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have you been to see live theatre/opera/concert?

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buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:39

we are professional (classical) musicians, so think nothing of going to see an Opera, classical concert, live theatre etc.
However, I've recently had 2 conversations with a family member and a head teacher that they have never been to a live (classical type) concert or theatre show/play.

So it's making me wonder - how many people have been to..
a) an opera?
b) a live theatre production?
c) classical concert?

I was suprised that these two people hadn't been to any of these, but should I be? I don't know?
Thank you.

OP posts:
QueSyrahSyrah · 26/01/2025 14:50

I've been to many, many live theatre performances, from touring amateur productions at a University theatre to Broadway and everything in between.

I've also been to an Orchestra Christmas concert.

Never seen live Opera or Ballet.

SparklingSpa · 26/01/2025 14:50

All of them, I’ve only been to one opera and didn’t like it. I like classical concerts, especially when I’m abroad as that’s are often really good value.

thescandalwascontained · 26/01/2025 14:49

All 3 luckily

AbbieLexie · 26/01/2025 14:49

All 3 but I would add Ballet to the list. I would love to go to more but can't afford it.

buggeroo · 26/01/2025 14:48

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

Edited

@TheBoysAndTheBallet
Football game, yes, once, didn't enjoy it.
Theme park - loads.
Music festival - yes, once, didn't enjoy it.

But my point is, I tried them all at least once.

OP posts:
noworklifebalance · 26/01/2025 14:47

Go to loads, several times a year but mainly theatre and concerts, with and without DCs. We live near London so a huge amount of these types of events are readily accessible, if you have the money. Having said that, we know several families of similar (even higher) income in our locality and many rarely go.

SwanRivers · 26/01/2025 14:47

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

Edited

I agree.

It's completely fake surprise.

Different people enjoy different things.

Who knew 🙄

soupyspoon · 26/01/2025 14:46

One opera, Madam Butterfly at the ROH, hated it, really cant connect with opera

Lots of theatre and other music shows, one tonight

A couple of classical concerts out of curiosity, not my bag.

SoftPillow · 26/01/2025 14:45

Yes, all three.

theatre and opera the most, a few musical concerts, very few musical theatre as it’s not something I really enjoy

Flamingoknees · 26/01/2025 14:44

Theatre a lot - not opera or classical concert. I'm in my 50's.
I love theatre, musical theatre, and ballet.
I wouldn't rule out opera or classical, now that I have more time.
A lot if people obviously can't afford to go.

WeWillGetThereInTheEnd · 26/01/2025 14:43

I’ve been to all three, although mainly b). I used to go to classical concerts with friends, but haven’t been for ages. DH has taken to live opera recently. He will go to see ballets with me. We go to see an opera or ballet whenever a touring company visits locally.

We mainly go to see West End musicals, although not as often as I’d like, because they have got so expensive! He also likes to see comedians and the Special Forces staff on SAS: Who Dares Wins live, so we see them on tour too.

SerafinasGoose · 26/01/2025 14:43

MissMarplesNiece · 26/01/2025 14:34

"However: i am aware in the minority of people i meet, and am painted as boring/twee for doing so by some!"
Not by me, @GingerLiberalFeminist . I think we'd have some good conversations if we ever met up. Boring to me is clothes shopping, beauty stuff, reality TV, and I think I'd pass out with boredom at a spa day. But, and I'm glad about this, we're all different and that's what makes humans so interesting.

I'll take the spa day - love them! - and do find shopping boring unless it's poking around vintage stuff and flea markets. I like the challenge of finding something more unusual and better quality than on the high street. I also love a rock gig or festival! (Unfortunately those are far more expensive than a theatre ticket as a rule, but for some reason not so many people see that cost as prohibitive).

But I'm with you on the others - just not interested at all. What I don't compute is when personal taste is dressed up either as intellectual snobbery or 'lowbrow' - not saying that's happening on this thread but it does, a lot. I unashamedly watch and listen to some right old bilge - not excluding internet content - and I also love classic literature, cinema and arts (not West End or Broadway-style shows, though). Different interests for different moods. Arts and popular culture are for everyone!

LoserWinner · 26/01/2025 14:42

All three, frequently (three evenings a week at one or another), plus football, theme park and festival (rare, only football is my thing and getting tickets now I don’t live locally to my team is an issue). I get the cheapest seats in the house, use seat-filling sites, and am happy to try out fringe and amateur stuff which is usually very cheap or free. I joined several arts venues by annual subscription, so get cheap tickets that way, too, with no booking fees.

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/01/2025 14:42

All three, hut mostly B. I love live shows.🤎

JustHoldOnOneMinute · 26/01/2025 14:42

Nothatgingerpirate · 26/01/2025 14:40

Yes, as a young person with parents.
Does nothing for me.

I think that's fine though. You've had the chance to find that out.

Nothatgingerpirate · 26/01/2025 14:40

Yes, as a young person with parents.
Does nothing for me.

shellyleppard · 26/01/2025 14:39

Mostly b for me.....i saw Madame butterfly on stage. Couldn't stop crying!!! Same with Romeo and Juliet

FrivolousKitchenRollUse · 26/01/2025 14:38

b quite a few times & c a couple of times. I did watch a couple of operas on CH4 once but wasn't for me.

GreenSmithing · 26/01/2025 14:38

Yes, all three, but it's not a cheap hobby and I can see why people don't want to fork out for it, if they're not sure they'd enjoy it.

I've never been to a football match. I don’t enjoy watching sport and wouldn't want to pay for it. Some people would find that inconceivable.
Arguably football is a huge part of the national culture and I'm missing out by not taking an interest. But I'm not interested in it. Not in the world cup. Not in the Euros. Not in the premier league. Not in the local club. Not in the work five a side team 🤷‍♀️

notatinydancer · 26/01/2025 14:37

Opera (once)
Theatre lots
Ballet a few times.
Classical concert - no.

StrawberryWater · 26/01/2025 14:35

Love the theatre. Been to see plays, opera and music.

Sadly rarely do I go now as it's far too expensive.

MissMarplesNiece · 26/01/2025 14:34

"However: i am aware in the minority of people i meet, and am painted as boring/twee for doing so by some!"
Not by me, @GingerLiberalFeminist . I think we'd have some good conversations if we ever met up. Boring to me is clothes shopping, beauty stuff, reality TV, and I think I'd pass out with boredom at a spa day. But, and I'm glad about this, we're all different and that's what makes humans so interesting.

SerafinasGoose · 26/01/2025 14:34

I love opera, classical music and theatre - I grew up with it. Until we had DC we were regulars at Royal Shakespeare and are longstanding devotees of Opera North, based in Leeds. They are world class, but suffering alongside most of the arts for lack of funds which is a crying shame.

We haven't been able to go to many live events since having DC as we have no support/babysitters close to us. DC is coming up to secondary school age, so hopefully this will change in the not-too distant future. In the meantime we are making do with Marquee TV!

It's on my bucket list to see La Traviata at Vienna State Opera. Would be hard-pushed to pick between that one and Carmen as my favourite.

Thatisme · 26/01/2025 14:28

Yes, all three many times. Mostly b, several times a but admittedly only a couple of times c

chocolatemademefat · 26/01/2025 14:28

I love going to the theatre - especially musical theatre which lifts my spirits like nothing else can.

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