than anything that exceptional tbh.

My late dh was sometimes a perfectly decent cook (and made brilliant jam and marmalade) but fuck me he made heavy weather of it at times. Not bad at clearing up, it was more the NOISES.

justmadabouttheboy · 28/01/2025 15:11

He's my XH now, but no...not a chance. There'd be major tantrums, shouting and slamming about and I'd have to go in and rescue it/him to make sure we all got fed. And on the odd occasion he did manage to make something nice we never heard the end of it...

TheaBrandt · 28/01/2025 15:09

Yes he is an excellent and tidy cook but my god he is slow. So slow. He cooks at weekends only and does laundry in week or we wouldnt eat until 10pm

SpeedyMcNobhead · 28/01/2025 15:08

Yes. My DH cooks 5 nights out of 7 anyway and he ALWAYS does the Sunday roast.

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