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To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

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Whatkatyforgottodo · 26/01/2025 16:21

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

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Lifelover16 · 27/01/2025 05:02

Thong = thrush highway
apart from looking hideous

SamPM · 27/01/2025 05:00

Cherry8809 · 26/01/2025 16:57

I wouldn’t wear them myself but I wouldn’t care in the slightest if someone else did.

You might feel differently if a huge and unattractive bare arse suddenly rises up in front of you and bends over. Ugh!

sweetpickle2 · 27/01/2025 04:56

The pearl clutching on this thread! It’s just a bum.

And anyone who thinks non-thong swimwear magically contains all farts and bodily secretions is seriously deluded.

onwardsup4 · 27/01/2025 04:55

Took my kids to a total wipeout type thing in the summer. It involved a lot of standing around before hand the safety induction took about half an hour. Handful of women were in thongs it just looked so stupid I felt embarrassed for them.
Looking to find photos of my kids to buy on the website after and one woman where she'd flew down the slide and flew off legs completely akimbo was a photo of her arse could see everything. No idea why anyone would choose to do that to themselves 😂
Complete cringe and also applies to public pool as well. You look stupid and I don't feel ashamed to think it and the vast majority of others will be thinking it

SamPM · 27/01/2025 04:55

SittingNextToIt · 26/01/2025 16:40

Fully agreed OP. There's also a larger issue here - why/how have we arrived at fashion that's okay and encouraging of women to display arses but we'd be very much taken aback if men's swimwear of that nature was widely available mainstream.

I often compare boys shorts and girls shorts and wonder why - just why - are 10 year old girls offered the invitation to wear much tinier shorts than 10 year old boys.

Anyone guess?

The constant sexualization of girls. I thought by now we would be done with this but it's getting worse, largely thanks to sm.

SamPM · 27/01/2025 04:50

I don't even understand the point of them at the beach. Who cares if you have no tan lines? It looks uncomfortable and most people do not have great backsides to be flaunting them.

NattyTurtle59 · 27/01/2025 04:42

MugsyBalonz · 26/01/2025 20:22

Most people aren't even noticing.

I think you will find they are, it's really difficult not to. If you think "most people" don't notice then you are spectacularly naive.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 04:14

Juliagreeneyes · 27/01/2025 03:07

Women often wear things to cover their body because they are self conscious regardless of what is more comfortable or not.

Yes, that was the point.

I'm saying even if women find it more comfortable they might not continue as they get older.

Maybe they's why older women typically don't wear them?

Although I've seen a couple older women wear them in my day.

JoyousGreyOrca · 27/01/2025 03:57

obsessedwithfreshbread · 26/01/2025 17:05

I have no issue with them... almost everyone has part of their arse cheeks out in swimwear, unless they are wearing the modesty suits.

I don't wear thong swimwear but thong underwear is much more comfortable than regular big pants... I can always feel the material sat on my cheeks and it feels very weird... but I have been wearing thongs for about 30 years so it's what you get used to I suppose!

Do you not wear trousers then?
If you do you will feel the material of your trousers on your cheeks instead.

Elissaisnotmyname · 27/01/2025 03:44

Whatkatyforgottodo · 26/01/2025 16:21

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

i agree but other people don’t seem to mind about wearing see through leggings. I saw a young girl wearing some the other day that were very revealing. I myself wear leggings but they are usually dark and not at all revealing

Juliagreeneyes · 27/01/2025 03:07

Women often wear things to cover their body because they are self conscious regardless of what is more comfortable or not.

Yes, that was the point.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 02:54

Juliagreeneyes · 27/01/2025 02:33

Exactly — that’s the entire point! It’s not about comfort at all: it’s about how the arse looks to men. If it was all just about comfort and making your own free choices about what to wear, women would wear one whatever they thought their arses looked like.

Would they?

My sister didn't wear shorts in the summer for years because she was self conscious of her leg veins.

She's fucking gorgeous and it's insane that she would be self conscious of this to me, but she was.

Women often wear things to cover their body because they are self conscious regardless of what is more comfortable or not.

Juliagreeneyes · 27/01/2025 02:36

obsessedwithfreshbread · 26/01/2025 23:16

@Juliagreeneyes
Because the older we get the saggier our arses become. Of course it's an aesthetic thing, which is why the younger women can embrace them! I don't wear thong bikinis but you can see the bottom of my bum cheeks as I've still got a pretty good arse 😀

Why on earth would someone's underwear be damp and stinky? 30 years of thongs never had an issue with any bacterial imbalance because I've able to wash myself properly.

Just because you find them uncomfortable it is disingenuous to state as a fact that they are categorically uncomfortable when that's clearly not true 🤷🏻‍♀️

You stick to Apple catchers and I'll stick to thongs. Job done 😀

Good grief, we’re talking about SWIMWEAR here, that goes in the pool. Of course it’s damp: you’re wearing it in water. And if it’s stuck up your arse, it’s going to be stinky no matter how much you wash.

Amazed at how many people seem to think it’s OK to wear porn-style thong outfits in a public pool and are getting in a tizzy about it. I don’t care if you wear thong undies as I’m not likely to see them, am I? But thong swimwear out for kids and everyone to see in a public pool is just sexualised and attention-seeking.

Juliagreeneyes · 27/01/2025 02:33

chargeitup · 26/01/2025 23:17

@Juliagreeneyes

If they’re so comfortable why don’t you see older women in thong bikinis? Surely when one’s older it’s even more about comfort, no?
Huh? Older women usually don't wear thing bikinis out of not loving the state of their arse. Nothing to do with comfort or not

Exactly — that’s the entire point! It’s not about comfort at all: it’s about how the arse looks to men. If it was all just about comfort and making your own free choices about what to wear, women would wear one whatever they thought their arses looked like.

doodahdayy · 27/01/2025 02:33

Sheknowsaboutme · 26/01/2025 16:35

The same with those arse enhancing leggings. Just dont🤮

They outline every crease and lip. It's too much for me to look at after breakfast

doodahdayy · 27/01/2025 02:32

I don't want to be exposed to someone's brown eye if they make a wrong move. Even if you have a nice bum there's a time and a place to be showing it off and a public pool/spa isn't it.

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Juliagreeneyes · 27/01/2025 02:30

MugsyBalonz · 26/01/2025 23:47

Do you not remember the whale-tail and low-rise jeans trend of the late 90s/early 00s? I was in sixth form in 1999 and hipster jeans, worn ultra-low, with a dental floss thong was very much in fashion, we even had thongs with diamante bits where the strings met.

That was very late 90s, not early 90s!

Leafy74 · 27/01/2025 02:16

VoodooRajin · 26/01/2025 22:06

In my experience men and women are equally judgmental, albeit about different things, the main difference being there are more pejorative terms for women who do it - funny that

You're in denial.

MugsyBalonz · 26/01/2025 23:47

Juliagreeneyes · 26/01/2025 22:48

You must have been very advanced! Did you send off for them? In 1994 someone gave my mum a black G-string as a cheeky 40th birthday present; and aged 15 I had never seen one before - thongs simply weren’t sold in any of the lingerie departments of the several big department stores in our city, and I knew this quite well as I was a fashion devotee, and spent my time reading Vogue and Cosmo and looking at all the clothes I could. The underwear styles that were very much in then were very minimalist tencel boyshorts and bikini knickers with lace - not a thong to be found anywhere (unless it was “sex wear”).

Admittedly, I did grow up in the grim north; so maybe things were just a little more backward there, and all the young teenagers in Guildford were down at Ann Summers for their scanties?

Do you not remember the whale-tail and low-rise jeans trend of the late 90s/early 00s? I was in sixth form in 1999 and hipster jeans, worn ultra-low, with a dental floss thong was very much in fashion, we even had thongs with diamante bits where the strings met.

Noranydroptodrink · 26/01/2025 23:26

Women judge other women partly in the same way that chefs will judge other chefs, artists judge other artists, and so on. It's not automatically a betrayal, just because it's a person of the same type who has an opinion.

chargeitup · 26/01/2025 23:21

Juliagreeneyes · 26/01/2025 22:26

I’m only in my forties but I can remember a time when absolutely no-one cared about “VPL” or even knew what it was. It became a “thing” as a marketing tool in the very early 2000s when shops all went in on selling thong knickers as the new trend.

In the 90s we all just wore ordinary pants and didn’t stress about it at all.

In the 80s and 90s we didn't wear fabrics that were so full of Lycra so there wasn't such an issue with vpl. I certainly was aware of vpl in my 20s and that was in the 90s

I wore thongs a lot in my younger days. I wear them now under my leggings at the gym. They are perfectly comfortable. I dint feel them at all. The only reason I don't wear them all the time is now at my age I need to wear a thin liner for leaks and they need a bigger pant to stick on

chargeitup · 26/01/2025 23:17

@Juliagreeneyes

If they’re so comfortable why don’t you see older women in thong bikinis? Surely when one’s older it’s even more about comfort, no?
Huh? Older women usually don't wear thing bikinis out of not loving the state of their arse. Nothing to do with comfort or not

Downunderduchess · 26/01/2025 23:16

Doesn’t bother me. I’m in my late fifties, I wear a full piece swimsuit, but I don’t care what anyone else wears. I’m there to swim and enjoy myself, plus I try not to be judgemental about what other women wear.

obsessedwithfreshbread · 26/01/2025 23:16

@Juliagreeneyes
Because the older we get the saggier our arses become. Of course it's an aesthetic thing, which is why the younger women can embrace them! I don't wear thong bikinis but you can see the bottom of my bum cheeks as I've still got a pretty good arse 😀

Why on earth would someone's underwear be damp and stinky? 30 years of thongs never had an issue with any bacterial imbalance because I've able to wash myself properly.

Just because you find them uncomfortable it is disingenuous to state as a fact that they are categorically uncomfortable when that's clearly not true 🤷🏻‍♀️

You stick to Apple catchers and I'll stick to thongs. Job done 😀

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