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Neighbour war who is right

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ByTealShark · 27/01/2025 08:52

14 years ago we put a 6ft fence up neighbour agreed it went in the boundery where the previous council fence was. Posts his side ( which i now no should of been our side. ) when we wanted a new one he refused so we didn't go ahead. This man is a bully who you cannot reason with he has been violent in the past and is very controling . I have just came out of an abusive marriage so im finding this triggering . Part of the fence blew down and i went to get it repaired no cost to him as its the right thing to do as we origionally paid fully for it to be put up with his agreement .The lad who came to quote was looking at the job and the neighbour told him he was not allowed on his side to repair it and every one i hire hes never happy with apparently none are ever qualified ( they are as i always check them out 1st ) i went round to talk to him after he posted a note through my door saying its his responsibility as posts his side . But then it said the owner of fence is liable to pay to be fixed well i am the owner. He told me to go and get the stuff and basically only he can do it. I do not agree with this as if my fence its up to me who i hire but if he wants to take full control then he can pay as he never helped with the cost at all when it was put up . I wanted it done quickly due to having autistic children and 2 dogs . How can you resolve something when its his way are no way i find him very intimidating and i shouldnt just roll over to keep the peace cause he bullys people.

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Drollie · 27/01/2025 09:44

Put your own fence on your own side.

DustyLee123 · 27/01/2025 09:28

yep, take the panels down and leave the posts, then put a new fence in on your side.

heroinechic · 27/01/2025 09:23

I'd remove him from the conversation entirely and have a new fence put up a few inches or so into your boundary. Not cheap but you wanted to replace the whole thing anyway. It does mean losing a few inches of your garden but at least you don't have to deal with him on the issue anymore.

BrightYellowStar · 27/01/2025 09:09

Are you friends with any farmers?

It seems you have some goats/sheep etc to look after for a few days. What a shame the fence is broken - it means they will have access to his garden. Oh well - you DID TRY to get it repaired....

Whyherewego · 27/01/2025 09:00

Just get the stuff and repair putting post your side on the repair bit and setting it back 1 inch from boundary. Fence may be a bit wonky but problem solved

CockSpadget · 27/01/2025 08:57

SoupDragon · 27/01/2025 08:54

TBH I would put up a new fence on my side of the boundary but that isn't a cheap option.

I agree, I would just sacrifice some of my garden to put up a new fence, rather than have to deal with his bullshit.

ComtesseDeSpair · 27/01/2025 08:57

If you own the fence then yes, it’s your responsibility to maintain it if you want it intact. You can hire whoever you want to do this, it’s nothing to do with your neighbour. If this is a council / ex council property (you mention a council fence) then you can contact the council and have them relay this to him, and warn him about being obstructive, But no, he doesn’t need to allow anyone into his garden in order for this to be done, so whilst he’s clearly being awkward, you’ll need to find a way of having this done from your garden only.

SoupDragon · 27/01/2025 08:54

TBH I would put up a new fence on my side of the boundary but that isn't a cheap option.

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