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Help me be less ugly after swimming!

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impossibleimposter · 26/01/2025 20:04

Off to Center Parcs in Half Term. I haven’t been for ages and haven’t nailed the post swim routine so I don’t look hideous. My skin isn’t looking good at the moment with some rosacea so I don’t feel comfortable going completely bare faced day to day.

Any recommendations for a decent, genuinely waterproof mascara please?

And afterwards, what do you do with your face and hair to look as half decent as possible? My hair is shoulder length, thick and frizzy/course. Looks fine in a messy bun or pony when dry but takes an age to dry and pool hair dryers don’t touch it! The chlorine will make my skin tight but I don’t think the quick pool side showers will mean I can do a full cleanse etc! But equally can’t just leave it.

Finally what kind of clothes for active hols like CP? We will be biking everywhere.

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FattyFattyBooomBoom · 27/01/2025 15:16

I often wear joggers when we go swimming or travelling. I wear Adidas Beckenbauer Track Pants- they’re slim fitting and flattering, but easier to get on and off than leggings. I think they look more presentable than normal joggers, but maybe I’m kidding myself 😂

impossibleimposter · 27/01/2025 14:28

Wow thank you for all of the advice! I have only now had the chance to check.

Leave in conditioner I never thought of this! That’s a great tip. And low bun after which will work with my cycling helmet - sorted.

my eyebrows are tinted and tend to last long enough for a holiday but I’ve been disappointed with how long lash tints last before so never bother. will buy one of the mascaras instead I think.

Yes I’m not sure if legging post swim will be the best idea especially with small DC to get ready too.

thank you for all the confidence boosting tips too. I’m not unconfident really but my skin has got me down recently and so that affects it day to day.

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Maboscelar · 27/01/2025 14:19

CatsForGovernment · 26/01/2025 23:13

Kiss Me Heroine Make Mascara is so waterproof and budge proof that you need their special remover.

I have worn it for a week before and it only finally came off when I found the remover (I was travelling).
During that time I washed my face every night with foaming cleanser and it didn't budge lol.

I don't use it everyday because it's a pain to remove, but it you want something that is going nowhere, no matter what you do, then it's the one for you.

Leave in Conditioner after washing hair in pool showers is great. I like to French braid my hair when it is damp and then a few hours later I take it out to lovely waves.

The Dr Jart recommended above it good for redness. La Roche Posay have one too, which I prefer.

Could you use it instead of a tint and leave it on for a week or so? Or is that not advised?

User67556 · 27/01/2025 12:30

Aw this is actually really sad to read. I bet you look lovely regardless. If you wear any makeup you'll just be really conscious of it smudging etc. Spend time working on your confidence- maybe some counselling.

TENSsion · 27/01/2025 12:28

Spray tan, lash extensions and oil your hair into a chic low bun. Wash it later.

edited: obviously wash the chlorine out with shampoo but don’t about drying and styling just oil it and let it have a little treatment

SereneCapybara · 27/01/2025 12:28

A bit of facial tanning oil might help.

If you want to hide the rosacea, Rimmel London 24 hour foundation stays on in water, and is quite light and natural looking. You won't look like you are wearing it. It will come off on the towel when you dry your face, though.

Maybelline Colossal waterproof mascara really works. Or you could get lashes and brows professionally tinted before you go.

I agree with a PP that washing hair and leaving in a very light application of conditioner, then tying hair in a bun is fine. Or wash and dry it then rub some body or hand cream into your hands - I use Palmer's cocoa butter or Origins ginger souffle and then very very lightly skim your hands over your hair where it looks frizzy and dry. That kills the frizz.

When I swam often, I would comb conditioner into my hair before getting into the pool, and tie it in a tight bun. the conditioner protected my hair from chlorine. then wash and condition it normally once you get out.

Cleanse your face with a sensitive skin product to get rid of the chlorine and maybe put on some tinted moisturiser.

BermudaBlues · 27/01/2025 12:26

I have sensitive skin with redness too and chlorine makes it worse I am also quite low maintenance and this is my post swimming approach. I regularly have my eyelashes and brows tinted so they have some colour:

  1. Wet hair before going in the pool - wet hair absorbs less chlorine
  2. Afterwards, wash hair and add conditioner and then leave it in. Twist and clip up. I let it hair dry then.
  3. Slap a bit of mosituriser on (all over body including face - I use E45 Lotion for everything)
  4. Rosalique (colour correcting, sensitive cream with sun protection. Evens colour out really well - no fragrance - adds some warmth to complexion.
  5. Prometics mascara for mature women - sensitive, fragrance free smudgeproof, lengthens and thickens.
  6. If I am feeling fancy I also use nude pometics wand for lip/cheek colour.
SulkySeagull · 27/01/2025 12:20

@MzHz surely it’s important to try and look and feel your best all the time? It’s not just about what others think, it’s about your own self confidence

ForkMeImToast · 27/01/2025 12:06

Where I'm from they say to shower and wash with shampoo and soap before getting in the pool. The reasoning is that firstly wet hair will absorb less chlorine as it is already saturated but also that chlorine reacts with dirt, so if you're clean you won't smell of as much chlorine after you've been swimming. So might be worth considering showering beforehand :)

SheridansPortSalut · 27/01/2025 11:33

A little hint of a fake tan works wonders for me on holiday.

MzHz · 27/01/2025 11:30

@impossibleimposter Dont worry about the mascara, put it on at night if you are going out, but not to swim in. that's daft.

Chlorine IS a problem tho, and the amount of kids piss in the water will make it worse. Invest in a decent shampoo to strip the chlorine. I am a masters swimmer, before I learned about what chlorine did to hair my poor hair was literally like straw. ONE dose of Paul Mitchell 3 and it was better. You can get some good shampoos for kids that take out the chlorine, or Mane and Tail is excellent. make sure to remove chlorine from skin use moisturiser

Sunbeam01 · 27/01/2025 11:28

Microblading!

An absolute game changer for me.

MzHz · 27/01/2025 11:27

BitOutOfPractice · 26/01/2025 21:09

Because she wants to look and feel nice on holiday?

it's an expensive holiday camp, not the maldives

Hoolahoophop · 27/01/2025 11:23

My hairdresser recommended this to protect my hair. (Mine is curly, corse and frizzy!) Doesn't help with drying so better for summer use when you wash it out, bung on some product and air dry. But might be useful. I usually wear a lot of hats at center parks this time of year to keep my head warm as my frizzy hair takes so very long to dry.

Putthekettleon73 · 27/01/2025 10:23

Lavenderblossoms · 27/01/2025 09:55

Is that cruelty free do you know?

It's very cruel to the mites making my face look like that! It's a prescription cream. Farmers on here know it for being used on chickens to kill parasites! It's a miracle cream for me.

No idea about animal testing before it was used on humans though, sorry.

TeamMandrake · 27/01/2025 10:18

I've been to centerparcs loads of times, and every time I take make up then never wear it. I do often have an eyelash tint and lift, and gel nails before I go.

After the pool, I just add a lot of leave-in conditioner, then tie my hair back, and straighten it later. Could you take cleansing wipes, for after the pool? I don't bother, but my skin isn't very sensitive.

It's not a dressy-up type of place, so I definitely go comfy and practical, e.g. jeans and a jumper. Trainers. If you will be cycling everywhere, think about how you will carry stuff - will you want to carry a backpack everywhere, or will you want a smaller handbag that you can cycle with without it getting in the way?

BlondeMamaToBe · 27/01/2025 10:04

Get your eyebrows and eyelashes tinted and ditch the make up until after swimming.

Ceramiq · 27/01/2025 10:03

Soolantra is a 1% Ivermectin cream. Ivermectin is an anti-parasite drug. It kills the demodex mites on the face, an infestation of which is the root cause of rosacea.

unmemorableusername · 27/01/2025 10:01

For got about mascara. I'd have a lash tint before the holiday.

unmemorableusername · 27/01/2025 10:01

I go swimming a lot & have rosacea & frizzy hair so I'd like to see these recommendations!

Are there shampoos etc esp for post chlorine?

I just use Aussie but take time having a long shower thoroughly washing & conditioning my hair. I usually leave it to dry naturally. If you want it sleek/dry can you take a Dyson dryer to the accommodation?

It is so much better than any other hair dryer.

For my skin I use a nice cleanser in the shower (the small bottles I've got from advent calendars) then asap (before drying or anything) put on a good moisturiser (clarins beauty flash balm I find the best for this).

Lavenderblossoms · 27/01/2025 09:55

Ceramiq · 27/01/2025 09:22

Get hold of some Soolantra ASAP - your rosacea will clear up very quickly. And get some nice hair pins and butterfly clips and practice up dos to keep your hair out of the water.

Is that cruelty free do you know?

Lavenderblossoms · 27/01/2025 09:55

12345mummy · 27/01/2025 08:26

Also second the boots mascara 👆🏼it stays rock solid

It really does. I committed the grave sin once of going to sleep in it. Absolutely perfect next day lol.

Never comes off swimming. Unfortunately it doesn't thicken my lashes enough for me so I wear it daily on my bottom lashes as I have long ones and they can smudge easily. Top I tend to use 5D lash from revolution. But it's not waterproof unfortunately.

stayathomer · 27/01/2025 09:26

I’d go no make up in the pool, it’s safer! I have roseacea and skin soothing cream and Cetaphil wash, lrp spf keep it calm x Nobody looks good after the pool op, although they do have that fab glow that comes the relaxation or fun!

Ceramiq · 27/01/2025 09:22

impossibleimposter · 26/01/2025 20:04

Off to Center Parcs in Half Term. I haven’t been for ages and haven’t nailed the post swim routine so I don’t look hideous. My skin isn’t looking good at the moment with some rosacea so I don’t feel comfortable going completely bare faced day to day.

Any recommendations for a decent, genuinely waterproof mascara please?

And afterwards, what do you do with your face and hair to look as half decent as possible? My hair is shoulder length, thick and frizzy/course. Looks fine in a messy bun or pony when dry but takes an age to dry and pool hair dryers don’t touch it! The chlorine will make my skin tight but I don’t think the quick pool side showers will mean I can do a full cleanse etc! But equally can’t just leave it.

Finally what kind of clothes for active hols like CP? We will be biking everywhere.

Get hold of some Soolantra ASAP - your rosacea will clear up very quickly. And get some nice hair pins and butterfly clips and practice up dos to keep your hair out of the water.