For asking my husband to stop sharing his live location with his sister?

Are you sure you want to have a baby with this man? He sounds immature and enmeshed with his family, and you are far from home. What would be your rights if you wanted to return home with the baby?

I'm in two minds about this. My DH, DC and I all have location sharing and so I'm not someone who is against it in principle. So on the one hand, I think it is up to your DH who he chooses to share his location with.

But we rarely use it, and when we do it's for purely practical purposes like checking how someone's journey is going and when they are likely to arrive etc. Definitely not out of idle curiosity, which is weird and I wouldn't like at all.

On balance, given that you are also being tracked by association, YANBU to tell your DH to switch off sharing with his sister when you are together. What he chooses to do when he is out alone is up to him.

You all sound equally hard work and about 15.
Her with the tracking, him with wanting to smoke weed daily and you with the OTT response to a comment she made.

You're being tracked by default when you're with him. Perfectly fine for any individual to allow themselves to be tracked. But it's not ok for one individual to make that choice for a couple. I wouldn't like it at all & I'd ask him to disable location services while I was with him.

He sounds immature and a bit odd with an odd intense relationship with his sister. The weed smoking (just the fact he wants to smoke it daily and jokes about it behind your back) would be enough to not want to be in a relationship with him. I'd leave them to it and bin him off. Don't have a baby with this loser.

I would certainly say we are not telling her about ivf which means you can’t come to the hospital since she will see the location and ask, and that means I probably don’t want to do ivf if I can’t have your support.

I’m with you OP. Not sure there is much you can do to stop it, but I’d be putting my foot down on the medical appointments. Or he doesn’t come.

also, your husbands dialogue with his sister, referring to you as “she”, was disrespectful. That’s clearly the dynamic they have. She’s the fun one. You’re the stick in the mud that stops him having fun and drags him off on silly road trips.

I'd advise the man not to have any children with someone who feels she says what she "let's" him do.

She’s constantly pulling at threads in your relationship because they’re there for all to see - you husband is giving out as good as she’s giving and so he’s also part of the problem. Frankly it doesn’t sound like it’s a match made in heaven for either of you and there’s a fundamental issue with his relationship with his sister that’s not going to change just because you dislike her? Plus all this drama between you and his family isn’t going to suddenly disappear if you have a baby together.

Your SIL doesn’t like you much by the sound of it, or maybe just likes teasing your husband about you. Maybe you’re upset about that.
But you can’t tell your husband not to share his location, that’s his choice.
Changing your mind about going to dinner with someone who’s expecting you, with no notice, is really rude , BTW! The problem is not her tracking you.

Well it’s entirely up to him.

Wanting him to delete so you can lie to his family isn’t really a good enough reason…

"Won't let him"

Eeeshhh

“Utterly disrespectful”. Really? Sounds like fairly innocuous ribbing from a sibling who hasn’t built a firm relationship with you yet. Keep going with this kind of rigid resentment and you never will. As I get older I am firmly of the stance of not looking for trouble”. I find my life goes much more smoothly.

Most of us aren't threatened by our partner's relationship with their sibling. We don't feel in competition with them. I'd worry if it was his ex in most cases, not his sister.

Do you feel as if you should be the most important woman in his life?

Your reaction to going out in the snow example was so monumentally over the top. Maybe she was just wishing him luck going out walking/driving in snow?? You spoke to both of them about this? My god you sound hard work.

I don't think you can start a relationship with someone and begin insisting on them installing 'boundaries' (an incredibly cringe term overused by people) on their pre-existing relationships. His sister was there before you and she'll be there after you too.

Well yeah, keeping track of what people are doing is the whole point of tracking them

I think that is the line he doesn’t cross. It is not her business when you go for confidential appointments. Ask him to turn off his location, it’s really invasive.

I hate all the location sharing. My husband shares his with me when he goes trail running. So I suppose if he had an incident I could guide the rescue services there? I don't even have my teens and teens location share. Having said that, you can't control someone else's choices. But I would say I'll go by myself to the hospital if I didn't want his family to know (I don't mind because they are very nice, I'd feel differently if they annoyed me!)

Sharing your location doesn’t keep you safe if you are walking your dogs alone in the woods.

Surely it's up to his husband who he shares his location with. I don't think you can tell him not to do it if he wants to.

I don't share my location with anyone and wouldn't expect anyone to share theirs with me. It's totally weird.

But I don't really understand your objection. You were OK with it but now you aren't.....?

I think it's weird, and it might be up to him but by default she then knows your location a lot of the time too. I wouldn't ever share my location with anyone, it's really intrusive to me. Even more so with people who aren't even part of your household.