To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

I also don’t sit on loos - ours at home, where I probably don’t swish the dettol as often as I could - at work, out in public, etc., with my arm. Whereas I do with my bum. Come on - we all know the bum isn’t particularly clean and whereas it’s all going in the pool anyway (and that’s what the chlorine is for), let’s not pretend bum skin doesn’t have a lot more bacterial culture on it than other parts of the body. And yes a thong is getting in there churning it all up right at the anus where there’s plenty of poo crumbs etc. so it can all work its way out into the pool 🤣 Plenty of people also have poor faecal hygiene, skin infections in the arse crack and so on. Lovely.

Pool water isn’t that clean anyway, but honestly, don’t tell me that the arse crack is just another bit of the body exactly like your arm. What a disingenuous load of rubbish! You’d be pretty horrified if John from accounts at work came over to your chair and sat on it with his bare bum, no? Rather less so if he brushed it with his hand or sat on it fully clothed. And we all know, as other posters have said, that you wouldn’t put a child in a thong bikini on the grounds that it was just an ordinary bit of body, no big deal. So please give up on the pretending that the bum (especially in the current porny culture of twerking and normalising anal sex) isn’t also to do with sex as much as bodily functions.

But luckily we don’t actually need to see that in motion do we. This thread has really put me off certain holidays. Just yuk

It looks so cheap.

Now I love a bum, especailly my own, and I do not fancy flossing my own arsehole with a thong. But good luck to those who do.

I don't see the logic there, board shorts have the same access for water to go to their anus

At least with proper swimwear we don’t end up with full visuals of said ‘shit crumbs’ descending into the water. Isn’t that the whole point? I don’t want the nauseating sight of what people have had for bloody breakfast on full display at 9am 🤢🤢🤢🤮
Just put it all away fgs.

Most people aren't even noticing.

I was going to say the same thing.

There is definitely someone disgusting here and it isn't the women in thong bikinis.

Did you just say developed young girls " parade " around in front of their fathers?

Do you know how gross that sounds?

Omg yes 😰

I think men are designed to consider how attractive women are in the same way as women consider what they find physically attractive in men. Its natural.

Again regarding thong bikinis there is another thought that crossed my mind that hasn't been mentioned. I often see families on holiday where there are fully developed young girls & older parading about in a thong bikini in front of their father. I could never present my adult bare bum to my father. I'd be mortified but thankfully this wasn't a trend in my day. Bikinis were definitely small but thankfully bare bums weren't on show.

I don't really have an issue with the type of swimwear another person wears. I wouldn't wear them myself but it's up to others what they wear.

As for the hygiene thing, I don't see how a thong pant is less hygienic than other swimwear, if you've got shit crumbs on your arsehole they'll end up in the water regardless.

Then it seems you imagine wrong? Most people are either grimacing or smirking at the sight of your butt. And FGS please don’t bend over 🤣

YANBU.

Comparing fgm with your right to expose your arse, is a bit of a fucking leap, to quote a pp, as well as offensive

I don't find the human body or skin disgusting. I don't think skin on the bum is different to skin on the arm. It's just skin.

Hmm, you could just as easily say skin on the penis or vulva is just skin though @user1471538275.

The bum area is seen in Western culture as a private part of the body. That’s what we teach young children in the staying safe lessons. It’s really not seen as the same as an arm in our culture at least.

Of course it’s not disgusting, that’s not it at all, but it’s an area that is usually kept more private. I think the change in that, especially as it’s primarily for one sex only, is exploitative.

There is a very fit and lifted/no extra fat bottom at my gym , such is the pertness that the up your bum leggings seem to cling to her actual bum hole.. It's really odd, there is an indent where her bum hole is. I do not think I have ever typed bum hole before! It's not apparent on other more fuller bottoms. I think it is because her bum cheeks are very separate, not squished like most peoples..

We've been to a local pool today. Absolutey loads of little kids and was really surprised how many early 20s had thong bikinis on. One also had very little coverage of the front part either.

I wouldn't say I'm prudish and wouldn't think anything of it on the beach but a local pool seemed a bit much.

I actually have a great deal of respect for my body, so much so I don’t feel the need to share it with the whole world. I have self respect.

I do not want to be masquerading as a porn star at the public pool at family swim time, I have daughters, and it’s taken me a long time to instil in them that their bodies do not exist for the male gaze. That they can be free, and swimwear is worn to swim, to throw themselves in the water, to dive etc without worrying about whether their string thong bikini will survive. It would be counter intuitive.

Would you dress your seven year old in a skimpy thong? And if not, why not? If all of this is just harmless. Social services might be called if you did. It would certainly be seen as a safe guarding issue. Why? Why aren’t we all dressing our children like you?

Over sexualisation has become insidious. Your faux wide eyed claims that it’s just a body and no big deal is very regressive because unless you can categorically say you are happy for your pre teen child to expose her arse crack in public in the same way you do, you really can’t pretend it’s harmless can you. It’s just peddling more porn culture, let’s call it out for what it is.

In reality it’s bloody grim for those around you, and a very poor example to your dc.

Obviously I don't think the issue is incontinence or I would have said so. After someone's been to the toilet in the middle of the day, though, I doubt the area around their anus is as clean as it was at the start of the day. So I'm sorry, but I just can't help seeing thongs as grubby, because of what and where they are. It's not something I'm wilfully choosing to feel because I want to be judgmental.

So I guess what you’re saying is that it doesn’t matter what you wear as a women, men (and women - especially the women of mumsnet!) will be objectifying you and judging you anyway. Nothing has changed. Just another stick to beat women with. Too modest too slutty too bad.

I have fashionable & imo beautiful young female relatives. There is one in particular with stunning looks & figure who said there is nothing that would persuade her to wear a thong bikini & have men of all ages ogling her bare bum. She has a steady boyfriend & is admittedly quite modest with her dress sense in general. It doesn't stop her getting male attention, in fact from what Ive heard she gets far more unwanred attention than her scantily clad contemporaries 🤦‍♀️

Perhaps it's their only swimming costume?

@Mapandthermos Oh there is definitely pressure. I know that. I've felt that.

I just don't think every single woman responds to it. Some accept it, some reject it.

I'm okay with either choice - and I agree that few choices are entirely free from influence - but those influences are very wide - not just porn influences, but also societally influenced, family influenced, peer influenced.

I actually dislike thongs by the way. But I will argue to the death (which it feels like I have done on this thread by the way) for a woman's right to wear what she chooses.

I also hate fashion, especially high fashion which might not emulate porn, but certainly doesn't seem to put women's comfort first.

I don't find the human body or skin disgusting. I don't think skin on the bum is different to skin on the arm. It's just skin.

I bid you all good night. It is an interesting topic to discuss.

was it at least something worth looking and getting upset about LOL

No - either the point here is whizzing right over your head, or you too are saturated in porn culture and the need to defend it.

These are negative SOCIAL judgments. Clearly none of us have been marching up to personal individuals in the pool ordering them to cover up. What we are discussing here on an anonymous (impersonal) forum are SOCIAL trends (and harms). HTH.