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have you been to see live theatre/opera/concert?

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buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:39

we are professional (classical) musicians, so think nothing of going to see an Opera, classical concert, live theatre etc.
However, I've recently had 2 conversations with a family member and a head teacher that they have never been to a live (classical type) concert or theatre show/play.

So it's making me wonder - how many people have been to..
a) an opera?
b) a live theatre production?
c) classical concert?

I was suprised that these two people hadn't been to any of these, but should I be? I don't know?
Thank you.

OP posts:
MissMarplesNiece · 26/01/2025 14:26

Love opera and go as often as I can. If I won the lottery I'd be watching every production at ROH and by ENO. Also go to classical concerts and to the theatre, as well as to the cinema and to art exhibitions. DH and I also have our favourite bands that we go and watch play live. I can't imagine life without art & culture, its my greatest pleasure.

Risheth · 26/01/2025 14:25

All three, regularly, though opera less often than when I lived in London, though I still go to opera relays in the cinema and touring productions whenever they’re here. And there’s a well-known opera festival annually about fifty miles away that I go to. I probably go to a classical concert at least once every three weeks or so — my workplace (university) has a resident string quartet which has regular lunchtime concerts, and hosts performances from other musicians, ditto the city school of music and arts centre. And there’s a fair mix of touring theatre and smallscale experimental stuff, augmented by big festivals several times a year.

lemoncrisp · 26/01/2025 14:23

Yes to theatre. Love west end musicals and a bit of serious theatre locally.
Opera at Sydney Opera House once only and left in the interval ....it was Marriage of Figaro so lots of familiar music/songs (arias?) but neither of us enjoyed it. (Maybe now we are older we could try again)
Classical concert, no never been. I love a bit of familiar classical music when I'm ironing but that's it.
One experience of live ballet, Nutcracker, when dd was about 8. Loved it and would love to go again but no way dh would. Could always go on my own but it hasn't happened yet.
I consider myself reasonably well educated (post grad) and well read, but culturally I'm a Philistine. (I don't enjoy art galleries either). Delighted that my son has somehow acquired a taste for these cultural activities - no thanks to me and dh.

5foot5 · 26/01/2025 14:23

All three plus ballet.

However, I have only been to about three operas and that was over 30 years ago not long after we married. PILs were very keen on opera and tried to enthuse us. I tried, I really tried, but I didn't enjoy it.

I love the excitement of a large professional orchestra playing live. My parents weren't really in to classical music but the school I went to (local Comprehensive) ran regular coach trip to the nearest city to see classical concerts and I started going from about 15.

MiddleAgedDread · 26/01/2025 14:23

never been to the opera because I don’t enjoy that sort of music. Have been to theatre and classical music concerts loads though.

GingerLiberalFeminist · 26/01/2025 14:23

(a) actually only once, I'd like to go and we do live near Glyndbourne!
(b) tons and tons. Live in the park Shakespeare every summer and whatever else gets my fancy.
(c) my tickets for a London Philharmonic Orchestra playing in a nearby town arrived today, yay! I've been going to classical music several times a year for 10 years now.
At Xmas they did The Snowman with an orchestra near me, if they do it again, I'll take my daughter.

However: i am aware in the minority of people i meet, and am painted as boring/twee for doing so by some!

Cynic17 · 26/01/2025 14:22

Oh yes, been to classical concerts too. I was a regular at the CBSO in the Simon Rattle era, sitting behind the orchestra - it was so exciting.

Itiswhysofew · 26/01/2025 14:21

I don't like opera. I've been to recitals.

I've been to many classical concerts, ballets & live theatre.

StrawberrySquash · 26/01/2025 14:21

All three, but Opera only twice. Mostly just out of curiosity. Classical concerts against single figures.

whatkatydid2014 · 26/01/2025 14:21

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

Edited

I’ve been to all those and all the ones in the OP. I’m not all that keen on rugby/football but we’ve taken the kids to see the England women’s team playing both. I’m also not a huge fan of classical concerts & prefer something like an orchestra playing stuff from film scores/christmas music. Again I have taken the kids to see something (last night of the proms style event at a local venue).
In general I think it’s a shame if you don’t give most forms of entertainment like those you’ve both listed a try. In fairness if you’ve never been you don’t not go because you don’t like it.

CharSiu · 26/01/2025 14:21

All of them though the opera only once.
we used to go to a lot of classical concerts but due to where we live now it’s a bit of a faff getting there.

I have also been to the ballet a few times and art gallery opening nights.

Cynic17 · 26/01/2025 14:20

Constantly! I pay to see between 10 and 12 theatre productions a year (mostly in London, but also closer to home).
I also volunteer at a theatre - I saw our Xmas show alone about 15 times last year 😂
I generally see much less opera and ballet - maybe once a year? I'd love to see more, but time and money don't permit.

It shocks me too when people (who can certainly afford it) don't go to the theatre - but, equally, I've never been to a pro football match. I guess we're all different.

Porcuporpoise · 26/01/2025 14:19

Theatre yes, several times a year. The others - not since childhood, unless you count brass band concerts as a classical music concert. I am planning on taking my mother (big opera buff) to Glynbourne this year though.

JustHoldOnOneMinute · 26/01/2025 14:19

JustHoldOnOneMinute · 26/01/2025 14:05

a) an opera? Yes
b) a live theatre production? Yes (around once a week)
c) classical concert? Yes

All 3, also ballet.

I think it helps if you have done it as a child though. I try to take my children's friends as well as my children to make it easier for them later. If you are in London, there are some amazing deals for young people: https://redbuslondinium.uk/how-to-afford-the-theatre/young-person-discounts/

It can be expensive, but you can make it work with canny purchasing. There are lots of ways to save here: https://redbuslondinium.uk/how-to-afford-the-theatre/

Also booking ahead really helps. I paid £15 for me for the Nutcracker (£10 for student daughter and friends). But I booked eleven months in advance.

I also take pictures of my seat and load them up on Seat Plan to get the points. Have seen six shows free doing that. https://seatplan.com/ It's also really helpful for gauging which "restricted" seats are truly terrible and which are just a bit annoying so the saving is worth it.

  • a football or rugby game? Yes
  • a theme park? Yes (though as I get older I get queasier on the rides so it is less fun)
  • a music festival? Yes (though only as a day trip, I should probably camp one day. Have been wondering about doing it as an Oxfam volunteer)

One of my aims with my kids was to try to take them to as many experiences as we could manage so that they could find out what they liked and where they were comfortable.

We've been to Ascot, Henley, Evensong at Windsor Castle, Windsor Horse show, hockey, volleyball, football, Rugby 7s, museums, art galleries, concerts, German Christmas markets by train, etc.

Personally, for example, I am not that fussed on opera or classical concerts but both my children turned out to be much more interested than me. So I would have down them a disservice if we hadn't gone.

Likewise, sport. I have no passion for it at all, almost like it is a missing bit of my brain. But my son has ended up a football season ticket holder.

No33 · 26/01/2025 14:18

All 3 regularly

HollyBerryz · 26/01/2025 14:17

I imagine the cost is a reason why many people don't go though. It's not cheap is it. Especially for a family!

Timeforaglassofwine · 26/01/2025 14:17

I've been to an opera medley concert, but not an actual opera. I've taken the family to see a ballet and musical theatre a couple of times. People are into different things and have different budgets. The theatre last time we went was £120 per ticket - hardly a cheap night out, when you also have to get a train and a hotel.

HereComesEverybody · 26/01/2025 14:16

Yes we've been to all three

We work in the arts so often get tickets or know a performer etc which is a wonderful perk.

We also go to:

Contemporary dance events
Ballet
Immersive site specific theatre
Literary readings
Poetry readings
Book launches
Exhibition openings

We're not into football or rugby but have been to equestrian events with dc

We've been to theme parks (Disney) for dc but absolutely not our thing

We've been to lots of gigs/ concerts over the years. We've both been to festivals when younger but no interest in that now

UnimaginableWindBird · 26/01/2025 14:16

Yes, but it's mostly been a very special treat because of the cost. I have a bit more money these days, and can also leave the children at home, so I'm going to a concert tonight, have booked the day off work for a day in February to see a play which had cheap matinee seats available and have also booked tickets to see a play in April. DD is sometimes offered cheap/free concert tickets through the youth ensemble she plays in, and they both get cheap theatre tickets through school trips offered by the drama Dept.

I haven't been to see live opera for ages as it's only very recently that I've been able to afford to go - opera involves a train journey plus more expensive tickets. I tend to get my opera from Radio 3 rather than in person. And it's been a long time since I've seen live dance, too.

My local repertory theatre is very good and you can nab tickets in the front row for £15 if you book early enough, to I try to keep an eye out for what's available.

IamSallyBowles · 26/01/2025 14:14

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

Edited

Opera & ballet - once or twice (decided not my thing)
Classical music performance - yes and have loved
Theatre - go 3 or 4 times a month
Football - a fair few times at non league and premier league level
Theme park - alton towers, and Disneyland Paris (love DLP)
Music Festival - many many many through my 20s - found ways to work and get in because I couldnt afford to go to as many as I wanted to...

no snobbery - I like all sorts of things

Bearbookagainandagain · 26/01/2025 14:14

All three, and ballet, but I don't think it is very accessible in England.

Opera and ballet are very expensive, and in my area only available in London. Our local show hall is going to have a couple of ballet from a foreign company this year, and that's great, but I have some doubts on how good it will be. They never have live theater which is a real shame.

Plays for instance are a lot more accessible in France, a ticket can cost 10-20 EUR for a (semi)professional troup and there are loads. In London, I have never paid less than 40ish pounds for a play and there aren't that many.
Now that we live outside of London it's even harder and I've often been disappointed with the quality. There are loads of stuff for kids though.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 26/01/2025 14:12

a) an opera? - no, I can't think of anything worse
b) a live theatre production? - yes
c) classical concert? - no, I only like certain classical music and none enough that I'd want to sit through a whole concert. Now a Bruce Springsteen concert is a different matter!

ChristmasPostman · 26/01/2025 14:12

All three but Opera is my favourite. We live in the North so now WNO have cut down their touring schedule it’s harder to see them and they are my favourite company. Did a placement with them as a student in the costume department which was amazing and you could hear Bryn Terfel in the sewing room!

LynetteScavo · 26/01/2025 14:11

I've only been to live opera once, as a child. I loved it. Everyone I know hates opera, so I only go in to "live" cinema screenings.

I've been to lots of theatre although I prefer cinema

I've seen pop bands at Wembley several times.

I've never been to the ballet, so that's something I want to do soon.

I've never been to a professional football or rugby match, but have been to the main UK theme parks and Disneyland Paris seven times

A lot of the entertainment I've been to has been because of the people I know, and I've gone along with what they like. If your friends and family are all into horse racing, you're
more likely to go to Ascot than if your family are into sailing.

Mycatmyworld · 26/01/2025 14:11

TequilaAndPickles · 26/01/2025 14:07

I'm seeing that next month, also Six and Richard Ii.
V looking forward to them.

You will believe he’s on the stage & no one was in a seat at the end, the end is rather unusual but not giving anything away. Enjoy

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