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Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

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Oyoh · 28/01/2025 15:08

For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

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Notaflippinclue · 28/01/2025 15:30

No

YeGodsandLittleFishies · 28/01/2025 15:30

Well no to the roast and the sticky toffee pudding but then we don’t eat that kind of food.

He doesn’t cook anywhere near as well as I do but he can put a meal on the table without trashing the kitchen or losing his cool. I’d find either of those very unattractive.

Knockgour · 28/01/2025 15:30

He does all the cooking for the household. I bake, but I'm not that interested in cooking. He's away for a week for work, and has left a freezer full of things to reheat because I have a lot on.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 28/01/2025 15:30

He can feed us. He can't cook.

He's far too adventurous when he tries to cook - for example, giving chow mein "a twist" by adding peri peri seasoning. Oh, I made beef stew but I tried putting lemons in it.

FFS man, give me beans on toast if you want (minus the adventurous devilled anchovies or truffle-whelks or whatever).

He would probably strike on a genius combination one day, but I can't endure the "monkey bashing a keyboard" approach to flavour in-between.

Much prefer him to stick to the classics.

Autumndayz77 · 28/01/2025 15:28

My DP is an excellent cook. He even tidies
Up as he goes along (which I really struggle with). He wouldn’t cook a roast tho as he didn’t it stressful pulling it all together at the end.

mitogoshigg · 28/01/2025 15:28

Not a chance! He can just about make spaghetti bolognaise and that's inferior to mine and takes so long.

He retires soon so I will be getting him to make meals from Gousto as they are pretty idiot proof (the easier ones at least, not ones that involve the food processor Grin)

He makes up in many other ways so I'm not complaining

Woppa · 28/01/2025 15:28

Yep, whereas I would trash the place. All our friends of a similar age (late 20s / early 30s) have the same dynamic - the men do the cooking.

Nannyfannybanny · 28/01/2025 15:28

Yes,he does a lot of cooking now he's retired. He wouldn't make a sticky toffee pudding. We rarely have any kind of pudding.when we do , maybe in an afternoon,where we have had an early Sunday lunch,he has perfected microwave sponge pudding. It could be syrup,jam,pear or pineapple, then being more like an upside down cake.

Seaside31 · 28/01/2025 15:27

DH is a great cook so yes to the roast 👍🏻

Neither of us would usually make any kind of dessert so he’d be unsure but if someone wanted it he’d get a recipe and give it a good go 🤷🏻‍♀️

Generally speaking, he’s better at cooking savoury and I’m better at baking.

We’re both “clean up as you go” types in the kitchen fortunately so it’s never too chaotic. Usually one of us cooks and the other does the final clearing up after if we’re both home.

TimPat · 28/01/2025 15:27

My husband is the king of meal prep, it's not uncommon to get up and find him with a pot of soup or chilli on at 6am to be portioned up and frozen. He enjoys cooking and is better at it than I am so I let him crack on. The only thing he doesn't do is baking.

FamilyPhoto · 28/01/2025 15:26

He can do a main meal no problen and washes up as he goes along.
He can put a sweet together but I do any actual baking as I enjoy it.
My late DDad was a fantastic cook, baker and loved to make fudge ect.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 28/01/2025 15:25

DH cooks every night for us, he cleans up a bit as he goes and then I do the "proper" cleaning up after dinner
works perfectly for us, he loves to cook and finishes work earlier than I do, I like cleaning up with a podcast on

notatinydancer · 28/01/2025 15:25

Yes absolutely.
He does all the cooking.
I can cook and enjoy it but he likes doing it , he does it when people come round as well.

MumChp · 28/01/2025 15:25

Oyoh · 28/01/2025 15:08

For example could he make a roast dinner and sticky toffee puddding without trashing the kitchen, pestering you for help/asking where things were and without losing his cool?

Yes!

emsyj37 · 28/01/2025 15:25

Yes, I've never made a roast, we have a Sunday roast probably once a month and he always makes it - he also cooks Xmas dinner. He can bake, he could make a pudding and often bakes a cake or biscuits at weekends. He makes excellent home made bread. He can follow a recipe and enjoys cooking.
What he is no good at is meal planning - so I tend to plan what we'll have, shop for it all and then just send him a link to the recipe so he can make it. He probably does 50% of the cooking but none of the meal planning or food shopping.

Nellieinthebarn · 28/01/2025 15:24

DH could do a roast, but he wouldn't make a pudding from scratch. His cooking and cleaning skills are 'good enough' rather than excellent, but he is very good at things I can't do at all, so no complaints from me.

MsSquiz · 28/01/2025 15:23

DH could definitely do that, although he would use every possible pot, pan and utensil. He would also load the dishwasher afterwards.

He regularly cooks a lot more than I do as he enjoys it

Mountainhowl · 28/01/2025 15:23

Absolutely, I haven't cooked a meal for years, OH is better at it and generally enjoys it more.

Fawn87 · 28/01/2025 15:23

No. I do the majority of the cooking. There's a few meals we will have that he likes to cook. Sticky toffee pudding isn't something either of us would make from scratch.

anothermnuser123 · 28/01/2025 15:21

He cooks fine, doesn't usually bake much so the sticky toffee pudding I would be a bit unsure about how good it would be first time but he would give it a go. But he could find a recipe and follow that.

But meals, of course, he is adult so would be concerned if he wasn't capable of making a meal without having his hand held.

He does more of the cooking than I do at the moment as my health has been lousy.

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · 28/01/2025 15:21

Nope. But we have very different diets so eat separate meals anyway. The most cooking he does is frying a sausage or making rice in the microwave.

Hello39 · 28/01/2025 15:21

The roast, yes. I'm sure he'd manage the sticky toffee pudding, he doesn't bake too much now I think about it.
He would clear up (usually) but there would be some stuff left undone.

Iwontlethtesungodownonme · 28/01/2025 15:19

Yes to the roast, no to the pudding but pudding is not something we usually do.

TheGiantMillipede · 28/01/2025 15:19

nope, not a chance🙄

gamerchick · 28/01/2025 15:17

Mine does the vast majority of the cooking. He likes it and he's in before me.

He takes such a long time though, likes making faffy dishes but he cleans up after himself.

If I come in starving and he hasn't started yet I do something quick for myself. I don't have 2 hours in me if I'm hungry. Reheat what he makes the next day.

He's mint my husband.

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