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To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

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Whatkatyforgottodo · 26/01/2025 16:21

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

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chargeitup · 28/01/2025 13:39

It's a mixed bag but currently the most common women's competition swimwear is like this.

Artistic swimwear( synchro etc) tends to be high cut

To think bums should be covered in a public pool?
To think bums should be covered in a public pool?
DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 28/01/2025 13:38

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 13:32

Female competitive swimmers do often wear suits that cover a lot. Others choose to wear ones with less lower body coverage as they feel they restrict movement. It is ALL about aerodynamics.

They are not showing their butts at the expense of time. It's ALL about time advantage.

So why don't any of the male competitive swimmers seem to believe that they'd have better aerodynamics with their buttocks hanging out?

Surely there isn't that much aerodynamic difference between male and female bums - the males tend to shave their bodies anyway, so there isn't even that.

chargeitup · 28/01/2025 13:35

MeandT · 28/01/2025 09:39

I found myself wondering about this during the last olympics - stacks of professional female athletes, out there doing their day job, with all of their arse on show.

Now obviously they, nor anyone, has anything to be ashamed of with all of their backside out in the open. But who makes the choices?

Could it possibly be the male team managers, designers and advertisers who'd rather have a sexy young athlete to promote their position than a "covered up frump"?!?

If it was performance related, all the male swimmers & divers would have their butt cheeks out too. But funnily enough, they didn't. And the chinese ladies managed several golds in costumes which covered their arse cheeks too.

Conclusion - the only reason for these cuts is to put more of women's bodies on show & scream 'look at meeeeee'!

The sexism entrenched in that is grim, as is the level of 'maintenance' required to rip out great swathes of bodily hair so that isn't displayed at the same time.

Personally, if I'm swimming I prefer a fabric anchored on my gluteal crease so it doesn't move.

Maybe those who profess the comfort of a thong style should do a few more squats to fix their sedentary-living pancake arse?!?

Or just own that they've been sucked into a style designed by men, for men, and EVERYONE should have their eyes clapped on them wherever they move. Chose it, own it. I'm not going to tell a toddler to look away or stop pointing!

They wear a mixture. It's a payoff. Aerodynamics vs restrictive movements.

They are not showing their butts at the expense of time ffs. They train to the fraction of a second. They aren't compromising for a but if arse showing.

Those suits beit cut away or long leg are designed with one thing in mind and that is drag. Oh and nit grunge restrictive.

To think bums should be covered in a public pool?
chargeitup · 28/01/2025 13:32

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 28/01/2025 09:57

If it was performance related, all the male swimmers & divers would have their butt cheeks out too.

Indeed. In fact, a lot of professional male swimmers actually wear fuller one-piece costumes that cover far more than what men usually wear in their local pools.

You have male swimmers covering up their chests and backs; meanwhile you have female swimmers with their arses out. They can't both be for greater swimming efficiency or comfort.

Female competitive swimmers do often wear suits that cover a lot. Others choose to wear ones with less lower body coverage as they feel they restrict movement. It is ALL about aerodynamics.

They are not showing their butts at the expense of time. It's ALL about time advantage.

To think bums should be covered in a public pool?
DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 28/01/2025 09:57

If it was performance related, all the male swimmers & divers would have their butt cheeks out too.

Indeed. In fact, a lot of professional male swimmers actually wear fuller one-piece costumes that cover far more than what men usually wear in their local pools.

You have male swimmers covering up their chests and backs; meanwhile you have female swimmers with their arses out. They can't both be for greater swimming efficiency or comfort.

MeandT · 28/01/2025 09:39

I found myself wondering about this during the last olympics - stacks of professional female athletes, out there doing their day job, with all of their arse on show.

Now obviously they, nor anyone, has anything to be ashamed of with all of their backside out in the open. But who makes the choices?

Could it possibly be the male team managers, designers and advertisers who'd rather have a sexy young athlete to promote their position than a "covered up frump"?!?

If it was performance related, all the male swimmers & divers would have their butt cheeks out too. But funnily enough, they didn't. And the chinese ladies managed several golds in costumes which covered their arse cheeks too.

Conclusion - the only reason for these cuts is to put more of women's bodies on show & scream 'look at meeeeee'!

The sexism entrenched in that is grim, as is the level of 'maintenance' required to rip out great swathes of bodily hair so that isn't displayed at the same time.

Personally, if I'm swimming I prefer a fabric anchored on my gluteal crease so it doesn't move.

Maybe those who profess the comfort of a thong style should do a few more squats to fix their sedentary-living pancake arse?!?

Or just own that they've been sucked into a style designed by men, for men, and EVERYONE should have their eyes clapped on them wherever they move. Chose it, own it. I'm not going to tell a toddler to look away or stop pointing!

Yogaatsunrise · 28/01/2025 05:26

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 28/01/2025 02:16

I completely agree with you; but I couldn't help but find myself singing "And I think to myself: what a wonderful world" after all of that!!

😂😂 Maybe not so wonderful for the next person that has to sit on said seat!! 🤣🤣

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 28/01/2025 02:16

Yogaatsunrise · 27/01/2025 20:44

It’s definitely the string rubbing on the area where we defecate and one immediately thinks of it when people wear them. I think of poo, of grubbiness of shit infested bacteria rubbing all over the sunbed or wherever they sit.

I completely agree with you; but I couldn't help but find myself singing "And I think to myself: what a wonderful world" after all of that!!

Preciousmoments18 · 27/01/2025 22:02

Yogaatsunrise · 27/01/2025 20:44

It’s definitely the string rubbing on the area where we defecate and one immediately thinks of it when people wear them. I think of poo, of grubbiness of shit infested bacteria rubbing all over the sunbed or wherever they sit.

Its so true. I was close to retching reading this so on that note I'm off 🤦‍♀️🤣

AndThereSheGoes · 27/01/2025 21:52

Also I have a really hairy crack. I'm sure others must have too.
I do get a Brazilian on occasions because I am so unkempt.
I am hopeful the body positivity types get pubic hair back in fashion again. Bad enough with normal bikinis to keep it in check but there's no chance of getting away with stray hairs with that amount of cut out. It's just another thing women gave to maintain.

Yogaatsunrise · 27/01/2025 20:44

It’s definitely the string rubbing on the area where we defecate and one immediately thinks of it when people wear them. I think of poo, of grubbiness of shit infested bacteria rubbing all over the sunbed or wherever they sit.

Preciousmoments18 · 27/01/2025 20:26

I've already added my views on this thread & the posts never fail to amaze me.

It goes without saying given my own posts on the subject I don't agree with the I'll display my bum in public if I want to opinion & I don't care if people find it distasteful. Men wearing thong swimwear is also extremely bad taste. Thankfully we don't see many of them in public spaces. Is it because they have more decorum & they would be embarrassed walking about the poolside in thong style swimwear which exists for them too if they wish to purchase it?

Sadly women wearing this style remains popular for some. Hopefully in the future young women will look back, laugh & say did women really do this.

AndThereSheGoes · 27/01/2025 20:01

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 18:13

I've never actually worn a thong other than on a photoshoot.

It's not my thing, I find them uncomfortable.

I just don't like the policing of bodies.

I don't like reading that women shouldn't wear thongs because they look bad.

Or they should yell lard ass at them.

Or they are asking to be sexually harassed.

It's just a bum.

But if it were just a bum ie unclothed that's not so bad. It's just a natural normal body.

Its knowing where that bit of fabrics going that's so unappealing.

MugsyBalonz · 27/01/2025 19:34

onwardsup4 · 27/01/2025 19:30

@Princessconsuelabananahammock9 no one is trying to "police" bodies there is such a thing as decency and the majority of people know to and wish to cover certain areas in public.
@MugsyBalonz ok you were talking about sexual assault. We were talking about 12 year olds in thong bikinis and how skimpy girls clothes in general are compared to boys from a really young age such as the length of shorts etc and why this is

And then a poster said it was playing into the hands of paedos and perverts which is the point I was addressing.

onwardsup4 · 27/01/2025 19:30

@Princessconsuelabananahammock9 no one is trying to "police" bodies there is such a thing as decency and the majority of people know to and wish to cover certain areas in public.
@MugsyBalonz ok you were talking about sexual assault. We were talking about 12 year olds in thong bikinis and how skimpy girls clothes in general are compared to boys from a really young age such as the length of shorts etc and why this is

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 27/01/2025 19:13

Walkaround · 27/01/2025 17:50

🤣🤣🤣It’s quite hard not to notice exhibitionists, tbh.

Indeed. If somebody is deliberately acting in a way that they know most will find offensive - or at least distasteful - why is it incumbent on the majority to avert their senses?

If somebody were swearing non-stop in an inappropriate environment - especially one with a lot of children present - surely people wouldn't tell them not to listen or to wear ear plugs, would they?

You don't have to be actively staring at people to see them in an enclosed shared space.

MugsyBalonz · 27/01/2025 18:43

onwardsup4 · 27/01/2025 17:49

@MugsyBalonz poster said fashion for girls being skimpy is playing into the hands of peados and perverts and you reply peados and perverts don't give a shit what anyone is wearing. That's a bold statement why are you dismissing this very real concern? And why wouldn't a mother want to protect their children from this ?

As exemplified by the 'What Were You Wearing?' link I posted earlier, sexual predators will predate no matter what their intended victim is wearing. Sex crimes have absolutely nothing to do with what the victim is wearing, skimpy clothing does not cause sex crimes to happen and is not "playing into the hands" of paedos and perverts.

Interviews with rapists and research on the causes of sexual crimes have overwhelming concluded that clothing is not a factor in who they assault.

I can guarantee you and your DC pass by perverts and paedos on a daily basis - statistically, you are likely to be on speaking terms with at least one - and what you're wearing has no bearing on what is going on in their head. Ditto your DC, a paedophile will think degenerate thoughts about your child regardless of clothing and to try insinuate that clothing is a factor completely ignores the power dynamics that drive sexual assault against both adults and children. You or your DC are most likely to be assaulted by someone you know, someone who has access/opportunity to spend time with you away from prying eyes, someone who you trust and who has some form of relationship with you. Statistically, it is very unlikely someone will be assaulted at the pool.

You are no more likely to be assaulted in a thong than you are in a tracksuit. It's a dangerous narrative to suggest otherwise as it implies victims are complicit in the crimes committed against them by dint of what they wearing.

Walkaround · 27/01/2025 18:34

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 18:13

I've never actually worn a thong other than on a photoshoot.

It's not my thing, I find them uncomfortable.

I just don't like the policing of bodies.

I don't like reading that women shouldn't wear thongs because they look bad.

Or they should yell lard ass at them.

Or they are asking to be sexually harassed.

It's just a bum.

Would you draw the line at nudity? Or is that also an unacceptable societal policing of bodies?

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 18:13

I've never actually worn a thong other than on a photoshoot.

It's not my thing, I find them uncomfortable.

I just don't like the policing of bodies.

I don't like reading that women shouldn't wear thongs because they look bad.

Or they should yell lard ass at them.

Or they are asking to be sexually harassed.

It's just a bum.

Walkaround · 27/01/2025 18:09

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 17:50

Does it matter if they look attractive?

I mean, most people at the beach aren't necessarily attractive.

I don't think it means they should have to cover up.

It matters how they choose to present themselves in a public place. By all means wander around naked, or wear clothing that would be considered inappropriate in a swimming pool full of families with young children, in the privacy of your own home, if it somehow makes you happy to look like that, all for your own benefit. But don’t be the only person wearing a thong in a public swimming pool and then pretend nobody has to look at you, and you should be allowed to wear what you want, as if anyone believes what you have chosen to wear in public has nothing to do with how you wish others to perceive you in said public place.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 18:05

VoodooRajin · 27/01/2025 12:23

If it's just skin, would they let their 12 year old daughters wear them

I see toddlers running around the beach just in diapers and wouldn't expect a 12 to be topless.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 18:03

JudgeJ · 27/01/2025 14:35

Teach him 'lard arse loudly!

Really?

You would teach your kid to insult a woman's body?

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 18:01

onwardsup4 · 27/01/2025 17:51

@Princessconsuelabananahammock9 so the onus is on me as an owner of working eyes to not view others entire backside at a public swimming pool. Good grief just cover your arse up in public it's not difficult. Or don't but at least you know the opinion of most now

I have never in my life worn a thong. Ever.

BUT, I genuinely don't care what others wear at the pool or beach.

Unless they are extremely hot I'm probably not gonna notice for more than a brief glance.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 17:59

VoodooRajin · 27/01/2025 17:53

So how does one not flash ones bum to other pool users when vacating the pool

Give me them space.

You'll still see it if you look, but no reason for it to be in your face.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 27/01/2025 17:58

SpeedyMcNobhead · 27/01/2025 17:38

They just scream “look at me” if you ask me.

So?

Even if they want attention who cares?