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To think this isn't a funny joke and be disappointed in DD

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jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:33

DD1 (24) and DD2 (22) were sitting on the sofa together and DD1 showed DD2 her phone and they both burst out laughing. I asked why they were laughing and DD1 said just a message she had sent a guy she was talking to. They were talking about some celebrity and he said she was a 10/10 which led to this

DD - what am I then
Guy - 11
DD - You're a 9
DD - And together we are a fucking disaster
Guy - That might be the sexiest thing I've ever heard, well done
DD - Thank you

AIBU to think it wasn't a funny joking and this guys reaction was weird or is this just what young people are like now?

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BabysittersClub · 27/01/2025 21:42

My BIL was in the WTC on 9/11 and his mother, my husband's mother saw the second plane hit the tower. It took my BIL almost a whole day and a night to get home. We all thought he was dead.

It was just a joke, an attempt at flirting.

CountessWindyBottom · 27/01/2025 21:42

Oh for goodness sake! It’s a bit of flirty banter between two young people. There are a lot bigger things to be clutching your pearls over!

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jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:42

MissUltraViolet · 27/01/2025 21:40

It's not funny but it's just young people flirting and being silly.

Did you ask to see their conversation?

I asked what they were laughing at having no idea it was a text conversation, DD showed me voluntarily. If she had said it's a convo with someone I wouldn't have pressed.

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Livelaughlurgy · 27/01/2025 21:41

I wouldn't joke about it but I saw it happen on tv. For them it's history, it probably doesn't feel real.

OverthinkingOlive · 27/01/2025 21:41

I'm crude, immature and very hard to offend but I hate "real event" jokes. Especially about 9/11. Not funny.

takealettermsjones · 27/01/2025 21:41

jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:36

She was saying he's a 9 and she's an 11 - so 9/11 ... a disaster.

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Oh, that went over my head. I couldn't fathom what was up at first.

I think you should stay out of it. Plenty of people use dark humour. It may not be your thing but it doesn't mean she's a psychopath.

comedycentral · 27/01/2025 21:41

jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:38

I asked DD to clarify and she said she was referring to 9/11

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Crikey, I'm not sure what he finds so sexy. Maybe it's the dark humour? Some people find this attractive. I'd leave them to it.

MissUltraViolet · 27/01/2025 21:40

It's not funny but it's just young people flirting and being silly.

Did you ask to see their conversation?

StarDolphins · 27/01/2025 21:40

Never in a million years could I get offended at this!

fatgirlswims · 27/01/2025 21:40

MyUmberSeal · 27/01/2025 21:38

Maybe in poor taste (if that’s what they were alluding to) , but in all honesty I wouldn’t give it a second thought. They were flirting and connecting and all that stuff. Not the stuff of losing sleep over.

Agree

Some battles are not even worth thinking about

What i would say at 22/24 is different to 45.

MummytoE · 27/01/2025 21:40

Lighten up

Smithhy · 27/01/2025 21:40

Well 9 & 11 does resonate with a disaster.

Might not be to your taste, but it’s a joke.

Alalalala · 27/01/2025 21:39

Bloody hell, leave them alone.

MyUmberSeal · 27/01/2025 21:38

Maybe in poor taste (if that’s what they were alluding to) , but in all honesty I wouldn’t give it a second thought. They were flirting and connecting and all that stuff. Not the stuff of losing sleep over.

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jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:38

comedycentral · 27/01/2025 21:37

I don't understand what they meant, are you sure they mean 9/11 the terrorist attack or are they just saying weird texty nonsense?

I asked DD to clarify and she said she was referring to 9/11

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Needmorelego · 27/01/2025 21:38

@jbirdy that is a weird joke (if that's what it meant).

comedycentral · 27/01/2025 21:37

I don't understand what they meant, are you sure they mean 9/11 the terrorist attack or are they just saying weird texty nonsense?

YoungGunsHavingSomeFunCrazyLadiesKeepEmOnTheRun · 27/01/2025 21:37

It didn't happen in their lifetime. Where we remember exactly what it was like, they have just read about it.

I don't really find it funny, but it's 2 youngsters making a joke about a historical event. Hardly uncommon.

Icanflyhigh · 27/01/2025 21:36

Say what now??

None of that makes any sense!

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jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:36

Needmorelego · 27/01/2025 21:35

I don't even understand what they meant?

She was saying he's a 9 and she's an 11 - so 9/11 ... a disaster.

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Needmorelego · 27/01/2025 21:35

I don't even understand what they meant?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 27/01/2025 21:34

It’s obviously just a joke you didn’t get, which is fine as you aren’t involved in the conversation. Why are you bothered?