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To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

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Whatkatyforgottodo · 26/01/2025 16:21

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

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chargeitup · 26/01/2025 17:28

Thisisthemomentforchange · 26/01/2025 16:35

Tbh I have a real issue with the hygiene of thongs.
I wouldn't want to swim in a swimming pool where people were going in the water wearing thong type swim wear.

I know realistically people urinate in pools and thats bad enough but the thought of people swimming without their bums being covered repulses me.

You seem to not realise that the only part of a bum that is in any way 'dirty' is the arsehole and things cover arseholes. Buttocks are not dirty.

PurpleDiva22 · 26/01/2025 17:27

TheMarzipanDildo · 26/01/2025 17:26

Appropriateness aside, it’s rarely a flattering look but I assume most thong wearers aren’t bothered what I think.

Are any swimsuits really that flattering though?

JessiesJ99 · 26/01/2025 17:26

Vicliz24 · 26/01/2025 16:32

It always amazes me that topless sunbathing is now frowned upon and yet everyone has their arse hanging out . On 99.9 % it's just not a good look .

Is topless sunbathing now frowned upon? I didn't realise that. I got my tits out all around the world before having kids. I'm surprised really to hear this.

TheMarzipanDildo · 26/01/2025 17:26

Appropriateness aside, it’s rarely a flattering look but I assume most thong wearers aren’t bothered what I think.

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · 26/01/2025 17:25

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/01/2025 17:23

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · Today 17:18

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 17:16
BeansOnRoast · Today 17:03
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Very odd behaviour to be staring at other people's bodies so much

Pretty bloody hard to miss them when you’re 4 years old and your face is at arse height!
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Four year olds aren't naturally bothered about seeing arses. It's only an issue if you make it one.

No-one has ever made an issue of it in our family but I can pretty much guarantee that our 4 year old grandchild would trill very loudly, “I can see their butt”

Long time ago now but both of our kids had their “bumface” and “poo-poo” head phases. 🤣

Wouldn't bother me haha. I don't mind being the butt of a four year olds jokes 😂

Eyesopenwideawake · 26/01/2025 17:25

Thisisthemomentforchange · 26/01/2025 16:35

Tbh I have a real issue with the hygiene of thongs.
I wouldn't want to swim in a swimming pool where people were going in the water wearing thong type swim wear.

I know realistically people urinate in pools and thats bad enough but the thought of people swimming without their bums being covered repulses me.

Why? It's not as though you're going to catch anything, is it?

NPET · 26/01/2025 17:25

Apart from anything else it's embarrassing. Little boys won't exactly hide their amusement at seeing them.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/01/2025 17:24

Yogaatsunrise · 26/01/2025 16:50

It looks ugly and unsightly and people are cringing for you. So whilst you might be comfortable, you may like to consider what you are inflicting on other people, children and grannies! It’s not a good look, sorry.

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Personally, I'm not looking at other people's arses, much less judging them for wearing a swimming costume.

Neither are most 'grannies' - even if they tend to count themselves as people, largely - we're more concerned about aggressive swimmers charging through us as though we're not there, feral children landing on our heads, shitting or puking in the pool or, most likely of all, having other people judging us for not having perfect bodies.

Ladamesansmerci · 26/01/2025 17:24

I didn't realise anyone actually wore these outside of Love Island 🤣

WonderingWanda · 26/01/2025 17:24

ThriveIn2025 · 26/01/2025 16:44

Oh and I had to shush my son from saying “butt cheeks” repeatedly.

You should've let him carry on, it might've helped her realise it wasn't the appropriate place to have her arse cheeks out on display 🤣

oakleaffy · 26/01/2025 17:24

Cattenberg · 26/01/2025 16:53

That’s what I thought. 🤢

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The thought of washing around grimy arseholes and genitalia does put me off.

BOAK.

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/01/2025 17:23

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · Today 17:18

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 17:16
BeansOnRoast · Today 17:03
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Very odd behaviour to be staring at other people's bodies so much

Pretty bloody hard to miss them when you’re 4 years old and your face is at arse height!
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Four year olds aren't naturally bothered about seeing arses. It's only an issue if you make it one.

No-one has ever made an issue of it in our family but I can pretty much guarantee that our 4 year old grandchild would trill very loudly, “I can see their butt”

Long time ago now but both of our kids had their “bumface” and “poo-poo” head phases. 🤣

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · 26/01/2025 17:23

WellsAndThistles · 26/01/2025 17:19

My 4 year old thought bums and the word bum was the funniest thing ever 😂

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Probably because people act like it's embarrassing to have a bum, even though we all have one. I don't mind a bit of bum humour though so maybe I'm with your four year old 😂

Winterskyfall · 26/01/2025 17:23

ThriveIn2025 · 26/01/2025 16:44

Oh and I had to shush my son from saying “butt cheeks” repeatedly.

I wouldn't shush him, it's a fair comment.

Pineconesandterracotta · 26/01/2025 17:21

I think this is hilarious, I couldn’t give two hoots what anyone else is wearing at a swimming pool! And yes I would be there in my full arse covering one piece with my husband and 3 children. As long as people are ACTING appropriately (ie no heavy petting or anything) then crack on with your crack out I say 😂

BeansOnRoast · 26/01/2025 17:20

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/01/2025 17:16

BeansOnRoast · Today 17:03
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Very odd behaviour to be staring at other people's bodies so much

Pretty bloody hard to miss them when you’re 4 years old and your face is at arse height!

Yeah because you're all 4 yr olds posting on MN aren't you 🤣

MightyGoldBear · 26/01/2025 17:20

Oh I'm with you op. Early thirties so not sure I'm an oldie pearl clutcher just yet 😂

I accept I might see these more on holidays aimed at 18 to thirties adults only maguluf type scene.

But our UK holiday to haven in a indoor pool where its mostly for kids my poor 7 year old is very much bum height and didn't want to be nose to bare cheek with a woman in line for the flume. Obviously we swapped places.

I can't imagine they are comfy. I can't imagine why I'd be going out of my way to look/feel sexy? In an indoor pool environment aimed at kids.

I really dislike thongs for so many reasons I don't want to have to see anyone else in them especially with My children and in such close proximity. It seems such a odd choice for a family environment.

My main aim swimming is comfort. I remember being younger and wearing smaller swimsuits and just worrying the entire time if bits of me were falling out. So I ditched them and haven't looked back.

Unrepentantfarter · 26/01/2025 17:20

If anything, I tend to be slightly envious - my own arse may be reasonably pert and round, but it's also pale and spotty 🤢

Thisisthemomentforchange · 26/01/2025 17:19

penguinta · 26/01/2025 17:16

That’s er, not how it works.

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Psychologically that's how it works for me.

BeansOnRoast · 26/01/2025 17:19

Some of you are showing that you clearly don't wash your arse properly.
Grim.

HelpMeGetThrough · 26/01/2025 17:19

weirdoboelady · 26/01/2025 16:54

For those who don't understand the hygiene issue - surely 'proper' swimwear filters farts?

This could go the same way as mask wearing during Covid.

WellsAndThistles · 26/01/2025 17:19

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · 26/01/2025 17:18

Four year olds aren't naturally bothered about seeing arses. It's only an issue if you make it one.

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My 4 year old thought bums and the word bum was the funniest thing ever 😂

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 26/01/2025 17:18

I just think there is a level of decency that should be displayed in a confined area such as a pool, after all a beach is huge in comparison.

Arses, boob, side boob, under boob, and penis bulges should be covered.

But then, I see school girls walking to school with their skirt rolled up so much their ass cheeks are hanging out so apparently it's the done thing to be on display.

Don't get me started on the gym leggings in fashion these days.

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · 26/01/2025 17:18

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/01/2025 17:16

BeansOnRoast · Today 17:03
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Very odd behaviour to be staring at other people's bodies so much

Pretty bloody hard to miss them when you’re 4 years old and your face is at arse height!

Four year olds aren't naturally bothered about seeing arses. It's only an issue if you make it one.

WellsAndThistles · 26/01/2025 17:16

They are gross. Also horified to note that a lot of people have hairy arseholes and obviously don't realise 🤢. Believe me I was desperately trying not to look but suddenly bending over at my eye level from the poolside while I was sitting on the edge of the pool.....bumhole spiders legs....shudder.

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