To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

Nope - a beach is one thing but a public pool another thing entirely.

Not so long ago took kids swimming at local pool and woman with her baby and Partner bobbing about and the woman was practically naked. Think triangles over her fake tits and thong bottoms, absolutely minging and my teen boy was mortified. she spent the whole time drying not to fall out of the top and was loud and screechy about it too… bloody annoying.

Exactly this, but the female version in a thong bikini

Performative in that on a packed Sunday afternoon family swim she took 20 mins to shower herself and her two kids, full condition and hair brush, endless bending over and bum rubbing. And yes, I did time it because I was cold and wanting to get out of the pool. Hardly a weirdo not wanting kids between the ages of 8-15 watching her endlessly bending over rubbing her butt. Maybe she was the weirdo wanting to rub her arse in front children?

Oh come off it with the fake outrage - nobody who wears a swimsuit with a thong showing their bum is doing it “non-performatively”. The entire point is so that people can see your bum cheeks.The point of the thing is so that people can see areas of your body that are heavily sexualised and usually covered. The point is to look sexualised and to be titillating. Of course it’s performative!

Acting out sexist objectification is not body positivity. Next thing you’ll be suggesting that pole dancing or porny twerking is just for simple exercise and how could anyone possibly suggest that it might be “performative”?

No doubt the people here slut-shaming and body-shaming will be the same people spouting off about "wear what you want" and "dress for you" and "want a beach body? Go to the beach and put your body on it", but only if it's an outfit that meets your approval and isn't performative, eh?

Like topless, they are OK on a beach, (and I still think thong pants look crude, even on a beach) definitely not in a swimming pool.

To me, it smacks of desperation to be noticed.

I can’t work out if this is disturbing or hilarious

I've seen a man have a performative shower by the pool after he'd come out of the sauna. He stood there for ages slowly rubbing his torso, pulled his trunks open at the front and back, kept doing full 360s etc. He wasn't washing to get back in the pool, he went to the changing room immediately after.

And yes I did watch him, because I found his behaviour fascinating, and the women in the jacuzzi with me commented on the floor show. So job done for him.

What exactly in a performative shower? Good to see internalised misogyny alive and well on MN where things automatically equals utter slut flaunting herself in front of the lifeguard. Maybe she was simply just taking a fucking shower and doesn't need the judgement of the weirdo timing her from the sidelines?

Is it even possible to swim properly in them? Almost everyone I see at the pool is now wearing kneeskins - once you've tried them you'll never go back. It's only the older ladies who are still in conventional high cut swimming costumes. Don't think I've ever seen a bikini, let alone one of the thong ones.

Late to the party but absolutely agree. I went swimming at the weekend with family and there was a woman in a thong bikini swimming with her two young children. She had a great body and obviously worked out but having her arse hanging out did her absolutely no favours. She had a very long performative shower as well by the side of the pool - obviously wanting attention from the ogling lifeguard and various men bobbing around in the pool. The children I was with thought it was hilarious that they could see her bum.

Why would anyone be jealous? Unless someone, somewhere is desperate for a thong, but can’t afford one perhaps?

You are confusing mumsnet with the general population. It's not. Is a self selecting group.

I meant to quote a post from ARingtoit who asked if people who didn't like the bare bottom look were possibly jealous. I don't think the vast majority of posters here are in the least bit jealous of women who display their bare bottoms. Personally I feel embarrassed for them & certainly not jealous.

@NeverDropYourMooncup

I think you’d have to be pretty confident to wear something that not only a lot of other people disliked (83% of us on this thread) but also reminds everyone of mating baboons 😂

What if they are confident to wear what they like - and what they like is the thong style costume?

(Said as somebody who prefers knee length jammers and well covered top & arms).

What is a tight booty cut style?

But it's about dignity and privacy - not just a case of keeping any interested parties guessing exactly what shape your bits might be, should they be so inclined.

Yes, you may have boobs/arse/genitals that look exactly like those of millions of other people's - but that doesn't mean there's no personal desire to keep yours private so that nobody sees them except you and people very close to you.

You might as well say that we should get rid of cubicles in public and work toilets and just have a line of toilet pans out in the open - on the grounds that everybody's wee and turds - and the methods of expelling them - are pretty much the same and are nothing new that anybody hasn't seen before!

Why insist on having sex in private, behind closed doors, when you're just doing exactly the same acts in the exact same positions that everybody else has almost certainly done?!

Euuw. Let's at least hope that they all had a really good scrub with a JML Crevice Brush before they put on their costumes.

Not you or anyone in particular. Just a thought I had after I wondered why I didn't like it!

Me? There seem to be lots of reasons expressed on this thread, I would not presume to lump the dislikers all together!

Cocks are different - they definitely all look different and have some mystique until uncovered. As for nipples, to be honest I'm inclined to agree with you (although they're all a bit different when revealed).

Went to a David Lloyd Health Centre this morning. The gym was jam-packed full of women in their Twenties with bare midriffs in staggeringly tight leggings. These are clearly deliberately designed to show off the curves as much as is humanly possible. An hour later I was in the sauna where it felt like being in the middle of a club 18 30 holiday. There were many tiny tiny bikinis.

Absolutely not. My niece looks like a super model but shorter. She absolutely hates the bare bum look as do many of her friends. They think it's highly embarrassing.