To not be fussed about shaven legs and swimming

You can bet your life men aren’t having these conversations about their peers.

Your body your choice! The extreme expectations placed on women, and policed by women, are the reason women’s lives and appearance are deemed public property — which they are not.

You don’t need to groom, dress or smile for anyone else.

Why would you be bothered if someone related to you shaves. Why would you care

I go swimming every day and I keep everything shaved all the time, I wouldn’t really notice though if I saw a woman with hairy legs and arm pits. That’s not because I’m a nice un judgey person either because I notice other things and think yuk 😄

I can see the confusion, looking at the picture, as it looks like a wet razor attachment. As you used it in the shower, I am guessing you didn't switch it on. If it's an electric attachment, it's designed to be used dry with battery power. It won't do anything if you use it like a wet razor, you need to use it like an electric shaver.

I take my daughter swimming every week and I do not shave for it. If I am hairy I’m hairy. If I happened to have shaved great! My hair is so dark and grows back quickly. If I shave too regularly it causes ingrown hairs and issues so I don’t bother.

No problem whatsoever, I don't understand why women are pressured to be clean of body hair all over.
Natural is best and if your happy then its a plus?

Why? Can you explain what business it is of yours.

Personally I can’t be bothered to be offended by whether someone who is not related to me shaves or not.

I do hope you wouldn’t be too upset if told to fuck off with your opinion and I would drop you like a stone. I certainly hope you are perfect in every way to judge friends to that extent.

You are Duncan Goodhew and I claim my £5.

I've not shaved leg hair for years (okay I am 64). It's never been particularly noticeable unlike my arm hair but I rarely shave that either.

I think we spend too much time pandering to the patriarchy's idea of what a woman should be.

Should everyone shave their heads before swimming if this is the case? 😂

I don't wear make up or high heels and I don't carry a handbag. I also only shave my legs in summer. So I'm obviously a man. Thanks for letting me know.

You just need the confidence to reject the patriarchy. I hope all the posts on this thread help you to find it. 💐

I’m pleased to read of this mindset in the 40s. I only got there within the past year at 65. My somewhat hairy legs are no one else’s business. I’m going to Tenerife on Friday. I will shave them before going there because I will be happier with smooth legs in the sunshine, but I won’t be taking a shaver with me for the little hairs coming through though. Going swimming and wearing shorts at home though, nah!

Your friend’s ‘horror’ is her issue. Maybe she will learn to accept a/her body being natural eventually. Maybe thinking about your stance will help her on her way!

I did something very similar one winter and have only shaved them on a few occasions since (always regretted it and let it regrow). It really feels much nicer.

I did this a few times as a teenager, after a couple of comments - I thought it was the norm for a while. Then I realised that most people didn't actually shave their arms - my hair was just darker and more noticeable.

In a minute way this reminds me of the women who work for the “morality police” under misogynistic islamic regimes, although of course those women may well be under fear of violence if they don’t take part.
It is a sad state of affairs that even women here feel the need to remind other women on grooming procedures which generally arise from making us more appealing to the male gaze.

YOU are "society" You don't need a campaign, just do what you want.

I’ e seen a few comments about shaving arms here. I have hairy arms but I have never shaved them. The hair is a different texture to leg hair, more downy - but even if it wasn’t, why does it matter?

I've never noticed others' leg hair (or not) when swimming or at classes.

Once, many years ago I noticed a woman with longer, natural underarm hair in the showers. I remember it because it was relatively unusual, but actually it looked a lot softer and nicer than I thought it would be.

I few years ago I managed a winter without having to expose my arm pits and let it grow, and I preferred it. It was less sweaty as the hair did it's natural job of wicking sweat off the arm pit. If society dropped the expectatation of women to be body-hairless, I'd happily embrace it.

I wish there was a campaign to accept or even embrace our natural bodily features. Hair isn't dirty or stinky.

Yanbu and I’ve never noticed another woman’s legs at the pool. Your acquaintance is rude.

I'm a regular swimmer. The only thing I pay attention to is whether or not someone is being a knob in the lanes.

I don’t know if it’s been proven but I was once told that removing hair became popular as some men liked the pre puberty body of girls…..knowing this makes me feel a bit 🤢

I don't feel any less feminine with body hair. it doesn't make me look or feel like a man.
women grow hair on their bodies, so why would it be unfeminine?

I’ve taken up swimming regularly at a health club, so I’m now shaving my legs very carefully, as well as my other bits. Because I have very dark hairs and I can’t bear the idea of other people seeing them!

I know it shouldn’t matter and I don’t care what other people do! I quite admire people who are not bothered by what other people think.

Ultimately, it’s just a cultural thing anyway!

I couldn’t care less to be honest.