I have a friend who I've known for the best part of 30 odd years. I wouldn't say we were particularly close but we see one another fairly regularly.
Last year on a night out, after we'd had a couple of drinks he started talking about something that had a happened a few years ago. He didn't say when or what it was, but alluded to the fact that something traumatic had happened to him. Immediately, a few of us were concerned and asked a couple of questions but he didn't want to say much more than it was something awful, and that he didn't know how he'd got through it. When we were talking later on, I said that if he wanted to talk it through then I would be there to listen. I followed that up with a text message a few days later , but he came back and said he didn't want to talk about it yet, but he'd let me know when he did.
Since then, we've met up a few times, and he hints around the subject every time, but never says any more. I've tried staying quiet to just allow him to talk, asking vague questions, asking not so vague questions, being completely direct and asking him to tell me about it, but he never says anything more.
I totally respect his right not to give me any details if he doesn't want to. It's none of my business and I've got enough of my own stuff to deal with, I'm beginning to dread meeting up now, because it's bound to come up again but with no resolution. I should probably add that every time it's brought up I begin to feel quite anxious as I don't like to think about what awful thing could have happened
I feel bad about getting annoyed with this and I feel like a bad friend but would it be awful if told him to tell me what it was or not to bring it up every time we see one another?