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6 year old using the word "babe".

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anaiapl · 27/01/2025 18:06

My 6 year old DS attends a youth club for primary school children for 1.5 hours on a week night.

The leader has just called me to say he wants to speak about some "concerning" behaviours displayed by DS. He says he acts like a child three years older than his age, and that it is constant.

He says he is tactile (cuddly, wants to hold hands etc.).

He referred to one of the leaders as "babe".

DS is a very, tactile child and love to be close with people. We have a very open dialogue about consent and asking people before hugs etc., but it seems this needs some more work.

He said that "babe" is inappropriate for a child his age. DS will be repeating this as I often refer to him as this, as does his grandmother.

The call really caught me off guard, the way he was speaking was as if something serious was going on DS and that it may be social services worthy.

Do you agree?

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anaiapl · 27/01/2025 18:29

He has now called back to say DS has been talking about knives and guns. I'm mortified.

He has minimal screen time at my home, and it's all monitored.

However, at his dad's I know he plays Roblox and that has a sonic (?) game that does say for ages 3+ but has shooting.

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fairycakes1234 · 27/01/2025 18:29

I think it's hilarious a little kid saying babe, but obviously tell him he has to call them by their name, regrading hugging, not sure where he thinks hugging etc is for someone 3 years older, if anything surely its more little kids that would do that....he sounds like an idiot and I wouldn't worry.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 27/01/2025 18:25

Is this a religious youth club? I wonder if they take a hard line on anything interpreted as 'flirting'

They are unreasonable

takealettermsjones · 27/01/2025 18:21

Sorry, youth club.

takealettermsjones · 27/01/2025 18:21

I call my kids every endearment under the sun and babe is definitely in there. Just tell him that when we're at school we use people's names.

I do think 6 is old enough that he shouldn't really need more work on respecting boundaries though - he should understand the idea of personal space. I can understand the school seeing fit to call you if he's making other children uncomfortable.

I don't think SS would be concerned though, absent any other issues obviously.

MumChp · 27/01/2025 18:20

Just ask your child not to use Babe? I wouldn't fancy being called that at all by a 6 yo.

JLou08 · 27/01/2025 18:16

I called my children babe too. Nothing wrong with a 6 year old being tactile as long as they respect other people's boundaries. Sounds like the youth club are massively over reacting.

Ablondiebutagoody · 27/01/2025 18:15

Besides informing you, what was the point of the call? Did the leader ask you to do anything? Did they say that they were going to do anything?

AccordionedWhileMallBurned · 27/01/2025 18:09

'Babe' is an awful, infantilising endearment and I would discourage anyone from using it to anyone else, whether adult or child.

Printedword · 27/01/2025 18:09

I'd report the youth club to the school and pull my child. What the youth club have said is extremely strange.

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