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have you been to see live theatre/opera/concert?

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buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:39

we are professional (classical) musicians, so think nothing of going to see an Opera, classical concert, live theatre etc.
However, I've recently had 2 conversations with a family member and a head teacher that they have never been to a live (classical type) concert or theatre show/play.

So it's making me wonder - how many people have been to..
a) an opera?
b) a live theatre production?
c) classical concert?

I was suprised that these two people hadn't been to any of these, but should I be? I don't know?
Thank you.

OP posts:
HollyBerryz · 26/01/2025 14:11

I've never been to the opera or a classical concert (not my thing, or maybe I just think that because I've never been). As a child we didn't go to the theatre but I took my children to a few shows when they were small. Then we saw Matilda and my youngest now loves theatre shows so we go quite a lot now. She's got about 4-5 lined up this year.

LongDarkTeatime · 26/01/2025 14:09

Yes to all 3. However only theatre in last 20yrs.
I now go less due to having moved out of a major city (so significant effort to get to opera/classical music venues) and spiralling costs.

Rocknrollstar · 26/01/2025 14:08

Opera - 2/3 times a year
Theatre - at least once a month and often more
Classical concert - 1/2 a year. Used to go to a lot more.
im always amazed at people who have never been to the theatre. We had no money growing up but dad always took us to amateur theatre at least.

EwwSprouts · 26/01/2025 14:07

Opera only once and not bothered if go again. Enjoy ballet though.
Lots of theatre. Going next week.
Only classical stuff - classics in the park/outdoor night at the proms stuff.

TequilaAndPickles · 26/01/2025 14:07

Mycatmyworld · 26/01/2025 14:01

All 3. The last time just before Christmas 2024 to see Michael Jackson the musical. Outstanding!

I'm seeing that next month, also Six and Richard Ii.
V looking forward to them.

mitogoshigg · 26/01/2025 14:06

Yes many of all 3. I'm amazed that people haven't seen any of those. I went with school for starters as did my own dc. I also took my dc to classical concerts designed for tots from very young then full adult concerts, operas and theatre from primary school age. The best memory of all was a couple of nights at the arena de Verona opera festival when they were 8&10, they weren't the youngest there, there was a 4 year old lad sat behind us (Italian) for Turandot.

And it's not the money, the same people who will complain about the cost of these things happily pay for football or a gig, plus amateur concerts and productions can be very reasonable

JustHoldOnOneMinute · 26/01/2025 14:05

buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:39

we are professional (classical) musicians, so think nothing of going to see an Opera, classical concert, live theatre etc.
However, I've recently had 2 conversations with a family member and a head teacher that they have never been to a live (classical type) concert or theatre show/play.

So it's making me wonder - how many people have been to..
a) an opera?
b) a live theatre production?
c) classical concert?

I was suprised that these two people hadn't been to any of these, but should I be? I don't know?
Thank you.

a) an opera? Yes
b) a live theatre production? Yes (around once a week)
c) classical concert? Yes

All 3, also ballet.

I think it helps if you have done it as a child though. I try to take my children's friends as well as my children to make it easier for them later. If you are in London, there are some amazing deals for young people: https://redbuslondinium.uk/how-to-afford-the-theatre/young-person-discounts/

It can be expensive, but you can make it work with canny purchasing. There are lots of ways to save here: https://redbuslondinium.uk/how-to-afford-the-theatre/

Also booking ahead really helps. I paid £15 for me for the Nutcracker (£10 for student daughter and friends). But I booked eleven months in advance.

I also take pictures of my seat and load them up on Seat Plan to get the points. Have seen six shows free doing that. https://seatplan.com/ It's also really helpful for gauging which "restricted" seats are truly terrible and which are just a bit annoying so the saving is worth it.

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Honeyroar · 26/01/2025 14:05

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

Edited

I’ve been to lots of live theatre, local and national productions, quite a few operas and ballets but not classical concerts (would like to).

I’ve never been to a music festival (the conditions put me off!), have been to plenty of theme parks (although they don’t interest me now I’m older). Couldn’t think of anything worse than going to football, or rugby but I do go to lots of top Equestrian events as that’s my interest.

LuluBlakey1 · 26/01/2025 14:03

I have never been to see opera live and have no desire to.
I have been to several classical concerts but not found them appealing really.
Been to lots of live theatre .

ItTook9Years · 26/01/2025 14:03

My mum is a trained opera singer and dad a musician.

Was raised going to concerts and theatre all the time. Still go now - on average I probably see 6-8 operas a year, 20-25 theatre shows and 10-12 classical concerts (plus arena and open air gigs).

Mycatmyworld · 26/01/2025 14:01

All 3. The last time just before Christmas 2024 to see Michael Jackson the musical. Outstanding!

Whotenanny · 26/01/2025 14:01

I've never been to the opera but can quite happily sing along with a few of the famous songs. I love the theatre - not such a fan of musicals but they're okay, and I absolutely love classical concerts.

I've been going since I was little, and now I'm almost 40!

We listen to classical music almost exclusively at home.

TeenLifeMum · 26/01/2025 14:00

Yes, but I’m posting this from backstage at a dress rehearsal for an amateur show so clearly it’s my thing. I love live theatre and music.

Theresacatinmykitchenwhatamigonnado · 26/01/2025 13:59

Yes to all 3, although mostly opera. I was surprised by pp's comment re the ROH - I find you can get some really reasonably priced tickets for even the most famous operas as long as you aren't fussy about seats.

BunnyLake · 26/01/2025 13:58

I’ve been to an opera once and the theatre several times. Not for a long time though as I don’t live anywhere near these type of venues.

SwanRivers · 26/01/2025 13:58

buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:49

That's a great thing to do imo. What area of business was it?

I do appreciate that these things cost money, but the people I was talking to I would imagine could afford to go to any of these types of events.

Yes but if they don't like that sort of thing, why would they go?

It's a bit like saying you're surprised they don't eat cheese and onion crisps, or they've never gone to Butlins.

It's all personal preference.

battairzeedurgzome · 26/01/2025 13:58

All three, frequently, over the past forty years, though less often recently, partly due to the declining standards of audience behaviour.

Tarantella6 · 26/01/2025 13:57

Theatre a few times but West End tickets are SO expensive. We've seen Matilda through the £25 ticket lottery, but with train tickets and dinner that's still a £200 night out - we don't have that kind of money to do it very often.

It wouldn't even occur to me to go and see an orchestra or an opera. I'd much rather see Wicked if I find myself with several hundred pounds to spare.

MollyButton · 26/01/2025 13:56

Oh and Music festivals of various types

MollyButton · 26/01/2025 13:56

Done all three.
Also American football (soccer I find boring-after a childhood of being forced to watch it on TV)
Theme parks - lots in numerous countries
And lots of Musical Theatre

fromthevault · 26/01/2025 13:55

Lots of.dance too. DH is really into modern dance. We went to Ghent for the weekend last summer to see some incomprehensible modern dance thing. Loved Ghent, loved our box in the beautiful Opera House, could take or leave the actual dance!

HoppityBun · 26/01/2025 13:55

Yes to all three! I just don’t think twice about it. I’d add that, as an atheist, some of mr most rewarding times have been Christmas (not carol services) and Easter concerts in local churches, that usually have a mix of professional and amateur musicians. Though if I never hear Messiah again it’ll be too soon. I’m hoping to get to lunchtime recitals when I retire.

Headstarttohappiness · 26/01/2025 13:55

Yes all three but mostly theatre and opera. Other people are more keen to see plays I find! I have been to musical once - never again! I’m a teacher and I get students into galleries and museums whenever I can!

Boffle · 26/01/2025 13:55

Total philistine here.
None since I was a child.
My mother was very fond of theatre and amdram. As a child I was dragged along to every play and even made to take part when child actors were required. I loathed every minute and never wanted to go again.
When DC were small 20 years ago I took them to a few children's plays / events but I wouldn't go for me.
One DC is keen on music and goes to piano recitals.

I do love opera though and I think if anything would lure me to a theatre it might be that. I do live in the sticks though so it would be a bit of travelling.

Hairyesterdaygonetoday · 26/01/2025 13:55

A few operas, but countless theatre productions (especially amateur), and concerts of every kind. Never in my childhood, but I dived in joyfully when I started earning wages!

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