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To think people with terminal illnesses should be allowed to choose assisted death?

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ByPoisedOliveMoose · 27/01/2025 18:07

If someone is suffering with no hope of recovery, shouldn’t they have the right to end their life on their own terms? AIBU to think assisted dying should be a legal option for those with terminal illnesses?

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MereDintofPandiculation · 27/01/2025 18:50

Yes, so let's properly fund palliative care, then maybe talk about assisted suicide. And how are you going to maintain quality of life for someone with dementia? Someone whose life has revolved around their intellect and their ability to help others?

ThejoyofNC · 27/01/2025 18:49

Mingenious · 27/01/2025 18:32

I’m actually pretty disgusted that 1 in 5 people who’ve voted so far don’t agree with you.

Of course you are NBU.

And I'm pretty disgusted that people think they should have the right to have someone else kill them.

MereDintofPandiculation · 27/01/2025 18:48

So why not just take an overdose of something rather than put that burden on the state? Because it's difficult to obtain those drugs. Quite recently a woman had to suffer a police search and confiscation of the drugs she had ordered online.

Remember you only hear about successful suicides. You don't hear so often about the unsuccessful ones.

Upstartled · 27/01/2025 18:48

This seems to come up every other day now. Are we to be harangued into agreement and told we are mean and should kindly ignore the shit show in Canada until the third reading?

MereDintofPandiculation · 27/01/2025 18:45

ThejoyofNC · 27/01/2025 18:24

Technically anyone can end their life at any time. Why should someone have to do that for you?

Because you may no longer be physically able.I knew a man who ended his life as soon as he had his cancer diagnosis. a fine man, of great value in the community. If assisted dying were available, he would not have felt the need to die so soon.

NotOneOfTheInCrowd · 27/01/2025 18:43

Assisted dying is the road to eugenics.

At the moment people say “you wouldn’t put a dog through that,” once terminal illness becomes legal it will be “you wouldn’t put a cancer patient through that,”. Then they’ll fight for mental illness, (there are already people on other threads who say things like “when assisted dying for mental illness becomes legal,” and then it will be disability.

Anyone who thinks it won’t be open to coercion is naive.

And really, why do you need the state to end your life? Everyone has the ability to commit suicide don’t they?

From what I gather, the bill is going to make it possible to have the drugs, but you’re going to have to be able to take them independently. So why not just take an overdose of something rather than put that burden on the state?

MereDintofPandiculation · 27/01/2025 18:42

So because someone is terminal, they should just die straight away? Have I missed something? Is someone suggesting compulsory euthanasia for the terminally ill?
How about actually providing quality end of life care? Can't we do both? Indeed, if we weren't keeping people a;ive against their will, we might have an easier job providing care for the rest.

NutellaEllaElla · 27/01/2025 18:38

CraftyNavySeal · 27/01/2025 18:33

Yes you can live for years, but the final months and weeks can still be awful.

It shouldn’t have to be an either or. People should be able to get palliative care and then choose to die.

I do agree that palliative care is not adequate as it is and assisted dying might make it even less of a government priority though.

Yes, so let's properly fund palliative care, then maybe talk about assisted suicide.

CraftyNavySeal · 27/01/2025 18:33

Shityshitybangbang · 27/01/2025 18:27

I am being treated for cancer stage 4, luckily it’s curable. People don’t realise you can live years and even be NED when in pallivite care. Even with palative chemotherapy, it’s widely known as maintenance chemo now.
I understand for people with no quality of life eg MND as it progresses, you should have a choice.

Yes you can live for years, but the final months and weeks can still be awful.

It shouldn’t have to be an either or. People should be able to get palliative care and then choose to die.

I do agree that palliative care is not adequate as it is and assisted dying might make it even less of a government priority though.

Friartruckster · 27/01/2025 18:33

If I understand correctly, pain management now at end of line operates within a thin line between elevating pain and hastening end of life just by the very nature of the drug prescribed.

Mingenious · 27/01/2025 18:32

I’m actually pretty disgusted that 1 in 5 people who’ve voted so far don’t agree with you.

Of course you are NBU.

Hazey19 · 27/01/2025 18:30

Having seen and being present with close loved ones slowly dying when they didn’t want to be here I 1 million percent agree. Traumatic for everyone particularly the person dying. I wholeheartedly support assisted dying if this is what the person wants and they have capacity.

Upstartled · 27/01/2025 18:30

ThejoyofNC · 27/01/2025 18:20

Does the UK have a good track record when it comes to not fucking things up then?

Switzerland's health service isn't breaking at the seams and its social care isn't up against the wall. Imagine thinking that the financial and social landscape of people making assisted dying a reality here to be akin to Switzerland - it's breathtakingly naive.

EmeraldDreams73 · 27/01/2025 18:29

I don't know a single person who doesn't think it should be allowed, very obviously with appropriate safeguards. There's certainly plenty to debate around the legal framework for it, but I'm in favour.

So many of us have witnessed loved ones in prolonged and agonising terminal illnesses that nobody should have to suffer. Yes, palliative care should be focused on and improved. But that doesn't take away from the fact that sometimes they just can't do enough to give someone more than continued and painful existence. I'd be interested to hear what medical professionals think; every nurse I've ever met has told me they too wish they could help people once it gets to a certain point.

I pray that if and when I'm in that situation, I will be allowed to choose the point of no return and be given some dignity around it. My daughters are well aware of my wishes, and I am well aware of my own mum feeling exactly the same.

Shityshitybangbang · 27/01/2025 18:27

I am being treated for cancer stage 4, luckily it’s curable. People don’t realise you can live years and even be NED when in pallivite care. Even with palative chemotherapy, it’s widely known as maintenance chemo now.
I understand for people with no quality of life eg MND as it progresses, you should have a choice.

Tisthedamnseason · 27/01/2025 18:26

So because someone is terminal, they should just die straight away?

I appreciate some people are against AD, but it's disingenuous to suggest that anyone is saying that people with a terminal diagnosis should all immediately just die.

PensionConfusion24 · 27/01/2025 18:25

It's never this simple though. What's a terminal illness? If you were diagnosed with MS tomorrow you could say you were terminally ill with a progressive disease. But should you be able to end your life at that point? If not, when? Personally I think if you start allowing that, you're already starting to imply that's a life not worth living, and that's very problematic.

Tisthedamnseason · 27/01/2025 18:24

NutellaEllaElla · 27/01/2025 18:12

You know how we don't allow capital punishment because of the risk of one innocent person being killed? Same with this, the risk of people being pressured into it, being afraid of being a burden, is too high for me. Furthermore, it's too 'easy' for medical professionals/the government to resort to rather than provide decent palliative care.

Out of interest, are you against things like advance directives to request no attempt at resuscitation, because of the risk of being pressured etc?

I'm aware it's different because AD is "active" whereas not resuscitating someone is more passive. But still, it could result in the death of someone who has been pressured into it.

ThejoyofNC · 27/01/2025 18:24

Cynic17 · 27/01/2025 18:21

Exactly this. My life - my choice.

Technically anyone can end their life at any time. Why should someone have to do that for you?

FaithFables · 27/01/2025 18:23

ThejoyofNC · 27/01/2025 18:15

So because someone is terminal, they should just die straight away? How about actually providing quality end of life care?

As soon as you allow AD for one group of people, you have begun the slippery slope. Take a look at the likes of Canada to see where that slope leads.

Did you miss the word "option" in the OP?

Cynic17 · 27/01/2025 18:21

HermioneWeasley · 27/01/2025 18:17

I would extend it to any progressive illness with no cure. If I am diagnosed with dementia or muscular dystrophy I want to be able to choose the point when life is no longer worth it for me.

Exactly this. My life - my choice.

MajorCarolDanvers · 27/01/2025 18:21

I’d rather we focussed on a better end of life. Good palliative care.

too many things can go wrong with assisted death.

Cynic17 · 27/01/2025 18:21

Of course they should. I'm not even sure why we have to wait for an illness to be terminal, tbh.

ItsYourMoneyRalf · 27/01/2025 18:20

there is a bill going through parliament on this very issue

ThejoyofNC · 27/01/2025 18:20

HermioneWeasley · 27/01/2025 18:18

People always point to Canada as an example of fucking it up. And they have. But Switzerland have been operating this for decades with very effective safeguards. I don’t want to have to die even earlier because I want some dignity in dying but have to be well enough to travel to Switzerland to make it happen (plus the cost).

Does the UK have a good track record when it comes to not fucking things up then?