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For asking to be put on the mortgage?

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Isthismykarma · 27/01/2025 15:55

Posting for friend.

Friend has been with her DP for 2 years, she moved into his place 1 year ago. Not married, no children. Before that friend lived at home with parents.

Her DP has a shared ownership owning 70% of the property and 30% owned by a housing association that rent is paid to. Her DP pays the mortgage and they split the rent and bills. Because of this friend has managed to save a chunk of money.

Her DP eventually wants to buy more shares of the property but has never mentioned my friend being a part of this. He saves a little every month but realistically wouldn’t be able to mortgage the whole property even if he did get enough of a deposit to (need 5% of the remaining value).

Friend was wondering if it’s cheeky to ask him if she could be put on his mortgage then she would happily put down the money for the deposit and they can jointly own the whole property - no more paying rent. They could speak to somebody who can help them ring fence her DPs current equity and her deposit and then pay the remaining mortgage 50/50.

YABU - this should be led by her DP and she will see grabby
YANBU - it makes sense

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Haha I she was asking me about it and I just said I’ll post on here if you want and she said yeah alright

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Would any of those factors changing, affect your opinion? They have spoken of becoming engaged this year, and both do want children in the future so there may come a time when they do get married and/or have kids.

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SoupDragon · 27/01/2025 16:00

They've been together 2 years. No way would I do this if I were him.

SummerInSun · 27/01/2025 15:59

It's not cheeky to float the idea. He may not realise she has that level of savings, or think it's grabby to ask her to use them for this. But they would need to be clear what this means. Is it a sensible financial arrangement that means they will jointly own a property that will appreciate in value and be able to stop paying rent? Or is it the first step in spending the rest of their lives together?

Either way, if they do it, they both need proper legal advice and to work out whether they own it jointly or half each. What happens if they split up? What happens if one of them dies?

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