Grandparents “Names”… do we get a choice?

My lovely FIL was Grumpy as that's what he'd called his Grandad, who he adored. Then when the elder kids were 7/8 he became "Smiley Grumpy" because the kids decided grumpy wasn't accurate.

Over the years the kids called him Smiley Grumpy, Grumpy Grumpy, Noisy Grumpy (when he was trying to learn drums), Very Happy Grumpy (when his horse won a race) and on one occasion when a weirdly huge number of birds shat on his car all in one day "Very Angry Grumpy"

Having worked in schools for 20+ years one thing I can say is that I've never heard a child tell a story about a Grumpy that hasn't been lovely and indicative of a very doting Grandad.

If mummy wasn't bringing up my grandchild to say please and thank you, I doubt we'd be close enough for it to matter.

Mummy will love you for that.

Let the child decide. My grandson decided what he wanted to call me and I love it. He calls his grandfather by his first name, same with his great grandfather. He decided what he wanted to call us and it works perfectly :)

I think this is what happens: your child will decide and probably it’ll be something weird that no one’s thought of

We have a grumpy🙂 you won't give a shit what they call them when the baby is here

In my case, because I'm not on first name terms with my parents. It would be strange for my child to say Jane and Tom when I say Mum and Dad. I didn't want to change to first name terms when my first child was born.
Now of course it's the Gran and Gramps type names in front of the children and Mum and Dad otherwise. It would be odd to do first names in front of the kids and relative names in private!

I'd have more of an issue with yiur assumption that your child doesn't say please when asking Grumpy for something. That would make me a very grumpy grannie and I'd pull the child up every time. "Doesn't mummy teach you to say please?".

My dad wanted to be called Pops at first, but then he thought about it and decided that Grandad was better, it’s what we called his dad.

My first Grandchild had so many real.and step grandparents, on his mother's side that I ended up without a Grandma name . ( I am his paternal grandmother) . So as there were none left ..so I chose the first letter of my name and - anni . So I am Janni , and that's now what all my other grandchildren call me . I rather like it.

We also have Danish relatives. They have Morfor ( mothers father) Mormor( mother's mother) Formor, ( father's mother) and Forfor ( father's father) for grandparent names . I think those are good also

We ( British family) also have Marvi and Farvi in our family.( Not sure why but it works) . It feels quite special to have ' non grandparent' names

It’s fine the child will call them whatever they want anyway, my dad got called ducky despite us always referring to him as grandad and my mum even got called suz for a while when my son was about 3 which baffled us all because she isn’t even called Susan/ Suzanne?! Roll with it, as long as they answer to the name baby will be fine with it!

We have Nanny and grandad. I’d have preferred grandma and so would MIL but SIL decided on nanny and it would be a bit strange to have cousins calling them nanny and our children grandma!

My friends dad is Crumple.

You might find no one gets a say, my friend ended up being called NooNoo as the first couldn't say nana, it's stuck and rest called her that too...coincidentally her husband is Grumpy😂

I used to call my gran Marmite for fun, she was Gigi went she became a great grandmother

My MIL kicked up a fuss about certain titles. DS had his own ideas and called them something completely different and quite random. There was no moving him.

My mum didn't care either way but she was and is A Nee Nee 🤣

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I think it’s cute OP. My DDad was Grandad Crisp because my eldest Dnephew said it incorrectly, then it stuck.

I'd tell him it's fine, provided he doesn't live up to the name.

Maybe get him to explain why he likes that name, considering the connotation is that he'll be miserable.

Why not just use their proper names.

My PILs have stupid names for themselves which I internally roll my eyes at every time my son uses them. But it's their choice entirely.

If it helps, my 7 year old calls my Dad “Grumps” for the exact same reason, he’s grumpy 😂
Her other Grandad wanted to be called Grandpa but she couldn’t pronounce that when she was little so she called him PomPom….. we all still call him PomPom to this day.

I asked both sets of grandparents and went with their wishes. One set was traditional, the other more nicknames. Grumpy wouldn't bother me, it'll lose the negatives you feel for it when the child starts saying it. It'll be sweet, unique to them and a family name.

i'm a new nana... and SS and DIL wanted a particular name for me which i disagreed with, and my own DD had a baby and they wanted a different name..

i'm afraid i told all of them.. i'm nana, and GP is Pops... and then whatever both GC decide to call us moving forwards i'll stick with.