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have you been to see live theatre/opera/concert?

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buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:39

we are professional (classical) musicians, so think nothing of going to see an Opera, classical concert, live theatre etc.
However, I've recently had 2 conversations with a family member and a head teacher that they have never been to a live (classical type) concert or theatre show/play.

So it's making me wonder - how many people have been to..
a) an opera?
b) a live theatre production?
c) classical concert?

I was suprised that these two people hadn't been to any of these, but should I be? I don't know?
Thank you.

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DancefloorAcrobatics · 26/01/2025 13:54

b & c, never been to an opera as not interested. But I have been to countless ballets if that counts?
I did this back in the good old days when living in a big city.

Unfortunately these things are quite expensive and have to compete with other, more modern forms of entertainment.

buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:53

Just to stipulate, I mean professional performances, not school orchestras.

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Sinkintotheswamp · 26/01/2025 13:52

Loads of theatre.
Been to the Royal opera House to see the ballet a couple of times. It's really not expensive if you book early for the cheap seats.
Never seen a classical concert.

user2848502016 · 26/01/2025 13:52

Never been to the opera because it doesn't appeal to me but have been to the other two, and also to live ballet

TheBoysAndTheBallet · 26/01/2025 13:52

OP have you ever been to

  • a football or rugby game?
  • a theme park?
  • a music festival?

Different people like different things so why the faux surprise that some people have not been to see concerts or theatre?

fromthevault · 26/01/2025 13:52

BIWI · 26/01/2025 13:40

All three, although mostly (b)

Same.

We go to the theatre frequently; London, Stratford or we are lucky that we have a brilliant local theatre too. Last week we went to see The Tempest in London and have tickets for Carmen at Covent Garden soon, standing tickets so nice and cheap!

TickingAlongNicely · 26/01/2025 13:51

buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:49

That's a great thing to do imo. What area of business was it?

I do appreciate that these things cost money, but the people I was talking to I would imagine could afford to go to any of these types of events.

He's an Army officer. Not sure if they still do it, it was people not considered "cultured" enough. He had a great time... they went to Paris for example.

verycloakanddaggers · 26/01/2025 13:51

Yes, have been to all, and do go.

No idea what the sector does about prices though. It is prohibitively expensive to take a family, it is becoming less and less accessible.

So it doesn't surprise me that people aren't going.

Octavia64 · 26/01/2025 13:50

Lots of live theatre

Only two operas and both in the last three years

Many classical concerts usually because I know someone playing.

Operas and classical music in particular are very niche tastes these days

LIZS · 26/01/2025 13:49

Yes , all three several times a year

buggeroo · 26/01/2025 13:49

TickingAlongNicely · 26/01/2025 13:44

All three.

When DH started his job, they sent those who hadn't been to the ballet, opera, art galleries, classical concerts etc to them so they could get the experience.

That's a great thing to do imo. What area of business was it?

I do appreciate that these things cost money, but the people I was talking to I would imagine could afford to go to any of these types of events.

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TwoLeggedGrooveMachine · 26/01/2025 13:48

Not opera as I don’t like it occasionally classical but usually non professional proms type thing as we are hours away from London. We have an excellent theatre so go reasonably often but avoid musicals generally. I do see a lot of indie/dance live as that is my thing. I feel classical music you have to sit quietly and I prefer music I can feel more part of the audience enjoying together.

Eigen · 26/01/2025 13:48

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 26/01/2025 13:45

All of them. Opera in London is £££ now so I can understand why people don’t go so often.

My mates and I have a challenge where we fly to another European city for two nights and get the best seats in the house for less than equivalent seats at the ROH.

(Important to say that whilst you can spend £330 on the best tickets if you want to, you certainly don’t have to, and if you want you can spend as little as £10-20. Other opera houses are much cheaper and also excellent. There are also a lot of discounted tickets for under 30s/40s)

RenegadeKeeblerElf · 26/01/2025 13:48

I went to one opera as a child, and probably one classical concert, but I go to the theatre about a dozen times a year.

LittleRedRidingHoody · 26/01/2025 13:47

All three, though I'm definitely more partial to B!

I did grow up in a working class area where money for everyone was really tight, and until I was 16 I thought all three were unattainable and for 'rich' people - no one I knew went at all.

Mumdiva99 · 26/01/2025 13:46

Are you sure a head teacher has never seen a live show? Not even the one the school put on ic a secondary? Or the school orchestra? Even primary schools get things like pantomimes in these days.

I've been to loads as have my kids. I've only seen 2 operas. But loads of shows. Plenty of concerts. Many many artistic events - outside events, street theatre, large scale events etc etc.
All my kids play instruments and play fir the school music groups and also at external orchestras (youth orchestra etc).

I went to the pantomime with the guides/brownies and sat next to a brownie who had never been to the theatre. I loved telling her how it worked and how to behave.

MantleStatue · 26/01/2025 13:46

Yes all three.

For context- I am 52 and from Australia originally. My father loved classical music so we went to a classical concert 3-4 times a year since I was a child. My first live theatre was a production of Annie. My first classical concert (opera) was Tales of Hoffman. Then I was lucky enough to live in Eastern Europe for 7 years and went to a concert or the ballet weekly because it was so cheap- about USD5 a ticket. When I was dating now-DH I took him to The Moustrap. Since my Dcs were born I take them to a fairly food regional theatre to see mainly things like Agatha Christie productions, more recently Bram Stoker's Dracula etc. I want to do more of this.

But I find these things SO expensive here. We live a long way from London so I no longer have easy access to live theatre. I am really keen to one day to see Maxim Vengerov live as I adore him.

FWIW although I played an instrument at school I did not continue on and my parents have never played an instrument. They just loved music.

HailtotheBop · 26/01/2025 13:46

Just b and c here. I wouldn't know where to start with opera, but I'd give it a go.

redgingerbread · 26/01/2025 13:45

Yes. But my parents are both professional musicians so I grew up in that sort of world - am much more at home going to a classical concert than a gig tbh! I prefer the theatre to either classical music or opera though.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 26/01/2025 13:45

All of them. Opera in London is £££ now so I can understand why people don’t go so often.

BrainFrog · 26/01/2025 13:44

a) No, wouldn't particularly want to
b) Yes, lots of times
c) No, but I'd really like to

AHFBridport · 26/01/2025 13:44

All 3, loads of times.

Eigen · 26/01/2025 13:44

Love going to the opera and I’ve never paid more than £50, usually far less, for a ticket. It’s cheaper than going to a pop concert.

Also the surtitles are in English (my husband didn’t want to go because he was under the impression he would have no idea what’s going on).

Next weekend I’m flying to Prague (best seats in the house are €45).

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 26/01/2025 13:44

All three, but the opera only twice and classical concerts only as a child

RosesAndHellebores · 26/01/2025 13:44

Yes, regularly. At least monthly.