Aibu to hate the way I look

I know you don't feel it but you are actually above average lovely. You don't need to change a thing but you need to find a way to believe. Ask your friends and family what they think! Maybe a makeover would help as long as this isn't a serious mental health problem, if it is that then you need to get some help because this is eating away at you and will come between you and your beautiful children. Wishing you love and hugs

You're not ugly, you have body dysmorphia. No, so-called face transplants are just for the seriously maimed / deformed, and as for a facelift, you've got nothing to lift yet; nothing's sagging. Get back into therapy and try to address why you've come to believe things about yourself that just aren't true. For example, why do you straighten your hair? Who told you that straight is better than curly?

The beauty industry takes us all for mugs. Get wise to it.

What the fuck have I just read. You look amazing woman !

I don't think you need to change anything but maybe your on a rut so could try out some new loos maybe?

What about some layers and some loose curls in your hair with a bit of volume if you always straighten your hair . Might be a fun change

A few little lowlights to add some dimensions

Curtains bangs are all the rage

People rave about microbladed eyebrows and say they really make a huge difference to thier face

Get yourself a new outfit that you feel good in

Get your nails done even just painted clear if you don't like nail colours

Face masks and hair masks weekly and a lovely body lotion

And always hand a stunning perfume on that always lifts you

Drink loads of water and good diet and keep your home tidy

Start a new hobby

And tel yourself everyday in the mirror out loud that you are beautiful inside and out. It's a process until you stop feeling silly doing it

I just want to reiterate I don't think you NEED any of the above but think you might benefit from it as maybe a good change is all you need

I would ask for this post to be removed OP as you don’t know who is on here IRL and they may recognise you.

You absolutely aren’t ugly. You have lovely sleek, shiny hair, lovely big eyes, full eye brows, clear skin to name but a few. People would give their left arm to look like you.

You’ve got to remember that photos we see online have generally got filters or to get one good photo, they’ve had to take 10 in total.

A good make up technique can also work wonders and transform someone from basic to gorgeous. Look at some of the cat fish videos where the woman looks nothing like they do once they’re painted their face.

99% of us look normal/average. Only a tiny minority look like a Victoria secret model and even then, they aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. I don’t think Bella Hadid is attractive 😳 I’m sure she doesn’t care what I think of course but objectively, I think she’s strange looking and not at all what I’d ever want to look like.

Beauty is subjective.

Mumsnet tends to make peoples mouths and egos to big

OP you look great as many others have said, I think you have some self esteem issues which you need to work on more than your actual physical looks.

How are pure green eyes boring? They're one of the rarest colours! 😍

Op if i looked like you, it would be an upgrade! You are objectively pretty, i think only therapy will fix how you feel tbh, keep going with it

You are lovely, I understand you can't see this though.
Is therapy an option for you?

Think logically for a moment.

What would you be saying to another woman who showed you a photo of themselves?

Who told you green eyes are boring? Why do you think they are boring? True green eyes are only seen in 2% of all people so they are rare and desirable.

What is it you think needs to be swapped? Dark hair? Why? Most people have dark hair - what makes that unattractive or problematic?

If you don't think these things are a problem in other people, why are they a problem for you?

Body dysmorphia is a serious MH disorder and needs specialist treatment. Have a look here for some guidance and support: https://bddfoundation.wpenginepowered.com/support/support-in-the-uk/

I don't think it matters what anyone tells you, it's you that has to believe it.

You look absolutely fine and also well groomed - I can only imagine you are holding yourself up to some impossible standard that no normal person could meet.

You look perfectly fine and lovely to me OP

OP you are stunning. I agree this isa mental health issue.

You look great. You have beautiful eyes. Mine are hooded with lashes that point down. I would love my eyes to be like yours. You're lucky to look like that, not ugly in the slightest.

The only thing I'd change as a personal preference would be to get your brows shaped, change your lipstick and maybe experiment with waves/curls in your hair.

It's hard to accept it but you don't look anywhere near as bad as you think. This is all a mental thing. Please try hard not to criticise yourself in front of your kids (especially if you have girls). The last thing you want is for them to be like that to themselves.

You look lovely. What would make you shine though is to get happy/ smile more then your eyes would light up. Is it really about how you look? Objectively there is not one thing wrong with you.

I agree that you need help. I'd say that you are, objectively, pretty. Certainly not ugly (and I speak with the voice of experience here, I've got a huge nose (remarked on by strangers, it's that big), no chin, thin hair, small close-together eyes and terrible teeth. Now, THAT'S plain! You have youth on your side too. Please don't ruin your most beautiful years worrying about how you look. In fifty years time you will look back on photos of yourself as you are now and compare how you were with how you are and wonder what you were thinking of.

You aren't ugly. I look naturally awful very pale often have spots and my hair is so thin and flat. I wear hair extensions and get my eyelashes done every 3 weeks and I look so much better espically my hair I feel like it changes your whole face. Maybe try something like that as you do have a pretty face and it may make you feel better. X

I think the issue is in your mind, not on your face. Objectively you are far from ugly.

Continue with the therapy as there is no actual issue with how you look. I don’t think this thread will help you as no amount of reassurance will make any long term difference to how you feel about yourself. That has to come from you.

You aren't ugly at all OP, there is nothing wrong with how you look. I know you have already sought therapy, but I'd urge you to have more and try and work on this before it ruins your life completely.

In the meantime, how about trying a new hairstyle? You could try something shorter and style it with a bit of a wave so it looks fuller. I don't think you need to but it's just a suggestion.

Op, the fact you have 3 dc, and one a toddler is exhausting. Most mothers wouldn't even put make up on with all of this on their plate. You look really friendly, and approachable, beautiful big bright eyes. Do you have a dh/bf, if so I hope he is complimenting you. More importantly though confident comes from within, and shines through.

I think the fact you have the confidence to post a picture of yourself shows that deep down you know what you're saying isn't true. Most people who felt the way you're saying wouldn't even look in the mirror. I think it is such a good sign that you've taken a selfie and put it online. Definately have a chat with your gp about some possible CBT. If I saw you, I would never know you felt that way about yourself; you look sociable, and lovely!

Oh and I think you look effortless, natural not overdone eyebrows are back as well; I think they're fine! Not too much makeup, honestly you look great. I don't think you need to change a thing! Your hair imo suits your face shape, it looks good long like you have it.

It is subjective anyway!!