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To expect DH to do nursery drop offs and pick ups?

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drinkyourmilkplease · 26/01/2025 10:45

I work in an office three days a week. On those days I’m out of the house early and back late, sometimes have to stay overnight. For two days I usually WFH.

DH works three days a week. His workplace is right by the kids’ nursery so he does drop offs and pick ups. He’s said he thinks I should start doing some. AIBU to think it’s pointless leaving the house when I’m WFH to go to the same place DH practically has to drive past on his way to work?

OP posts:
DaniMontyRae · 26/01/2025 11:08

Do your kids go to nursery 3 days a week and only thr days your husband works?

Comedycook · 26/01/2025 11:05

Yabu.

VotingForYourself · 26/01/2025 11:05

Might be nice for you to see the staff, ask how their day went etc.

Mandylovescandy · 26/01/2025 11:03

How far is it? If a 5 min walk then I think you should share, half an hour drive seems crazy for you to do but the getting them ready etc you could do on the WFH mornings. What does he actually want to achieve with it though? Does he want to be able to start early or finish late sometimes or do something before or after work? Sharing for the sake of it seems pointless if it is a long drive there and back for you but is there something it unlocks for him and could you help facilitate that in another way?

Original poster
drinkyourmilkplease · 26/01/2025 11:01

It’s about fifteen minutes then around ten minutes from the nursery to DH work. So maybe half an hour in total with the drop off included.

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DreamW3aver · 26/01/2025 10:58

How far away is the nursery? It does seems a bit unnecessary for one person to leave the house when the other person is driving past anyway but I dont think you need a hard and fast rule. Maybe review depending on the circumstances each day

Codlingmoths · 26/01/2025 10:52

Do you help get the kids up and ready? That seems quite enough personally for a fair divide, it doesn’t make sense for you to take them.

Didimum · 26/01/2025 10:50

I can see your point, but it’s also nice to have a break from the school and/or nursery run if you do every day. There’s something frazzling about it, especially doing it every day, and sometimes it’s nice just to have more headspace before going into work.