To think that wolf whistling wasn't such a bad thing?

Oh and I was offended by it back then, nothing to do with ‘nowadays’.

Do you think it’s just ‘flirtatious fun’ when it’s aimed at underage girls?

I'm old now, but when I was young I enjoyed it. Made me feel powerful. Never once have I felt threatened by a wolf whistle or cat call. I've generally found the quiet, watchful ones to be more threatening.
Seems I'm in a minority for this. So be it. I don't miss it.
But I do think this constant victimization of ourselves in general makes us believe we are less powerful.
I don't have any problems with self-esteem. I dealt with a few twats in my time, but still believe most men are fundamentally good people just like most women. Humans sometimes find themselves attracted to other humans and it's just a fact of life, wolf whistling always just seemed a part of that to me.
I still feel powerful now, just not through my looks or my sexuality.

I agree OP. It was just a bit of flirtatious fun and they were usually on a roof in broad daylight so never threatening!
Totally different from actual sexual harassment.

Everyone is looking to be offended nowadays but I’m not sure they’re any happier.

Sorry I missed my name being tagged @NovemberMorn

I'm glad you now understand that it was wrong to say that a wolf whistle never harmed anyone. Unsure why you said it in the first place if you do apparently understand that it could harm people but better late than never.

When you say yes, which post are you answering?

Me me me can't think beyond me, myself and I

but I personally never felt threatened by it. That's great. You weren't threatened by it. But it was part of a culture that allowed sexual harrassment and abuse, and a lot of women weren't just threatened but actually harmed. But you were OK.

As has been said...women and girls handled themselves back then. Only because they knew nobody else cared a damn. That it was acceptable to "try it on" with any female you came across. If a man was sexually harassing his secretaries, the solution was to provide him with older women, not to take it up with the man - how can that be right? The older men who have been outed as serial abusers of women all began their "careers" when "women could handle themselves".

@NovemberMorn

does this women pass your ridiculous assumptions about women handling themsleves.

https://metro.co.uk/video/man-climbs-train-tracks-harass-lone-woman-london-station-3043629/

The fact that women do know how to handle themselves and the fact they don't want to be wolf whistled at are not mutually exclusive.

Do you honestly think my DD's haven't been harassed by middle aged men and would be firmly in the camp ' don't want wolf whistles' and 'I know how to handle myself'

You come across with absolutely male entitlement and male understanding and that Mr Morn is the crux of this issue.

Sexual attraction to children = paedophile

Because everybody was so busy telling the women they needed to handle it, they never thought to spend a bit more time telling the men not to do it in the first place.

Now we are finally looking at doing something about the perpetrators, rather than 'educating' the victims, we might actually start to see change. It will take time, of course, but we would be a lot further down that road now if we'd always treated this as the men being the problem, not the women.

OP hasn't responded to a single one of my posts on this. I am not a 'modern' woman, either, but I am cheering modern women on for not thinking they have to pug up with it/deal with it and it's their problem if they don't like it.

It's not for us to 'toughen up'. We've been 'tough'. It's time for the men to do the work, shoulder the burden, 'handle' their own behaviour.

I never put up with it. They were always told to get fucked.

@NovemberMorn

A wolf whistle never harmed anyone, unless the bloke whistling was so distracted he fell of the ladder.

Having read posts from me and many many others who explained how upsetting we found it being wolf whistled by adult men as children, can you now acknowledge that on reflection, your statement 'a wolf whistle never harmed anyone' is clearly untrue?

I found it really intimidating when I was walking home from school alone, and the bloody horn honking. It was awful.

Of you had any self respect being treated like fuck would would offend you.

@Bbq1

Maybe they ww at a few women that day but I don't think any man wolf whistles indiscriminately at "anyone, even kids"😂

Many of us on this thread have shared stories of being wolf whistled at as children.

Do you think we are all lying?

Or do you see now that plenty of men do whistle at kids?

You're flattering yourself love. They wolf whistled at me in my school uniform from the age of 12 and I'm very far from alone. For clarity I was short, dumpy and freckled and clearly a child. It's control and reinforcing their superiority, it's marking their territory. Bascially they jizz in their pants at it.

Good

Not sure if paedophiles or just bullies

I was wolf whistled at a lot as a child.

Why should women have to “learn" to handle themselves in a particular way in order to go about their daily business?

And to handle themselves in a "non threatening way"........ women walking down the street is threatening? Seriously? WOMEN have to learn not to be threatening towards men who are hassling them?? ? Are you actually real?

How little self respect did you have that you found being shouted at by uneducated apes to be some kids of validation of your attractiveness. Because of course, that's your most important role, to be attractive to strange men. Dear God. It's actually tragic.

Cheery wave and "how are you darlin?" Did they give cheery waves to men going about their day as well?
Fuck sake.