Can your husband cook without a big fuss?

Yes - everyone should be able to cook and clean up after themselves.

Yes dh cooks 3-4 times a week. He also makes soups to freeze, cleans the bathroom and loves cleaning ovens and windows 😅

I would have to argue that my DH does the best steak pie on the planet!!! But happy to have a pie tasting competition just to be sure 😉

DHs is a steak and ale pie but uses a strong dark coffee stout. It is AMAZING. We had it at weekend with a puff pastry lid, cheese and chive mash and green beans 😍

If he struggles, then clearly he needs a lot of practice. He should take over cooking and cleaning up for at least a month.

DH used to ask me over and over how long it took to boil potatoes. I knew he did it because he didn't like boiling potatoes and didn't especially like eating them either. So I wrote POTATOES TAKE ABOUT 20 MINUTES TO BOIL BUT KEEP AN EYE ON THEM on paper in huge writing and put it on the wall. He got the message. You have to fight these stupid behaviours with other stupid behaviours IMO.

He also used to ask me where his passport was. That's why his folder in the filing cabinet says DH YOUR PASSPORT IS IN HERE.

My exH and I used to share cooking fairly equally. He was quite happy to spend hours grinding spices for a curry. We had a pretty equal relationship around housework etc. I did more when I was a SAHM as I had the time but back to 50/50 when I went back to work. Still surprised he fucked off with a woman from work!

A roast, certainly, and most other things, and he makes almost all our bread. He cooks more often than I do. He doesn't make desserts, but then he wouldn't care if he never ate one, and I enjoy baking, so that seems reasonable. Of course, he could follow a recipe for sticky toffee pudding if necessary.

He also gives the lie to the nonsense that I often hear, that men not cooking is a generational thing, as he's in his late 70s.

Roast dinner and sticky toffee budding? No way. Some chicken and rice? Yes.

Same here.

I tend to think (and willing to be shot down here!) that GENERALLY (!) men prefer cooking as they can just throw stuff together and women prefer baking as it's more structured?!

If I'm cooking I tend to use a recipe / cookbook as I like to follow instructions, whereas DH will just do whatever comes into his head (occasionally he'll glance at the basics if he's doing something new). And annoyingly it always turns out really well! Whereas if I get one teaspoon of an ingredient wrong I start to panic 😂

Happy to be proven wrong and know that won't apply to all men and women before anyone comes for me! Just something I've observed 😊

Yes can cook and bake does all the fancier cooking in the house .Also when we were younger and skint could rattle up some amazing meals from odd ingredients in the house.
Does use way more dishes than I do but then will spend hours making a stock which I've never done .
My ds also has great skills in the kitchen .

Happily single now but I’d find it incredibly unattractive in a partner if they were unable to cook at least basic dishes.

Yes, he can do a roast dinner easily. He’s never done a sticky toffee pudding but it wouldn’t faze him to look up a recipe if he fancied making one. He does the BEST steak pie on the planet.

I do the majority of the cooking but DH can cook, not sure he'd be able to make a sticky toffee pudding though! He does make more mess than me, he hasn't mastered the art of clearing up as you go!

BF not DH but yes, he cooks much more adventurous things than me and enjoys it e.g. I'd use curry powder but he'd make his own spice mix.

Yes my DH is a great cook, he also bakes bread and makes pizza from scratch.

The remarkable thing though is that when I met him he ate four things (pasta, chips, burgers, pizza) and didn't cook at all - he has taught himself over the years (with some, ahem, encouragement from me). He meal plans, does the shopping, cooks, washes up. I also do these things, we just muddle in as and when. That's as it should be IMO.

I have a friend whose husband never cooks. She dislikes cooking, but has to do it for the family every single day. How she doesn't strangle him I don't know. I sort of like him as a person but I consider him very very selfish to expect his wife to serve food up to him every day. I can't respect him because of it.

Yep! Dp quite often says thinking of going to a butcher, getting a joint and doing a roast this Sunday? What meat do you fancy?

I'm sure he would do the sticky toffee pudding if asked but if he was doing the roast I'd attempt to make the sticky toffee pudding.

Oh yes, absolutely. My DH is a great cook.

I find it a bit of a turn off if a man can't cook, or faffs about like an idiot in the kitchen!

No. He doesn’t enjoy cooking. He finds it very stressful. He is very good at tidying up after himself though. I really enjoy cooking so it is one of my jobs.
I don’t think I could keep the garage tidy and do the gardening without a lot of commotion but he enjoys it so it is one of his jobs.

Yes he does pretty much all of the cooking and washing up for the last couple of years, he just cracks on and does it, he does mostly French cooking and bread making as thats what he grew up with but if we were craving sticking toffee pudding he’d just look up the recipe and do it

Yes to the roast and frequently does. He cooks about 75% of the dinners nowadays.

Neither of us have ever made a from scratch STP and probably never would, but we're both quite capable of following a recipe, so could do it if the need arose.

Actually, I forgot, he doesn't do desserts other than a victoria sponge or trifle, so I do those!

Yep my DH does pretty much all the cooking in our house and just gets on with it. He is a far better cook than me and enjoys it. He tidies as he goes along but will do the washing up and put everything away once we've eaten.

My jobs are to put a wash on, sort the dogs out, hang the washing out to dry and put all clean clothes away.

That's our after work / evening routine (before sitting down to watch TV) and works for us 😊

Yes, he's a very good cook for the most part. Doesn't always follow recipes, and was responsible for the worst meal I've ever tasted, but he's made some really good meals as well. Much better at a roast than me too, I'd just use bisto gravey, but he's not keen so will make it from scratch himself. He is a very messy cook though, but give him his dues, does tend to do most of the clearing up.

He cooks but doesn't do the 'what are we going to have for tea?' thinking very often.

He can and will happily do the thinking about, shopping for and cooking of roasts, cooked breakfast, omelette, stir frys, fajitas, spag bol and BBQs.

He has some kind of mental block on making soups, stews, pasta other than spag bol.

He is a perfectly good cook but doesn't want to every look up a new recipe. He just glazes over. It's not his thing.

He's baked a cake once, happy to eat a cake I make, but would just buy one if he wanted one. Also the contents of the baking drawer would just annoy him as it's arranged the way I like it. Or, as he would say, thrown in at random.

I still get asked every night 'what's for tea?' - most times I say I don't know and leave him at it. But run the risk of getting his default frozen fish and chips dinner.

He's a very tidy cook. I'm less so...far less so.

I can look in the cupboards and will put together something tasty and healthy without too much bother - he needs the ingredients in for the things he can cook - if you see what I mean.

I think I need to have a think about why this prompted such a long post from me...

Cooking dinner yes, baking a dessert no. The former is a vital life skill, the latter is a leisure activity / hobby if you enjoy it.