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I THINK I FINALLY HAD ENOUGH

34 replies

Number40 · 27/01/2025 18:15

For the last 3 days I’m down with what I assume is a flu. I have a temperature, cold chills, nausea, extreme fatigue, I’ve been bedridden for the last 48h, sleeping basically nonstop and feeling like this is closest to coma I could get. Every trip to the toilet was climbing an Everest. Today is the first day I can actually function a bit. I can sit down instead of laying down, still can’t walk or stand more than a few seconds and HE has the fxking audacity tell me today to go and cook DS (4) some noodles and when I said that I physically can’t he said that I HAVE ZERO MORAL RESPONSIBILITIES?! If I wasn’t so fatigued and weak I would seriously stab him in the ribs!!

Not much of a drip feed - he’s the type that thinks everything is my fault, I do everything wrong. DS loves him so much but seriously I can’t do this anymore

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Evenstar · 27/01/2025 18:24

@Fencehedge I thought perhaps he might be an ex who doesn’t live with them, if that is not the case then absolutely he should be looking
after him.

RoastDinnerSmellsNice · 27/01/2025 18:23

Yes, definitely sounds like the flu OP, and while I normally wouldn't wish that on anyone, I'm afraid I'd be giving a round of applause if you came back and said that your DP/DH has gone down with it, it would serve him bloody well right! What a selfish person he is! He's the one with zero morals if he doesn't step up and feed your child while you're this sick, even if he's not the father. What an arsehole! Hope you get shot of him as soon as you're better, ideally while he's suffering the flu!

Fencehedge · 27/01/2025 18:22

Evenstar · 27/01/2025 18:19

Who has been looking after your child? I presume there is a back story, but perhaps he is concerned about the child’s welfare? Could you get a family member or friend to make sure your child has a proper meal?

Why can't the fucking father pull his finger out?!

Fencehedge · 27/01/2025 18:22

Tell him to shove the noodles up his arse and prepare for divorce.

MissUltraViolet · 27/01/2025 18:20

Hope you’re feeling better soon OP…so you can pack his bags for him.

Evenstar · 27/01/2025 18:19

Who has been looking after your child? I presume there is a back story, but perhaps he is concerned about the child’s welfare? Could you get a family member or friend to make sure your child has a proper meal?

Number40 · 27/01/2025 18:18

TallNeckedGiraffe · 27/01/2025 18:16

Is he the father of your child?

Yes he is

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Shouldbedoing · 27/01/2025 18:17

Get yourself better then get shot of him. He's supposed to have your back

TallNeckedGiraffe · 27/01/2025 18:16

Is he the father of your child?