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To think that wolf whistling wasn't such a bad thing?

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NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 13:41

Joanna Lumley has just given an interview in which she says..."I never minded wolf whistling, I always thought it was tremendous".

She also said... "I think we were a little bit tougher then. Somebody put their hand on your leg, you didn’t feel affronted and report it. You’d give them a slap.”

Do you think she is right?

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ilovesooty · 26/01/2025 14:56

amoreoamicizia · 26/01/2025 14:40

There's such a chasm between what boomers like this and millennials like me (albeit elder millennial) think and have experienced. I find them difficult to relate to at all. At a certain point you have to accept that your way of thinking has been totally superseded.

I don't think it's necessarily a generational thing. I'm a boomer and I've never thought it was acceptable. My friend who is two years younger thinks women distressed by unwanted male attention are "snowflakes". And yes,, before anyone asks, I did challenge her. She also thinks many women who report rape are lying.

oakleaffy · 26/01/2025 14:55

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/01/2025 14:49

Not so great for the 10, 11 and 12 year olds who wear dresses or leggings and crop tops though, is it?

Girls in riding gear ( close fitting so as not to rub) also do not want to be catcalled.
It’s not appropriate and Intelligent men who have emotional intelligence wouldn’t do it.

TheCourseOfTheRiverChanged · 26/01/2025 14:55

Have we got to the bit where women share how old they were when first wolf whistled while crossing the highway to buy mum some milk?
I was ten.

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:54

TheWorminLabyrinth · 26/01/2025 14:46

You know what it means. If not, google is free.

Men do not think any better of you, and will not treat you any better, just because you pander to them.

I have been married for decades.😄

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Theuniversalshere1 · 26/01/2025 14:53

I worked somewhere where wolf whistles escalated to threats of anal rape for me at work... which I tried to ignore till it got too much.
When I reported it, I had fully grown men calling me a b!Tch in their 50s saying they get the sack caused of me.

Forced me out of a job I'd just got promoted to and left the company because I didn't feel safe.

So no, I don't agree.

thescandalwascontained · 26/01/2025 14:52

No, it was creepy and gross.
Men don't have the right to 'judge' women in this way, to harass women this way, to intimidate women this way, and that's what they're doing. Treating women as lesser beings to be judged by men as 'worthy sexually' to men or not.

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:51

hollowhallow · 26/01/2025 14:42

In those days you could slap a man for inappropriate behaviour but these days he'd retaliate and you'd come off far worse so reporting it is the only safe route now.

And this is progress?

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PokerFriedDips · 26/01/2025 14:50

That whole mindset can only exist built on foundations of agreeing that a woman's purpose is for the benefit of men, for decoration and sexual gratification. Whether taking it as a compliment or slappling the unwanted hand away, the idea that it "isn't too bad" requires all women to be second class citizens whose acceptability and power is graded according to appearance, whilst men (the real humans) get to thrive or not on the basis of intelligence and talent.

oakleaffy · 26/01/2025 14:50

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:44

He was a creep, end of.

Definitely.
He was on his own in the car as well, so not even saying it to be funny to another man.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/01/2025 14:49

tresales · 26/01/2025 14:08

I like being whistled at but I wear crop tops and dresses and spend alot of time at the gym/money on my appearance. I think it's uncalled for if a woman is dressed normally or jogging though

Not so great for the 10, 11 and 12 year olds who wear dresses or leggings and crop tops though, is it?

HelloMyNameIsElderSmurf · 26/01/2025 14:49

amoreoamicizia · 26/01/2025 14:40

There's such a chasm between what boomers like this and millennials like me (albeit elder millennial) think and have experienced. I find them difficult to relate to at all. At a certain point you have to accept that your way of thinking has been totally superseded.

99% of 'boomers like this' pushed back, got page 3 banned, got things like the Considerate Construction code off the ground, went to work in construction (though not enough of us to be fair) and told enough men to fuck off that wolf whistling has now become largely a thing of the past.

Joanna Lumley doesn't speak for me or for most people our age.

hollowhallow · 26/01/2025 14:48

I tried to report sexual abuse in school to my male head of year.
I ended up having to spend the rest of the day in the corridor as punishment for using inappropriate language (wank) while trying to describe what this man had done with his hand.
I didn't report it when it happened again.

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:48

Planesmistakenforstars · 26/01/2025 14:44

Men feel constrained that they can't sexually harass and assault women? Is this a joke?

Who said that?
The twisting of words is rife in here today.🙄

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ThoroughlyModernNotMillie · 26/01/2025 14:47

I never minded the wolf whistles, I never had any "get your tits out" comments because I've always been pretty much flat chested and the only actual comment I remember was "marry me!" from one builder. But I was in my late teens/20s when that happened, not a young girl and I didn't get any disgusting or inappropriate comments made by the whistlers.
I hated the unwanted hand on bum and leg thing though, haven't thought about it for decades but it happened so much you sort of got used to slapping men's hands away. Fortunately for me none of it was threatening but of course it's better to live in a society where women shouldn't have to deal with unwanted attention from men and men should never feel they have a right to touch a female without her permission.
I get what Joanna Lumley is saying because presumably she herself didn't mind and had no negative effects from it. However if she thinks her attitude should apply to all women then she is completely wrong.

Itiswhysofew · 26/01/2025 14:46

It was bad. It was relentless. Being bothered, leered at, constant commentary, eugh!

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 26/01/2025 14:46

hollowhallow · 26/01/2025 14:42

In those days you could slap a man for inappropriate behaviour but these days he'd retaliate and you'd come off far worse so reporting it is the only safe route now.

Women had the shit knocked out of them back then as well.

TheWorminLabyrinth · 26/01/2025 14:46

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:37

"Poor men. It's so sad. I do hope you get picked soon."

What does that actually mean?

You know what it means. If not, google is free.

Men do not think any better of you, and will not treat you any better, just because you pander to them.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 26/01/2025 14:45

Simonjt · 26/01/2025 14:34

If someone needs to be wolf whistled or groped to help with their self worth then they’re majorly fucked up.

Or a product of the misogynistic world we live in. I know better nowadays and we have a duty to teach the next generations better. As a teenager I thought "Love Actually" was romantic. As an adult i recognise it as the misogynistic claptrap it is.

Icanttakethisanymore · 26/01/2025 14:45

usser3245343 · 26/01/2025 14:33

She has a luxury view point, she has always had money and privilege. What is a hotel cleaner supposed to do when the manager who pays her puts his hand on her leg? What is a 15 yo in care to feel when she walks past a group of 50 football fans waiting for a coach and they all cat call and whistle at her? JL is being selfish and unthinking, as rich entitled people tend to be.

This is very much the point. JL doesn’t mind? Great, good for her. If she stops to think about the hotel cleaner in your example then hopefully she’d think twice about creating a society that accepts that type of behaviour.

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:44

oakleaffy · 26/01/2025 14:33

Absolutely hated it
Also when riding, I had a man slow his car and say “ Lucky saddle”- that was to a young teen
I only realised the implications as I got older.

He was a creep, end of.

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Planesmistakenforstars · 26/01/2025 14:44

Men feel constrained that they can't sexually harass and assault women? Is this a joke?

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:43

Hoppinggreen · 26/01/2025 14:39

This thread is one of the most depressing things I have read for a while.
Thinking men whistling at you is a compliment makes you stupid not attractive

Feel free to unwatch if it's depressing you.
For others, it's a thread to have their say on how women were treated, back in the day, whether male behaviour has improved for them....or not.

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Nicecuppatea2025 · 26/01/2025 14:42

NovemberMorn · 26/01/2025 14:25

You can say it as loud as you want to.😁
I personally think some women overact.
A wolf whistle never harmed anyone, unless the bloke whistling was so distracted he fell of the ladder.

Absolutely incorrect.
Wolf whistles can be harmful. It can make women fearful of walking past certain areas because of the unwanted attention, for example.
Receiving wolf whistles at 14 by big burly blokes on a building site was intimidating. I had to walk past them to get to the bus stop as there was no alternate route. Being hounded every single day made me stop wanting to go to school.

hollowhallow · 26/01/2025 14:42

In those days you could slap a man for inappropriate behaviour but these days he'd retaliate and you'd come off far worse so reporting it is the only safe route now.

amoreoamicizia · 26/01/2025 14:40

There's such a chasm between what boomers like this and millennials like me (albeit elder millennial) think and have experienced. I find them difficult to relate to at all. At a certain point you have to accept that your way of thinking has been totally superseded.

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