Grandparents “Names”… do we get a choice?

OMG my dad is grumpy and even the teachers at my children’s school ask if ‘grumpy is doing the pick up today’. It started as a joke when the kids were very small, with my DM calling him grumpy all of the time for being a grumpy so and so, and it stuck as the kids started using it too. My ILs, kid’s friends and their parents, the school patrol lady, swimming teachers all know him as grumpy. I even have him as grumpy in my phone now!

I refused to let my children call my MIL Mama as it's too similar to what they call me - mamma (I'm Swedish). The compromise is "Mama first name". So I think we should sometimes have a say?! But in your case, I think just leave it be and wait and see what your child decides to call him.

I much prefer the swedish way where you're mormor/farmor/morfar/farfar (mor meaning mum, far meaning dad so mum's mum, dad's mum etc) and that's it.

My daughter couldn't pronounce grandad when little and came out gandad which for some reason ended up gandalf and that just stuck so now it's nanny and gandalf

This made me laugh.

My FIL is a Grumpy (not by choice). I've always heard my nieces and nephews calling him that and never thought it was weird. My toddler will be joining in soon.

When we have a baby we are going to call DH’s dad Grumpy…because he is! Granny and Grumpy 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have a heap of siblings.

My mother gets granny, granny P, nana and nanny depending on which grandchild/family is addressing her.

She answers to them all and it's not confusing.

My MIL said she was too young to be called granny so she asked to be called Nanny. My kids are in their 20s and I have a little laugh to see my bearded big son talking about his nanny 🥰

MiL who is NOT posh, but wants to be, asked to be called Grandmother. I think she thought she was living in Downton Abbey.

We referred to her as Granny and she never said a word.

Nod. Smile. Refer to them as whatever.

my dad is GG, which stands for grumpy grandad, it’s even his email address and I think it’s lovely .

My dad was Grumps to my children...he didn't choose it though, it just sort of morphed from Gramps, then Grampy Grumps, to just Grumps. He was Grumps for the best part of 30 years 🥰

If you were ever so toxic around my child you would never see them again, grandparent or not.

My dad wanted to be grumpy, my mum a random nickname and my mil gran. Mil was already gran to 5 other grandchildren but first grandchild my side.

My daughter decided grandad, nanny and grandma, so it all went out the window. It may change.

Chances are nobody will have a say! My Mum and Dad would have been nanny and grandad. My son has always called my dad Da (dar). No idea why but obviously my daughter followed suit and now we all call him Da.

26 and 30. Fortunately DS's wife is lovely and well mannered.

No one especially liked Nana, so we easily got out of that one. My MIL expressed the opinion that DS would not be able to say Grandma L...(L being her first name) and Grandma J...(J being my mum's name). I didn't engage with this to avoid discussion. DS did - of course - manage the 3 grandparent names Grandma J..., Grandma L... and Granddad.

I remember feeling very similar when I was pregnant with dd, it felt like such a big thing! I did draw the line at my mum wanting them to be called Oma and Opa. We have zero German heritage in our family, there was just no logic!

How old are your kids, I wonder? Are you really saying you'd give up on your grandchildren if they weren't raised to your own values and standards? You might have a few shocks coming.

Judgemental grandparents tend to reap what they sow when it comes to relationships.

My dad was Grand Pappy B mainly because I did not want him to have the same name as the paternal grandad who was Grandad.

I think it’s endearing, they are excited. Don’t burst their bubble.
Think if you chose your title mummy/mammy/mum/mam etc and everyone said you were ridiculous and wouldn’t refer to you as it infront of your child. So instead saying eg ‘there’s lovely smiles you are giving your mummy’ they said ‘there’s lovely smiles you are giving Ma’ because they preferred it. It will feel the same to them if you take their chosen titles off them.

I think it’s quite sweet, my Mum refused to let mine call her anything but her first name because she didn’t feel old enough to be a grandparent at 55!
it’s weird hearing mine call her by her first name and my dad by ‘Grandad’

My DF, FIL and MIL insisted before our DS came along that they would be known by their proper names (Not Grandad John but just ‘John’ for eg). My nearly 2 year old has completely disregarded their efforts and has decided that they’re called Pops (they play with bubbles a lot) and Gigi for my DF (genuinely no clue why) - my MIL has got her wish though and tbf it’s quite funny to hear from the mouth of babes etc ‘Hello Wendy’. None of the above options would have been my choice, but turns out I have absolutely no say in the matter and toddlers have very specific opinions 😂

We are Opa and Omi, (though thanks to a badly engraved keyring, I am also known as Emu 😊).

I wouldn’t give it too much thought. Your child will call them what he or she wants to call them, regardless of what’s been ‘arranged’. MiL wanted to be ‘Nana’, which I loathe, but it turned out that DS insisted on calling them all by shortened forms of their first names from toddlerhood. 😀

Of course you get a say. I can’t stand “Nan/Nana/Nannie”. It’s so twee and sets my teeth on edge so there was no fucking way I was allowing anyone to be called that 😆

I thought I was going to be Granny, dgs calls me Gangan years after he could pronounce Granny so I think it's stuck. When I used to read Dear Zoo to him he would always respond to "camel was too grumpy" with "like Grandad" though😁Your little one might have their own idea of the names he uses anyway, dgs calls my son and daughter Babar and Bomba which is nothing like their actual names.