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To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

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Whatkatyforgottodo · 26/01/2025 16:21

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

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PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 26/01/2025 17:07

BeansOnRoast · 26/01/2025 17:03

Very odd behaviour to be staring at other people's bodies so much.

Who's staring? I saw a man in a coat and hat today, I didn't need to stare to see it.

Disturbia81 · 26/01/2025 17:07

It's awful. I went to one pool and there were a few teenage girls with them on, some of the dodgy men were loving it 🤢

CardboardTube · 26/01/2025 17:06

I remember being shocked and disturbed the first time I saw flip flops outside of a pool/beach setting. It was about 1987. I feel the same about this, but I've learned (sadly) that one has no control over these things...

Freshflower · 26/01/2025 17:06

Inappropriate at the pool. I remember seeing this lady , who wore a very revealing and skimpy bikini to the pool. She came in with small children but let them splash about in the children's pool while she stool out the pool at the side , hand on one hip in various poses like she thought she was God's gift to the world. I just thought how Inappropriate, like anyone cares about how you look at the pool when the rest of us parents are having fun with our children. She never even put her toe in the pool the whole time , more concerned about how she looked , her clevage and buttocks out in full show

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · 26/01/2025 17:06

Doesn't bother me. I don't tend to stare at other people's arses no matter how covered or uncovered they are.

Burntout101 · 26/01/2025 17:05

Yep, put your bum cheeks away !

obsessedwithfreshbread · 26/01/2025 17:05

I have no issue with them... almost everyone has part of their arse cheeks out in swimwear, unless they are wearing the modesty suits.

I don't wear thong swimwear but thong underwear is much more comfortable than regular big pants... I can always feel the material sat on my cheeks and it feels very weird... but I have been wearing thongs for about 30 years so it's what you get used to I suppose!

Fran2023 · 26/01/2025 17:04

PurpleDiva22 · 26/01/2025 17:01

Are children and grannies not people or why did you name them separately? I really couldn't give a fuck what other people think to be honest, and I imagine the vast majority of people aren't giving a second thought to my choice of swimwear. I just want to be comfortable.

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Not sure how a tight piece of fabric rubbing against your arsehole is more comfortable than a pair of properly fitted briefs, but you do you I guess.

Mapandthermos · 26/01/2025 17:04

PurpleDiva22 · 26/01/2025 16:48

Because I find them more comfortable than standard bikini bottoms.

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Really?
In what way are the standard ones uncomfortable?
Genuine question.

Thisisthemomentforchange · 26/01/2025 17:04

Shade17 · 26/01/2025 16:49

You know the water in a swimming pool washes the arsehole of everyone in there? Being covered by swimwear makes no difference whatsoever.

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Well it might do.
But at least when the water washes the arse of a covered bum at least some of the matter it might wash off will hopefully be retained inside the material of swimwear.

BeansOnRoast · 26/01/2025 17:03

Very odd behaviour to be staring at other people's bodies so much.

TheTimeHasComeMyLittleFriendsToTalkOfOtherThings · 26/01/2025 17:03

Fart filtering 😆

The hygiene element doesn't make sense, arse cheeks are what they are either bare or covered.
I can't get too outraged about what other people wear. I don't like it, I don't think it's a good look on most, but let's face it standard costumes show every curve etc too and isn't overly flattering on most including me. But who cares, I'm here to swim and exist the same as everyone else, not to be a model. As for kids seeing adult's bodies, men's swimwear other than v baggy shorts is far more exposing of every nook and cranny you don't usually see 😳

HollyKnight · 26/01/2025 17:02

My poor hemorrhoid would never forgive me.

PurpleDiva22 · 26/01/2025 17:01

Yogaatsunrise · 26/01/2025 16:50

It looks ugly and unsightly and people are cringing for you. So whilst you might be comfortable, you may like to consider what you are inflicting on other people, children and grannies! It’s not a good look, sorry.

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Are children and grannies not people or why did you name them separately? I really couldn't give a fuck what other people think to be honest, and I imagine the vast majority of people aren't giving a second thought to my choice of swimwear. I just want to be comfortable.

Nannylovesshopping · 26/01/2025 17:01

I think people nowadays want to show off their bodies more, fat/thin, at my gym in changing room, boobs fannies arses everywhere, don’t think any kind of modesty exists anymore!

housemaus · 26/01/2025 17:01

weirdoboelady · 26/01/2025 16:54

For those who don't understand the hygiene issue - surely 'proper' swimwear filters farts?

Are you fundamentally misunderstanding what a thong is or have they changed them since I last checked and they now cut-out over your arsehole?

Sheknowsaboutme · 26/01/2025 17:01

AngelinaFibres · 26/01/2025 17:00

They are always worn by people who imagine they look like the models in the pictures. Sadly they are very much the flat arse brigade.

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Or the ones with huge ones. Either way, its awful.

housemaus · 26/01/2025 17:00

PretendToBeToastWithMe · 26/01/2025 16:51

Totally grim, especially in a pool/spa environment where they may be sitting in a sauna or steam room in the same place someone else will come and put their bum when they leave 🤢.

Oh no, not the bum-cheek-specific germs... 🙄

AngelinaFibres · 26/01/2025 17:00

Sheknowsaboutme · 26/01/2025 16:35

The same with those arse enhancing leggings. Just dont🤮

They are always worn by people who imagine they look like the models in the pictures. Sadly they are very much the flat arse brigade.

mitogoshigg · 26/01/2025 16:58

@LadyWiddiothethird

I find bikinis more comfortable than one pieces though all of mine have underwire and substantial hold it all in bottoms, thongs are incredibly uncomfortable always. I'd say my bikinis are more respectable than most one pieces because they support my substantial top half better

Cherry8809 · 26/01/2025 16:57

I wouldn’t wear them myself but I wouldn’t care in the slightest if someone else did.

DoubleDoubleDown · 26/01/2025 16:56

I wear full arse coverage myself but surely apart from the walk to / from the change room,it's underwater and out of view?. I'm more grossed out by hairy backs than a bit of cheek.

IAmADescendantOfSweepTheSqueakyLegend · 26/01/2025 16:56

weirdoboelady · 26/01/2025 16:54

For those who don't understand the hygiene issue - surely 'proper' swimwear filters farts?

Could you link to a fart-filtering bikini, please? I'm serious.

crumblingschools · 26/01/2025 16:55

How can something with a bit of cheese wire separating your bum cheeks be more comfortable than material that sits on your bum cheeks?

MayaPinion · 26/01/2025 16:55

Nobody needs to see an arse hanging out when they’re trying to do the backstroke at the local municipal pool. It’s very needy and LOOK AT MY ARSE.