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To think not RSVPing to a birthday party but still turning up is rude?

31 replies

Somesome · 28/01/2025 07:15

Why do people think not sending an RSVP and then turning up or replying the day before is acceptable? Yes there are RSVP deadlines on the invitations.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 28/01/2025 07:19

Answer is not to tell them the details until they have replied. Just enough for them to be able to RSVP.

Onemorespoon · 28/01/2025 07:17

Some parents are just plain rude/lazy!

MotherOfCats25 · 28/01/2025 07:17

Had loads of people do this at my kids party even though they knew o was paying per head, put me off doing it again!

Mumdiva99 · 28/01/2025 07:17

As long as the host has pre-emptively ordered a personalised magic bag and vegan pizza for all the possible guests then it's not rude.

healthybychristmas · 28/01/2025 07:17

There was a thread about this involving party bags. Did you read it? The mother didn't RSVP and was livid that her child didn't get a party bag.

44PumpLane · 28/01/2025 07:16

I agree with you!