I am 3 months post partum and having a few stress incontinence issues which I'm seeing a physio for and doing kegals and it's slowly improving but it's making sex really difficult for me just now because although all has been fine so far I'm spending the entire time we do it hoping I don't leak and trying not to and hoping it's over soon just in case.
Dh is getting frustrated because it's child number 4 and we've always been back to normal straight away and he doesn't understand why we're not back on track yet even though he knows the situation but the added pressure of him constantly asking is literally killing my libido.
I'm 41 and just want to recover, I had a ventouse delivery and lots of painful stitches and he kept asking when, when, when and since the stitches have healed he just wants me to be back as we were but I'm feeling so pressured its making me dread bedtime and I'm worried I'll never actually enjoy it again if this is how it is, I feel like I'm just letting him and not enjoying it and feeling quite dirty after because deep down I just don't want to but I know he has needs too and I don't want him to look elsewhere.