To ask if you had a gender preference?

Not with DD1. But when I was pregnant with DD2 I wanted a girl because I thought having two the same would be easier. Would have been fine with a boy though.

Agree @boxyboxs
plus I can’t stand girly stuff. My worst nightmare!

Our boys have similar tastes to us, so it’s all good!

Slight preference for a boy first pregnancy and had a boy. Then had secondary infertility and just thrilled to be pregnant. Had a strong feeling it was a girl from the start but didn't think I had any preference . Then a week before my 20 week scan had the sudden thought"actually really would be nice if it is a girl" and then "well that's jinxed it then". Was quite pleased when I found out it was.

Honestly a lot of that is confirmation bias though and I'd have been very happy with any combination! Neither preference was more than just an idle thought.

Boys always.
We have three including twins not horrible and annoying @Didimum. Maybe we were just lucky there 🤣🎉

The main thing I've learnt from my DDs is that you don't have 'a boy' or 'a girl', you have that completely individual child.

Yes, despite coming from a girl family and knowing we are quite different I was surprised my 2 dc were so different to each other.

I’ll be honest that I really don’t envy boy mums! The relationship dynamic is just so different. DD and I are very close and go out for shopping days, lunches, trips to the theatre etc together. I loved doing all of the typical girly stuff with her when she was younger. It sounds petty but even when shopping for friends baby boys I find their clothing section so underwhelming compared to the baby girls’ one!

This is what I mean by stereotypes though. I am very close to my dad & we do theatre & plays together. I can't stand shopping with my mum for example. I have lunch with both of them but my dad & I have similar tastes. DH is much closer to his mum and then speak everyday pretty much.

Before having kids I had a very strong preference for a girl.

I went through infertility and miscarriages so was less bothered when we found out DC1 was a boy, I felt he would be a boy from so early on. I was maybe slightly disappointed for an hour but then I was just so excited. Now he's my best friend and most amazing boy ever.

DC2 I really wanted a girl but I thought she was a boy. I was so shocked and happy she was a girl. If we had had 2 boys I think we would have had a 3rd child.

Just to say that my boy is much softer and into "girly" things, whereas my daughter is wild and rough!

i wanted a boy first as I always wanted a big brother. I only had sisters & my mum has lots of sisters. I had planned on 4 dc (2 of each sex), I think a same sex sibling is great. But I stopped at 2 dc (both boys) as pregnancy did not agree with me! If I had a 3rd I would have liked a girl but just for the clothes really. DH has only brothers & they have had girls & we're a bit sad to not have sons. I think parents can put a lot of stereotypes nonsense on dc tbh.

If I could choose I always wanted two girls. Never voiced it and always did the ‘as long as it’s healthy’ etc. I now have 2 girls and I absolutely love it. I have nephews who are sweet but seem much harder work! I’d never ever say to anyone but I only really get broody when seeing girl babies too. Girl obsessed!

I was so happy to have a girl first time round. Just something silly about worrying that boys wouldn't be as close to their mums as girls as that's what's played out in my family. I know it's ridiculous though. Also there had been so many boys in DH's family that I thought it was extremely likely we would be having a boy so it was a surprise of something I didn't think I would have. This time I genuinely really don't mind and would be delighted with either.

Just a slightly sinking feeling when I found out I was having a girl... it's so much harder being a girl/woman in this world. But also girls are powerful in so many ways & I will do everything in my power to teach them to be strong & brave & true to themselves.

Secretly wanted a boy and I got him. He’s amazing.

Always wanted two of the same regardless of sex - got two of the same and feel very lucky

I honestly had no preference either way. We didn't find out at scans either.

Had a boy and was absolutely thrilled. Though I am sure I would have been equally thrilled with a girl.

Never had another and my boy is now 11 - he's amazing and I wouldn't change him for the world 🙂

I wanted a boy, I got a boy. I always felt I would be more suited to be a boy mum over a girl mum. Don't get me wrong I love my neices but can't imagine having a girl

With my first, I desperately wanted a girl as I don't have a good relationship with my mum. I had convinced myself though, I was having a boy so I wouldn't be disappointed and when I found out I was having a girl I remember feeling a little sad for the son I had "lost" 🥴.

My second child I again really wanted a girl. Not only did I want to reuse dd's clothes but I wanted to give her a sister. I grew up with a much older brother and I'd always wanted a sister. All my friends who have sister/s are all really close so I think I felt like I'd let dd down.

Bonus baby, I really didn't mind and was happy he was a boy as much as I would have been happy for a girl. I was pleased DS would have a brother/ partner-in-crime. However, I do still feel a little envious when I see all girl siblings!

I really wanted a girl with first dc. It was possibly our only child after fertility treatment and she was a girl.
With dc2 that feeling was x100 for another girl and she was a girl too.
I've never really thought about having a boy ever

Gender disappointment can be crushing. I don't know if it's an independently recognised thing, or if it's just part of post (pre?) natal depression. There's nothing worse than being told what a selfish git you are for not being grateful for a healthy baby, as if you don't know and feel guilty enough about that already. I had a boy first. Really wanted a girl. Took quite a while to move my head past the daughter that I felt like I'd lost. I think there are quite deep rooted reasons I thought I was "supposed" to have a daughter. If I'd had a daughter, I very possibly wouldn't have had any more children.

Then I had DTwins. Boy/girl and actually, the boy is the absolute apple of my eye and I feel sad for eldest DS when I think about the difference in my mindset between him being born and littlest DS.

The girl, is more of a "boy" than both the actual boys, so I don't particularly feel like I've had a daughter, but I think until I'd had her, I would still be longing for what I thought a daughter would be.

It's good to talk anonymously. I think a lot more women feel this way but would never ever admit it because other women tear you down as shallow and actually quite disgusting. It doesn't seem to cross their mind that the way you feel must go way deeper than "oh but I want to put a girl in frilly dresses", but unless you want to go into all your past trauma, which suddenly makes your mindset and worries understandable, it's just easier to say nothing.

I had a strong preference for one of each.

Wanted a boy. A lot of issues of not wanting a girl so they didn't potentially go through what I did, so that they'd be physically stronger and be able to protect or defend themselves better.
Little did I know that little bundle of love would give me the strength to protect all of ussss foreverrrr.

Due to my experiences I've sent my girls to self defence since they could walk and probably am ott when it comes to drilling safety into them etc. Ah well. Adore them!

No preference. After so many miscarriages, I just wanted one to stick!

I’ve seen the damage to children when people are so focussed on gender stereotypes and not just seeing their child as an individual. Unsurprisingly when one did try to become the gender their mother had always hoped for, that wasn’t enough either.

I really believed ds was going to be a girl, no idea why I just had a feeling and then he wasn't and it honestly threw me a bit. I wouldn't change him for the world and being his mum is the best thing I have ever done, but I'd be lying if sometimes I didn't look at the girls clothes section of the shop or see little girls in the park being forces to be reckoned with and wish I had one of those too. I've always been a girls girl and I've never been into anything remotely stereotypically 'male' so I did worry about whether I'd be able to bond with ds. But now he's here I know that was nonsense thinking because whatever is important to him is important to me. And the way I see it as cool as it would have been to raise a little girl to be strong and fierce, raising a little boy to be a genuinely good, safe man is something I'm glad to be working on too.

No preference at all either time. I’m not sure I really even thought about it, weirdly! Just longed for a healthy baby after a few miscarriages. I have 2 awesome (now adult) sons.

I secretly wanted boys.

I had zero preference. Miscarried before DS and before DD, so all I wanted were healthy babies. To be honest, I didn't have any preference before the miscarriages though. All I knew was I wanted two; I didn't care what they were.