I have a close friend of nearly 20 years who has always been a bit up and down. We work in the same place for context.
Lately I am coming home drained and unhappy after work due to her behaviour.
She says (when she is talking to me) she has depression and mental health issues from childhood trauma but won't get help, won't see a GP, won't take anti depressants, won't get therapy. I am tired, just so bloody tired.
Every Saturday lately I m struck with a full on migraine including sickness and need a day in bed. I can feel the stress building up through the week.
I know I sound like an awful person but aibu to just distance myself until she does get help? She's snappy and unprofessional at work now and goes days without talking to people. Our line manager is noticing now.
On the other hand she can be lovely, generous and I have had so many laughing till you can't breathe moments with her.
I am 57 with adult dc and thought I d be living a peaceful life now but I feel like I m stuck and 14 in year 9 not knowing how someone will be at school that day.
She s in her 40s and also cares for her disabled mum so I get it's hard but I don't think I can help anymore.
Every morning before work I wonder what I ll be dealing with and it's not even as if it's my job (which I love)
Help!