To think I could get sacked?

Work means they understand and are reluctant to start disciplinary proceedings but you need to step up when you are at work. Or take time off sick for a week or two if you can't. Because work can't ignore this. You need to play by the book.

In short. Yes. They could fire you for misconduct or capability.
Best bet is to tell them you've been suffering from MH issues, ask for support and accountability and promise you're going to knuckle down.

This is the bottom line OP.

You either need to get signed off, or pull yourself together and start delivering. You can't carry on doing a half-arsed job or you WILL be sacked. Sorry if that's harsh. I hope things get better for you soon.

As pp have said, get yourself signed off for a couple of weeks, just to get your head together. Sorry for your break up x

I don’t think you’re going to get the reassurance that you want from this post. You really need to be speaking to a workplace rep if you have one, HR, your bosses, your GP. Focus needs to be on getting your head straight rather than worrying about this. Maybe use some annual leave if you can’t afford sick pay?
You can’t continue as you are- it would be better for you to take time off work that to continue to receive full pay but not be able to do the job.

I think you need to get signed off or do your job. I can understand how difficult it is but if you cannot afford sick pay, you need work. You cannot not work during your hours and expect your salary without doing your job.

Have you checked your contract re sick pay? In some places it's statutory only but many companies have better policies where your pay is protected for a number of weeks.

is taking annual leave for a few weeks an option to get breathing space?

You need to check your employee handbook or online equivalent to find out their sick pay/sick leave policies. Depending on your company, you may have a very generous sick leave policy, or one that limits you to statutory sick pay (which is a pittance).

Have a look at your company policy or speak to your Manager or HR, you should be entitled to sick pay. Your GP will sign you off.

I am sure they will have an employee assistance programme who can also support you.

If the sick leave is a no go, do you have holidays that you could put in?

Have another honest chat with your Manager.

I've been on both ends of this. A marriage breakdown that rocked my world, and a Manager supporting people through it.

Of course there is a point when we have to start pulling ourselves together, but generally the more open you are about the struggles you are having, the better everything will be.

They sound like they are sympathetic, but they'll need openess and honesty from you to keep that. Along with a general, well here's what I'm doing to work on it.

It all depends on your work's sickness policy. Nobody here could possibly know that. All the best.

I am not saying this to be harsh, but you need to quickly come to some serious decisions. They are being sympathetic for now, but that cannot last for ever - you cannot continue to draw a full wage and not put in the full effort, so matter how hard things are for you right now. So you either need to go off sick and take some time to recover, or you need to double down and pay attention to your work, be in work when you should be and stop making mistakes. I get it, I really do - it's a horrible thing to be going through. But you can't afford for it to get worse, and losing your job is getting worse.

I agree with others that taking some sick leave is probably best, but if you genuinely can't afford that, then you have to pull yourself together - or at least enough to get through the working day. Once the working day is over is your own time and if you need to cry, throw things, or whatever will help you deal with the emotions, you can do any and all of those things for the rest of the day.

Sounds like you are not fit for work right now, that's what sick notes are for. Get back to the GP, explain you can't manage work and are at risk of getting sacked so you need to be signed off whilst you get yourself together.

To keep your job I really think you need to be signed off for a while. Discuss this with your manager who is also between a rock and a hard place. Logging on randomly is not going to work - they need the situation resolved and sounds like will work with you to do this. If you cannot afford time off you certainly cannot afford to lose your job which is probably what will happen if you carry on like this.

You need to check sickness policy. Some pay ssp only, some full or half pay in stages before ssp. Could you take al?

If you can't afford to lose your job then you have to take the shorter term financial hit of sick leave to get yourself better

You could perhaps talk about reducing hours for a while rather than full sick - that might see you with more cash but you must get better or you will be up shit creek

I’m sorry OP. Talk to your doctor about burnout. Get a medical note. Stay off for a few weeks. You can’t just randomly log off and turn up late. Try and keep an open dialogue with work.

I think you need to ask the dr to sign you off

I’d recommend taking time out, whether annual leave or sick. Sick leave may be paid or poss ssp, depends on your company.

Take sick leave or could you go into the office? Honestly getting outside, moving around, being around other people listening to the gossip, getting a hug from a work
friend, having a tea round - it might do you heaps of good.

And then you may feel distracted.

Worth a try?

That depends in your sickness policy and the flexibility of your manager to be able to over ride it. You have my deepest sympathies, been there, although it was 10 not 20. For me, I needed to go to work to DO something not stare at the walls, my manager asked me if I was sure, but agreed, and I know he was keeping an eye on my well being. You can't work right now, we're all different. You will get through it, but need to take care of yourself. Your employers do sound nice though. Talk to them.

If you continue to be late and log off randomly, it will become and issue which they will have no choice but to action.

You are much better off in taking sick leave/see GP etc. If you need it. However, a routine may be good for you under the circumstances.

As a friend of mine said recently "he may have ruined my marriage but he's not ruining my career, health or anything else".

I am sorry OP for everything you are going through & I echo what the other posters have said for you to talk to your Manager and get signed off by your GP. You are grieving a 20 year old relationship and this is not something that can be processed overnight. You need time & no doubt you also need to have conversations with your ex. Pls look after yourself x