To ask if you had a gender preference?

Always thought I wanted boys, then when I found out I was unexpectedly expecting I was desperate for a girl. I guess I thought it might be my only child and if that was going to be the case then I wanted a daughter. DH also wanted a girl. Tried to mentally prepare myself for her to be a boy, but 20 week scan she was very much a girl and I was thrilled.
DC2 I genuinely have no real preference. This is likely to be my last child so I think I would slightly prefer a boy, but actually would be equally happy with two girls. DH would prefer another girl but every so often says “maybe a boy would be nice” so I don’t think either of us feel as strongly about the second because we got what we hoped for in DC1.

I was never bothered with my first, had a boy, was really happy. Took 5 years and a few losses for DC2 so could not give a flying frig what was between their legs as long as I finally got a healthy baby at the end of it - we had another boy and again so happy.

I am now pregnant with an unplanned very much surprise 3rd and I have to be honest I would love a girl, as would my husband. I can’t really articulate why as I know the gender of your child doesn’t dictate your bond and I love my boys so much.

I do have a feeling my destiny is to be a boy mum though.

i really wanted one of each, so overall have no preference, ended up with 2 girls, though I think now i prefer this to the idea of 2 boys.

Yes, some women do. I didn't.
I had healthy twin girls, but mourn the son I actually lost.
I can only speak for myself.

After I had two boys I was keen on the idea of a girl as thought it’d be quite nice to have more balance in the family .

I didn’t care but I did know each pregnancy what sex I was having. It was strange but I just knew from each positive what the baby was named. I had 4 😁

I had four MCs before I had my first child. I was really hoping for a boy! At my scan when told it was a girl, my partner actually put his head in his hands-she was born and it was love at first sight for us all.

Second time around, I was hoping for a boy and I got him. Third and fourth time round I did not mind, I got two more girls.

I desperately wanted a girl, but persuaded myself that I was having a boy so that I wouldn't be too disappointed when I gave birth. If I'd had a boy then I might have considered having a second baby, but that's quite a big might! 😆

Nope, I thought I would end up with all boys but didn’t have a preference, I wasn’t bothered either way. I’ve now had multiple MC and honestly I couldn’t care, I would have loved another healthy baby but doesn’t look like it’s on the cards at the moment.

I wanted a girl first time round, so convinced myself I was having a boy, so I wouldn't be disappointed. She was girl. Second time around, I really didn't mind and had another girl. I had what felt like a revelation when told "it's a girl" that I would never have a son. And I felt totally neutral about it, I just didn't care.

The main thing I've learnt from my DDs is that you don't have 'a boy' or 'a girl', you have that completely individual child. Even if we'd found out that we were having girls before they were born, we'd still have known virtually nothing about them. They are so very different to each other, which just reinforces that sense of them being utterly individual.

I only wanted boys and luckily got two

When I was pregnant with my first I wanted a boy and we had a girl. And when pregnant with my second I wanted another girl because she was so great, and got a boy haha.

But I'm so grateful that I had what I had because I just can't imagine having any other combination. I think that's what usually happens.

I really didn’t mind with my first. We had DD1. I did not find out in advance what we were having.

DD1 was 3 when DD2 was born. She had kept talking about wanting a sister so I hoped for her sake we would have another girl.

DS was born when I was nearly 45, his sisters were 10 and 7, and after several pregnancy losses. I really didn’t mind what we were having; though I expected him to be another girl. I found it slightly frustrating that several people commented on me having “a boy at last”.

Would’ve been grateful for either (IVF baby!) but when I found out that DD was a girl it was really the cherry on top. I had convinced myself that she was a boy so was delighted with the news

She’s 20 now - I’ll be honest that I really don’t envy boy mums! The relationship dynamic is just so different. DD and I are very close and go out for shopping days, lunches, trips to the theatre etc together. I loved doing all of the typical girly stuff with her when she was younger. It sounds petty but even when shopping for friends baby boys I find their clothing section so underwhelming compared to the baby girls’ one!

I really thought I’d be a bit disappointed if the scan showed a boy but the moment the sonographer told us we had a boy on the way I was grinning from ear to ear and haven’t stopped since (first child and he’s now 7 months). I wasn’t even slightly disappointed which was such a relief.

If we do have another child I can really imagine having two boys and just absolutely loving it. I’d be so happy with a daughter too though! So I guess I don’t really mind either way..

I wanted two children and a girl. My first was a girl so when it came to DC2 I didn’t have a preference. I got DS. If we were to have a third DC I’d want another boy.

It's such a complicated, emotive question, isn't it? As this thread proves.

Both my ex-P and I really wanted a girl, because we're both women and we thought we'd be terribly ill-equipped to deal with a boy. As it happens we did have a DD so we never had to rethink! But, it's not a totally trivial question, is it?

First time around I wasn't bothered.

Second time I wanted the opposite sex to DC1 (and got it).

Third time I wanted the same sex as DC1 because I'd put DC1 in the larger bedroom and I couldn't be bothered to switch everything around, plus I thought DC1 needed a pal to share a room with whereas DC2 was more solitary by nature. I got what I wanted.

Fourth time I wanted the same sex as DC2 because that's what DC2 was hoping for. Again, I got what I wanted and ended up with two of each.

I was confident by 6wks of pregnancy that I knew the sex based on food cravings/aversions and pregnancy symptoms and I was right about it too.

Wasn’t bothered either way with my first and had a girl. Then with my second I secretly hoped for another girl, not entirely sure why, and I got another girl.
however if I had a third, I think I’d like a boy!

I had a girl first. At the time I had no preference, in fact I think if pressed I'd have said I wanted a boy.

When it came to my second I was hoping for a girl purely because I'd saved 3-4 years worth of girls clothes and it would save me money. But that was a purely practical reason, if my second had been a boy I'd have been over the moon but just with a little bit less money!

They are my everything, I'm very lucky, thank you ❤️

Wasn't fussed. Boys felt less familiar because i grew up in family with only daughters but i had DS first and he's my gorgeous boy. I had a few miscarriages and honestly did not care a jot about gender. Had DD second and her & DS are just the loveliest pair of kids.

I wanted 2 girls. Just like my sister & I! My first was a girl, my second was a girl but stillborn. Then I had a boy and it's completely brilliant. But really it became obvious that all that mattered was my healthy baby. There's no question of my son replacing the daughter that died. She was her own self and so is my son.

I wanted one of each. And that's what I got.