Wrong to tell Dd her leg could fall off

God I say stuff like that to my nephews all of the time. I told the oldest tonight if he didn't stop picking his nose it'd fall off. They find it funny. ( They're 6 & 8)

I would have probably give her a real consequence, like if you continue to pick these spots you will have scars, or they will get infected and it will be very sore.

Said this to all my boys at some point too, and pretty much every mum of boys i know have as well 🤷🏼‍♀️ keep pulling it and you will pull it off. Stops them for a wee while but not completely

Extreme for such a young child

Sorry i am guilty of this 😕 my 5 n 1/2yr old is terrible for biting his nails right down, I’ve told him he will end up needing to get his fingers chopped off, never mentioned with what though. And in my defence the doctor has said it too when he had to get puss drained from his finger blistering round(whats left) of his nail. Tried everything to get him to stop

I’d just apologise to her op and explain why it happened. I’d also buy some hydrocolloid plasters and put them on. They’re v sticky so not easy to remove or pick, and they speed up healing.

Cut her nails super short, i mean really short so she can't pick at them. She might not like that but she'll have to put up with it until she'd older.
Don't beat yourself up about it, you sound like you were just frustrated

My eldest told my son that if he kept tugging his Willy it would drop off and they can’t necessarily reattach it - that’s what happened to her.

he was 5/6 but stopped immediately.

silly thing to say but talk about scar, distraction etc and keep it light

Meh, it's not that bad.
When my son was diagnosed with type one diabetes at the age of 7 I told him if he didn't have his insulin he'd die (he was refusing many times) Now that's Brutal.

Cover her legs as much as you can eg bandages or tights.

Oops! I think that many of us will have said similar things. Your DH shouldn’t have got that cross but would be reasonable to point out that it wasn’t a good thing to say.
With my DCs, I cut fingers nails very short, use petroleum (makes their fingers oily/ messy and puts them off).
Also keep the legs covered by wearing leggings.
Epsom salt baths and moisturise with petroleum jelly.
This might be too much but … I also explained to mine how scabs are formed and made them feel sorry for the poor white cells and blood cells and skin cells who were all trying to fix the broken skin but had to keeping starting all over every-time that the scabs were picked off.

In my experience kids know you're only joking when you say something like this, she'll be fine.

At 6? Maybe I did believe it?
But the end result did comments like that actually so me much harm? No?
This why kids these days are snowflakes and grow up with 0 resilience and cannot cope with anything.

It’s completely true. She could get sepsis and her leg have to be chopped off. She needs to stop picking the scabs and if that comment does it then good for you!

Did you believe things they said generally though? Or take everything with a pinch of salt?

I don't think anyone says that now though as its easy enough to be honest and say your pulling a grumpy face - that's annoying.

I'm biased,
Because my leg did get infected,
Went green,
Nearly had to have it chopped off from groin down 😂
However, this is something my parents would have said to me when I was younger and it didn't damaged me.

Its a bit silly as she'll probably figure out you lied and if you make a habit of it it will reduce trust. I'd talk to her and say look that falling off thing I said is very rare but you can have a cut that's gets infected and would be very painful.

Laughing at all the perfect holier than thou parents on this page who have never said so much as "if you don't brush your teeth they'll drop out"

I don't see an issue with what you've said - it was factually correct even if unlikely.

She has to learn the consequences of things and sometimes with kids it has to be the extreme consequence for them to even get it

'If the wind changes your face will stay like that'

We all come out with ridiculous stuff occasionally, especially when we're worried. You quickly retracted it though and presumably apologised? So not your finest moment, but I don't get why your dh got so angry with you. That seems like more of a problem to me.

Fwiw, my dd went through a similar phase and they did genuinely get infected. That wasn't enough to stop her picking, she had to keep her legs covered pretty much at all times for a few weeks until they were fully healed up

Really not a big deal she'll have forgotten all about it when the spots have gone.

Tbf if ot got infected and went septic it could technically happen. Very unlikely mind but if we're trying to justify it.... 😆

I think the problem is that you do t normally say such things.

I'm always telling my kids their body parts will fall off/ be chopped off/ go green and mouldy, so they don't take it seriously...!