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To think this isn't a funny joke and be disappointed in DD

147 replies

jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:33

DD1 (24) and DD2 (22) were sitting on the sofa together and DD1 showed DD2 her phone and they both burst out laughing. I asked why they were laughing and DD1 said just a message she had sent a guy she was talking to. They were talking about some celebrity and he said she was a 10/10 which led to this

DD - what am I then
Guy - 11
DD - You're a 9
DD - And together we are a fucking disaster
Guy - That might be the sexiest thing I've ever heard, well done
DD - Thank you

AIBU to think it wasn't a funny joking and this guys reaction was weird or is this just what young people are like now?

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Anonymous2003 · 27/01/2025 23:02

Jesus Christ, back off mum.

Gggglinda · 27/01/2025 23:00

most of the young people flirt with banter / dark humour these days, especially online.

2025willbemytime · 27/01/2025 22:59

You don't have to be alive to understand how terrible something was. There's footage every where, books, documentaries etc.

TheBoots · 27/01/2025 22:57

Anon501178 · 27/01/2025 22:48

I'm with you OP.....too many people go around laughing stuff like this off and making offensive 'jokes' and get away with it.Celebrities like Jimmy carr don't help.I would be letting DD know how disappointed I was in her for joking about such a horrible tragic event, and if she doesn't know about how awful it was maybe she needs to be watching some videos to be educated about it.Or visit ground zero which is a very humbling experience.

Unclench. I watched 9/11 happen, cry when I watch a documentary about it, and have visited Ground Zero. And I found her joke witty!

Anon501178 · 27/01/2025 22:48

I'm with you OP.....too many people go around laughing stuff like this off and making offensive 'jokes' and get away with it.Celebrities like Jimmy carr don't help.I would be letting DD know how disappointed I was in her for joking about such a horrible tragic event, and if she doesn't know about how awful it was maybe she needs to be watching some videos to be educated about it.Or visit ground zero which is a very humbling experience.

Viviennemary · 27/01/2025 22:46

It was in poor taste and not a bit funny.

Ottika · 27/01/2025 22:45

What I can't get my head around is why anyone would make a post about this on the internet. It's just so...nothing.

Greyish2025 · 27/01/2025 22:45

jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:36

She was saying he's a 9 and she's an 11 - so 9/11 ... a disaster.

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It was a silly childish insensitive thing to say but as neither of your DDs were probably even born at the time of the event they might not understand how awfull it was at the time….hard to believe it was that long ago, seems like yesterday

Ottika · 27/01/2025 22:44

It's just play, teasing, young boy, young girl, surely people remember that?

It isn't funny because it wasn't meant to be read by other people. It's intimate and just a bit of harmless fun.

Phones are a fucking travesty.

2025willbemytime · 27/01/2025 22:43

If this had been my children I'd be having a word.

My 23 year old son has recently been to the 9/11 memorial and found it very upsetting so I'm confident he wouldn't be so stupid as to joke about something so terrible.

Too many times people are let off because of how old they are when they need to be told they are out of order.

Cantrushart · 27/01/2025 22:40

I got that completely wrong. I assumed OP was in the US and they meant 911. But I guess that would have been an emergency, not a disaster.

SallyWD · 27/01/2025 22:37

Quite a clever joke. Mind your own business next time.

HipToTheHopDontStop · 27/01/2025 22:35

jbirdy · 27/01/2025 21:36

She was saying he's a 9 and she's an 11 - so 9/11 ... a disaster.

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That's kinda funny. What's your problem?

BigDeepBreaths · 27/01/2025 22:35

YABU to be disappointed in your DD, yes! Honestly, wise up.

strawberrycrumbles · 27/01/2025 22:26

It's a private joke, nothing to do with you.

You do know you can laugh about ANYTHING, just not with anyone?

You are being ridiculous to be "disappointed" in your DD, are you always so dramatic?

MonochromePig · 27/01/2025 22:25

Think this is a perfect example of ”fuck around and find out”.

SallyWD · 27/01/2025 22:24

CountessWindyBottom · 27/01/2025 21:42

Oh for goodness sake! It’s a bit of flirty banter between two young people. There are a lot bigger things to be clutching your pearls over!

Indeed

Pigeonqueen · 27/01/2025 22:23

You remind me of my Mum getting offended over something similar when dh and I started dating. It was so cringey of her and really caused a lot of bad feeling between us all when it was clearly meant to be a joke. Just let it go!

Dita73 · 27/01/2025 22:22

You need to unclench. It’s really not a big deal

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 27/01/2025 22:21

I'm in my 60s and it made me laugh.

I remember being in Belfast and our taxi driver made a joke George Best and the Titantic - one was a fucking disaster and the other one sank. That made me laugh too.

BoredZelda · 27/01/2025 22:21

That's quite witty. It wasn't making fun of 9/11. It was referring to it as a disaster. Which it was. Where's the problem?

booisbooming · 27/01/2025 22:20

AmiablePedant · 27/01/2025 22:17

Oh come on, do you really think the Gen Z kids invented dark humor?

Ever met a guy called Shakespeare?

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It's amazing what Shakespeare invented, isn't it? People don't realise that "jet fuel can't melt steel beams" is actually from Henry V.

Katbum · 27/01/2025 22:18

If she made the joke to you it would be reasonable to be offended. She didn't. You are not involved in this and making this thread is a very strange way to deal with your lack of centrality. You do not have to find jokes not told to you funny. People usually aim humour to a target audience. Seems like it landed.

AmiablePedant · 27/01/2025 22:17

Crushed23 · 27/01/2025 22:15

This thread reminds me of my fling with a 21 year-old last year. Him and his friends have a similar sense of humour. Got to love the younger end of Gen Z. 💜

Oh come on, do you really think the Gen Z kids invented dark humor?

Ever met a guy called Shakespeare?

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · 27/01/2025 22:15

9/11 was horrible. I will never ever forget watching it happen and the sense that the whole world had changed. I was 13 when it happened and it was absolutely unfathomable.

But come on! To the youth of today it’s probably like the Vietnam war or the miner’s strike or Chernobyl or Diana’s car crash or JFK being killed. Something you vividly remember as important and shocking if you were alive and old enough to form memories but if you weren’t, it was just something bad that happened to other people a long time ago. Thats a good thing though because it’s testament to human resilience.

Comedy = tragedy + time or whatever the saying is!