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To think DP is being selfish

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kiana2015 · 27/01/2025 23:28

We've just moved home, I would like to get a couple of bits for the house, new rug, curtains etc, the bits I've picked doesn't amount to more than £200. I was about to buy and my DP insisted I wait until payday which is 2 weeks away, baring in mind he had just spend 400 on a new gaming set up and spends about 200 every 2 weeks on pints after work.
Aibu to think he's being selfish

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kiana2015 · 27/01/2025 23:33

username299 · 27/01/2025 23:31

How did he know you were about to pay? Was he peering over your shoulder?

No, I had the tape measure out and was telling him I'm just double checking measurements before I buy

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ComtesseDeSpair · 27/01/2025 23:32

Surely it’s up to you what you spend your money on? You both have allocated “spending money” after you’ve paid your bills, yes? He’s spent his on what he wants, you can spend yours on what you want.

It’s not your job to bail him out when he overspends. If this is a regular occurrence you’ve made a major mistake tying yourself to a house with him. I’d be looking to fully separate your finances and move out. Preferably break up, as well.

username299 · 27/01/2025 23:31

How did he know you were about to pay? Was he peering over your shoulder?

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kiana2015 · 27/01/2025 23:31

pikkumyy77 · 27/01/2025 23:30

So now you know: whats his is his and whats your is his. You need to have a serious talk about joint and personal money.

Well I was going to use my money actually but I'm pretty sure the reason he's saying no is because he knows his money will run out and need me to bail him out like most other months

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PullTheBricksDown · 27/01/2025 23:30

Time to take a good look at how much spending money he has every month and how much you have. Not that house stuff is just for you.

pikkumyy77 · 27/01/2025 23:30

So now you know: whats his is his and whats your is his. You need to have a serious talk about joint and personal money.

Anonymous2003 · 27/01/2025 23:29

What a manchild, is this really all you'll settle for

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