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Could your family move past this?

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Reu · 26/01/2025 22:31

BIL slapped the back of my sister’s hand because she was changing songs by touching the car’s centre screen. He slapped it without saying a word and then explained it was impacting his field of view. They were not fighting.

How would your family respond to such an incident?

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bradypuss · 26/01/2025 22:37

The drip feeding extras would ring alarm bells but it's not your buisness

Teenagerantruns · 26/01/2025 22:37

Why are the whole family involved? It's up to your sister to decide what to do

Songlines · 26/01/2025 22:36

Done so casually in front of you? Makes you wonder what goes on when there are no witnesses.
I once had a brutal black eye following face planting the pavement. I will never forget the kind colleague who took me to one side and quietly asked if there was anyone I felt unsafe with. I didn't but if I had needed someone to talk to it could have been a life saver.
Please ask the question.

Closetheblinds · 26/01/2025 22:36

Reu · 26/01/2025 22:34

He was very angry almost vitriolic when explaining his action

In that case he needs to be gone. If anyone saw it, report it to the police. If he can do that so easily it’s who he is.

PearShapedDisaster · 26/01/2025 22:36

Have you asked your sister how she feels about him? If there’s anything going on? Is this sort of thing his usual behaviour?

OwlInTheOak · 26/01/2025 22:35

Its hard to know without seeing it, but I may be concerned about dv if it was hard and she didn't seem surprised. Talk to her in a calm way, don't sound too concerned to try and minimise the chance of her covering it up if its the case.

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Reu · 26/01/2025 22:35

Closetheblinds · 26/01/2025 22:34

I’d ask him wtf he thinks he is doing while fantasising about punching him square in the face.

Would you continue to interact with him?

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Reu · 26/01/2025 22:34

it was an absolute explosive moment of anger.

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Closetheblinds · 26/01/2025 22:34

I’d ask him wtf he thinks he is doing while fantasising about punching him square in the face.

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Reu · 26/01/2025 22:34

He was very angry almost vitriolic when explaining his action

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RoastDinnerSmellsNice · 26/01/2025 22:33

An absolute non event in my family.

RosesAndHellebores · 26/01/2025 22:33

It depends on the nature of the slap. Was it a whack or a little tap because she was interrupting driving concentration?

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Reu · 26/01/2025 22:33

It was not a tap.

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stayathomer · 26/01/2025 22:33

I don’t know- I was about to say ‘but what if they were just messing…’ but no I’d feel uncomfortable and probably say did you just hit her hand away?

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