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have you been to see live theatre/opera/concert?

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buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:39

we are professional (classical) musicians, so think nothing of going to see an Opera, classical concert, live theatre etc.
However, I've recently had 2 conversations with a family member and a head teacher that they have never been to a live (classical type) concert or theatre show/play.

So it's making me wonder - how many people have been to..
a) an opera?
b) a live theatre production?
c) classical concert?

I was suprised that these two people hadn't been to any of these, but should I be? I don't know?
Thank you.

OP posts:
Risheth · 26/01/2025 15:13

HauntedBungalow · 26/01/2025 15:07

I think there is still a widely held view that these things are elitist and expensive even though they are for the most part cheaper than pop concerts and theme parks. Eg in London ENO (RIP) always had loads of discounted seats. Thing is you have to really get people into it when they're young - most 30 year olds who have never been to an opera don't suddenly start going.

I was about that age when a friend started working as an ASM at the ROH, and used to give me tickets or get me into dress rehearsals. I went several times, not that engaged, and then something suddenly opened in my head — I remember the exact sensation because it was so exciting, and opera has been a huge pleasure in my life ever since. For the rest of the time I lived in London, I saw every ROH production in the cheap day seats you queued at dawn for, once my friend moved on, and often ENO too.

I’m still not sure what suddenly ‘worked’, but it was a fabulous discovery.

Itgetsharder · 26/01/2025 15:11

a) an opera- never
b) a live theatre production- yes several, I bring my dc to the theatre quite often. We went to see Mary poppins last month
c) classical concert - yes 1 and I’m going to another in London in March.

my dc sang in an event last night with a youth orchestra, it was amazing 🥰

weareallcats · 26/01/2025 15:10

Theatre, ballet and classical concerts fairly often - at least once a month. I’ve never been to the opera but have been discussing going soon with a friend. I do regularly go to choral concerts though.

tilypu · 26/01/2025 15:09

I've been to live theatre, opera, live sports, music festivals and a theme park multiple times. I haven't, that I recall, been to a classical music concert, but that's only because the ones that I wanted to go to clashed with work - which sounds like a lame excuse, but it wasn't really a thing where I used to live, and my job used to have very unsocial hours. Hopefully I'll get to one or more this year.

Tmpnamenb · 26/01/2025 15:09

a) an opera?
Carmen, lots of g&s.

b) a live theatre production?
Yes, lots

c) classical concert?
Not so much. Does the snowman and home alone count? Probably not
.
We've been to lots of jazz and folk.
My kids have probably seen Shakespeare well over a dozen times.
We see lots of live music of all kinds, lots of music festivals too.

RedLightsStopSigns · 26/01/2025 15:08

I’ve been to one opera, countless theatre shows (plays, ballets and musicals) but I’ve never been to a classical concert.

CharityShopChic · 26/01/2025 15:08

Never been to a classical music concert but never say never.

Have been to the opera twice (Carmen and Madame Butterfly), appreciate those are on the lightweight end of the opera spectrum but DH and I enjoyed both.

Theatre all the time - loads of musicals (seeing Hairspray on Wednesday) but also in the past year or so seen An Inspector Calls and the Mousetrap. Have done the ballet once, took DD to see the Nutcracker about 6 years ago and loved that too.

Tickets for all of these things are far cheaper than football or concert tickets for the likes of Taylor Swift, Coldplay or Oasis.

crumblingschools · 26/01/2025 15:08

@TheBoysAndTheBallet done all 3 of those as well but only a day music festival not a staying in a tent one

HauntedBungalow · 26/01/2025 15:07

I think there is still a widely held view that these things are elitist and expensive even though they are for the most part cheaper than pop concerts and theme parks. Eg in London ENO (RIP) always had loads of discounted seats. Thing is you have to really get people into it when they're young - most 30 year olds who have never been to an opera don't suddenly start going.

Wakeywake · 26/01/2025 15:06

All 3, but I prefer opera.

crumblingschools · 26/01/2025 15:06

All 3 but mainly b

Risheth · 26/01/2025 15:05

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

Edited

Yes to all three, many times. I loathe sport of all kinds, but DH works in professional sport and I sometimes show my face. I find its popularity perennially mystifying. The way some people feel about opera (‘Why does it take the soprano ten minutes to sing two lines of text? Why doesn’t she just say it? Am I supposedly to believe that a solidly-built middle-aged woman is a consumptive, tiny-handed teenage seamstress?’) is my feeling about rugby.

I love music festivals, but don’t do the hardcore ‘brushing your teeth in cider and camping in two feet of mud’ any more.

DelphiniumBlue · 26/01/2025 15:05

Theatre including musical theatre - maybe 4 times a year
Ballet and other dance shows - once or twice a year
Opera -have only seen one
Classical concerts - have been to a handful, and sing with a choral group, have probably performed in more than I have attended as audience!
Theme park - not in the last 15years and wouldn't choose to ever go again
Football match - once ( Wembley international friendly) probably wouldn't go again
Rock/pop concerts - loads, from small pub gigs to stadiums.

SerafinasGoose · 26/01/2025 15:04

soupyspoon · 26/01/2025 14:46

One opera, Madam Butterfly at the ROH, hated it, really cant connect with opera

Lots of theatre and other music shows, one tonight

A couple of classical concerts out of curiosity, not my bag.

I love opera as a rule, but I don't like Butterfly either. I find it dull to the point of indifference, and the storyline excruciating. La Boheme is a much better Puccini, IMO.

Princessfluffy · 26/01/2025 15:03

I go to the theatre regularly but you'd have to pay me to go to the opera or to a classical music concert.

Jk987 · 26/01/2025 15:02

The thought of going to an opera fills me with dread, that's the truth.

CrushingOnRubies · 26/01/2025 15:01

Been to many theatre productions

We counting Les mis as opera?

Throughthebluebells · 26/01/2025 15:00

All three regularly, but probably go to C less often than A or B.

KimberleyClark · 26/01/2025 14:58

All three.

TheWonderhorse · 26/01/2025 14:57

I love the theatre and the kids are into musicals so we try to go as often as we can.

It's a lot of money, there are five of us, but I love having something we all like to do. I think theatre is so much more laid back now than it was, which helps. You don't need to dress up, which is nice, because we're not into that. We took ours to see Hamilton in December and my tiny 9 year old was offered a booster seat, the staff were really friendly and when you're lucky enough to live near the Wales Millennium Centre it's always a shame to not be in it. I look longingly at the what's on section of their website a lot 🤣

I'm not picky about what they want to do, but I want them to fall on love with something because life is better with passions 🙂.

QueSyrahSyrah · 26/01/2025 14:57

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

Edited

I see your point (and have been to all 3 of your examples, along with 2 of the OP's examples) and I think the Opera and Classical concerts are probably quite niche but I think I'd be genuinely surprised to meet someone who had never been to a live theatre performance of any kind, not a pantomime or local am-dram or even a school play?

Tarkan · 26/01/2025 14:56

I was in our county orchestra when I was at school and I'm now wardrobe mistress at our local am-dram theatre so I've been on both sides of things there.

I haven't been to opera or ballet but more because they're rarer to be on near us but I go to RSNO shows in my nearest city when I can. Was just talking to DH yesterday as they're doing Pathétique next month so I'm thinking of going along. DC may come with me too, they've both been a few times and my youngest actually picked one of their shows for their 12th birthday a few years ago.

I love live theatre, both plays and musicals. I'm seeing Kinky Boots next month and Moulin Rouge later this year but our theatre is also putting on Lavender Hill Mob soon and then we're doing Calendar Girls after that. Again DH and I were talking about another play we want to go see later this year.

To balance it out though, I do have a range of interests and I also have a season ticket for our local football team and love watching rugby and motorsports too. I've also been to stuff like the Big Weekend (never a festival I've had to camp at though, camping isn't my thing) and I love gigs although they're getting really expensive now especially as we always have to travel and stay over when they're on.

Floralnomad · 26/01/2025 14:53

We go to the theatre a lot and also to see Gilbert and Sullivan operettas . I’ve been to one Italian opera and it wasn’t for me . Never been to a classical concert or ballet as they don’t appeal to me at all . I do go to quite a few concerts / gigs . I’ve equally never been to a football match but I’ve enjoyed going to a rugby union international and do go to cricket . It takes all kinds of people to make up the world . I love cricket , I would not be surprised that lots of other people do not .

six666 · 26/01/2025 14:51

b and c many times.....

Snowmanscarf · 26/01/2025 14:50

a) an opera? - no
b) a live theatre production? - several times
c) classical concert? - once