To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

Whatkatyforgottodo · 2025-01-26T16:21:35+00:00

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

Tamar2 · 23/08/2025 10:15

I would really rather not see bare arses at the swimming pool. I would also rather not see men in speedos, if it was up to me everyone male and female would wear swim shorts with all their bits fully covered but I realise I'm in the minority!

KimberleyClark · 23/08/2025 08:07

I saw a young girl wearing thong bikini bottoms at a holiday resort, she was also wearing a backpack which covered the top of the thong, so looked completely naked from the waist down.

CherryFlan · 23/08/2025 00:42

Chompingatthebeat · 22/08/2025 22:41

At what age does one stop firmly putting their bum on display?

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In my case seemed to be around 40.

Chompingatthebeat · 22/08/2025 22:41

CherryFlan · 21/08/2025 17:06

Tough tits, my bum stays firmly on display. (Although not the tough tits. And the bum is not so firm these days).

At what age does one stop firmly putting their bum on display?

MySweetGeorgina · 22/08/2025 22:29

I see it a lot in my gym

does not bother me at all. Would not even care if people were naked 😁 it’s just a body M/F

i don’t really get why people wear anything in a sauna in the U.K., that never makes sense to me

but reading this thread helps me understand 😅

Horsie · 22/08/2025 00:50

Hoppinggreen · 26/01/2025 16:41

DD18 wears brazillian bikini bottoms on holiday but in a spa she wears something more appropriate.
No need for arse showing in indoor pools

Great, all the pervs will be leering at her on holiday. Yuck.

Horsie · 22/08/2025 00:47

I completely agree, OP. I hate it when people wear thong swimwear. I don't want my man looking at lots of other women's naked bums. When I was young and slim, it would never have occurred to me to wear such a thing in public, and I don't know how they're not cringing with embarrassment at having their entire bare bottoms on display. I think they look completely tarty and lower-class.

Dancingintherainxxx · 22/08/2025 00:37

One of our mates kept wearing costumes like this around us.. don't want to see my mates hole.. she stopped getting invited

She's the type who wonders why people Star at her in gym clothes.. if they're up you're arse you need to size up 🤣

Mapandthermos · 21/08/2025 23:44

Okay, thanks

CherryFlan · 21/08/2025 18:48

Mapandthermos · 21/08/2025 17:30

Why though? Genuine question.

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It's a fair question. I rather like that look and I don't feel uncomfortable in the way that others seem to, I don't think there's much more to it than that.

Mapandthermos · 21/08/2025 17:30

CherryFlan · 21/08/2025 17:06

Tough tits, my bum stays firmly on display. (Although not the tough tits. And the bum is not so firm these days).

Why though? Genuine question.

CherryFlan · 21/08/2025 17:06

Tough tits, my bum stays firmly on display. (Although not the tough tits. And the bum is not so firm these days).

JohnofWessex · 20/08/2025 17:38

No ifs and definitely no Butts!

DeeKitch · 20/08/2025 17:24

ThriveIn2025 · 26/01/2025 16:44

Oh and I had to shush my son from saying “butt cheeks” repeatedly.

Bless him ha ha!

Hoppinggreen · 25/02/2025 11:47

Preciousmoments18 · 25/02/2025 11:04

When I see teenage girls & older on a beach wearing thong bikinis in front of their fathers I've often thought are they not embarrassed to be exposing their boobs & bum in front of them. A proper bikini or a swimsuit would be less embarrassing for fathers having to deal with the side glances.

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On a recent holiday to Mexico DD18 was wearing not a thong exactly but there was a LOT of flesh on display. DH was pretty oblivious but DS 15 was mortified

Preciousmoments18 · 25/02/2025 11:04

LivesinLondon2000 · 18/02/2025 18:12

@onwardsup4
Actually I did ask some of my male friends who are Dads and none of them are happy for their teenage daughters to wear thong bikinis at all - even on a beach! And they all thought it was bit much for anyone to be wearing them at a public swimming pool. They’re quite a conservative lot though so prob not representative of all men but it was still interesting to hear.

When I see teenage girls & older on a beach wearing thong bikinis in front of their fathers I've often thought are they not embarrassed to be exposing their boobs & bum in front of them. A proper bikini or a swimsuit would be less embarrassing for fathers having to deal with the side glances.

LivesinLondon2000 · 18/02/2025 18:12

@onwardsup4
Actually I did ask some of my male friends who are Dads and none of them are happy for their teenage daughters to wear thong bikinis at all - even on a beach! And they all thought it was bit much for anyone to be wearing them at a public swimming pool. They’re quite a conservative lot though so prob not representative of all men but it was still interesting to hear.

onwardsup4 · 18/02/2025 14:09

@LivesinLondon2000 not sure about the 100% of men tbh. Yes many will take a side glance as is human nature but I think many will also find it uncomfortable when with children/partner. And yea who cares what the menz think anyway blah blah but it's not a societal norm to go around with your whole arse on display or wish to see it and I don't know why anyone would be insisting it is or trying to make it so

LivesinLondon2000 · 17/02/2025 19:21

@MugsyBalonz
Agree but it might possibly be representative of mums’ opinions - and 83% of them is still a lot of people - though yes of course far less than 83% of the entire female population & certainly not total population (especially as we can maybe assume close to 100% of men might well be in favour 😂)

Preciousmoments18 · 17/02/2025 15:55

Everintroverte · 07/02/2025 21:38

Performative in that on a packed Sunday afternoon family swim she took 20 mins to shower herself and her two kids, full condition and hair brush, endless bending over and bum rubbing. And yes, I did time it because I was cold and wanting to get out of the pool. Hardly a weirdo not wanting kids between the ages of 8-15 watching her endlessly bending over rubbing her butt. Maybe she was the weirdo wanting to rub her arse in front children?

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Sounds like an exhibitionist with no shame.

MugsyBalonz · 17/02/2025 15:47

Mumsnet is not "the vast majority of women" and is not a representative sample of the general population either nationally or globally.

Preciousmoments18 · 17/02/2025 15:45

@MugsyBalonz I think 83% represents the vast majority. I'm sure they're not all prudes or old fogies either. They are simply women who have no desire to display their bare bottoms in public or to witness them, especially in front of young children.

MugsyBalonz · 17/02/2025 13:54

You don't speak for the vast majority of women, you speak for yourself and that's it just as everyone else's speaks for their own self. No one appointed you spokeswoman.

Preciousmoments18 · 16/02/2025 23:59

MugsyBalonz · 07/02/2025 16:39

What exactly in a performative shower? Good to see internalised misogyny alive and well on MN where things automatically equals utter slut flaunting herself in front of the lifeguard. Maybe she was simply just taking a fucking shower and doesn't need the judgement of the weirdo timing her from the sidelines?

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Please don't stick up for this trend. The vast majority of women think thong bikinis are disgusting.

Preciousmoments18 · 16/02/2025 23:52

ARingtoit · 01/02/2025 11:57

Do you think we don't like them because we are jealous?

Jealous of women who display their naked bum in public😅