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Sick of ‘little dog’ owners.

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Ratdoghater · 26/01/2025 08:49

Every damn walk! Every sodding walk without bloody fail a little dog attacks or lunges or snarls or chases aggressively my large (retriever) dogs.

I am sick of it. Today’s dog was a cockerpoo. Yesterday it was a JRT. Day before it was a chihuahua.

Every fucking time the useless piece of crap owners say ‘he’s just playing.’ Newsflash, if your dog is snarling, lunging at my dogs, curling their lips or jumping up and snapping it is NOT playing. If my dog is backing away, my dog is not happy. If my dog is screaming, it is not happy

Big dog owners also often suck, but at least they have the decency to say sorry and put their dog on a leash. Or often leash their dogs before we meet. Little dog owners just laugh…and say ‘well he’s little so he won’t do any damage’ and then once I’m past let their dog go again - which 9/10 times means their dog chases mine!!! Honestly, do they not understand that being attacked for most dogs, when it happens near constantly, does affect their confidence and is a prime reason why so many dog do suddenly snap and turn aggressive?? Its basic common sense.

I know this thread will make no difference - little dog owners will continue to be entitled and incompetent. And little dog owners will pop onto this thread and say ‘my dogs not aggressive.’ Great. BUT disproportionately little dogs are the main instigator in most dog fights or dog on dog attacks I’ve seen.

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 28/08/2025 10:33

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 28/08/2025 07:27

Any dog that doesn’t have good recall is annoying and should be on a lead.

I run with my medium sized working breed dog (who has fantastic recall) and whilst out recently a cockerpoo type dog was chasing mine. Now my dog is happy to coexist with other dogs and will never go out of her way to run up to them or be aggressive. However, she hates being jumped and snapped at. I warn the owners and ask them to call their dog back as she doesn’t like other dogs up in her face. The little dog completely ignores their half hearted attempts so I call my dog back to me as I can see she isn’t enjoying being harassed by the little dog. Said little dog then proceeds to snap at me whilst I’m running. Again I have to tell the owners to call their dog back and again it ignores them! All the while jumping and snapping, it actually managed to bite me at one point (luckily not hard). In the end I gave it a swift shove with my foot to get it away.

this sort of thing happens quite a lot. It’s not all little dogs, I used to have some little dogs who whilst a bit mouthy, were well behaved and had good recall. But it does seem that on the whole smaller dogs are not as well trained as bigger dogs and their owners often think they’re being cute when they’re actually being aggressive.

I always walk past dogs when I'm out running. Some just can't resist the urge to chase something moving (and I don't run that fast!). My dog can't be allowed near anything moving or she'll try to wrestle it to the ground.

JustPassingThruHere · 28/08/2025 08:27

Was with you until you went gross and judgemental at the end there.

I have 2 yorkies who are leashed, without fail, for their own safety. I have had staffs and other big dogs, unleashed, come up to my dogs uninvited and I'm terrified for my 2 who are quiet and docile.

A husky smashed my little dogs head into the ground. True, it was playing, but my dog was scared of big dogs after that because he couldn't get away as he was leashed and Husky wasn't.

Agree all dogs should be leashed.

Takoneko · 28/08/2025 08:18

My sister has a little tiny dog that is very well trained (her partner is a dog trainer) and her pet peeve was people encouraging or rewarding behaviour that she was training out (barking, mouthing, begging for food) when it was a puppy because they thought it was cute.

BuddhaAtSea · 28/08/2025 08:17

I’ve got an idiot small dog who lunges. 9/10 times she doesn’t, but every so often some switch goes in her head and she goes for it.
She’s always on the lead. And although she never gets anywhere near the other dog, I feel bad. She’s 7. Distracting her when we pass a dog doesn’t work if she’s hell bent on going for it.
When we’re walking in the countryside she goes of the lead. Good recall, plays with other dogs we meet after some sniffing.
But every so often she loses it and I can’t find a reason for it.

Chompingatthebeat · 28/08/2025 08:16

Tigercrane · 28/08/2025 08:11

Just what we need dog owners attacking each other.
My little dog is sometimes aggressive to bigger ,big dogs because he was twice attack by big dogs that were not on leads.
Once when my daughter was walking him, the owner dig not appologise just disapeared really quickly.
I must go around hating big dog owners now ok.

Quite, such sweeping generalisations are ridiculous

Tigercrane · 28/08/2025 08:11

Just what we need dog owners attacking each other.
My little dog is sometimes aggressive to bigger ,big dogs because he was twice attack by big dogs that were not on leads.
Once when my daughter was walking him, the owner dig not appologise just disapeared really quickly.
I must go around hating big dog owners now ok.

Chompingatthebeat · 28/08/2025 08:08

I've been attacked by big dogs, never little

Titasaducksarse · 28/08/2025 08:05

I'm a little dog owner and I get pissed off with other little dog owners too for all the reasons OP stated.

Melsy88 · 28/08/2025 08:03

I think, on the whole (and appreciate there will be exceptions before anyone sends me a photo of their German Shepherd and Chihuahua playing!) small and big dogs are not a great mix!
Little dogs are anxious around bigger dogs (understandably given bigger dogs can be 10x their weight) and they never will be a good match for playing together.

I have a small dog and only ever have had problems with big dogs - she's been chased by German shepherds, growled and snapped at by staffies, and labs, although not aggressive, don't seem to take no for an answer and pester her constantly until she snaps at them. So it's not only a small dog issue... But if I owned a big dog, I'd probably see more of the issues with small dogs!

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bakerroo · 28/08/2025 07:52

No it’s not just little dogs, my post this morning was about a large dog not under control. Bloody thing just wouldn't bugger off. What’s so annoying is the owner thinks it’s not their fault!

cheesycheesy · 28/08/2025 07:50

This is why I don’t own a dog. Sick of them yapping about my leg. The big ones are just as bad and more intimidating.

TraintoManifeStation · 28/08/2025 07:48

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/01/2025 12:04

The only dog I've ever been afraid of has been a Yorkshire Terrier - the family thought that her being aggressive was cute and funny, right up to the moment it launched up at me as I sat talking to my best friend (I was 8) and was literally hanging off my face by its teeth. The fuckers were still laughing then, too.

Bastarding thing attacked every morning when I knocked for my friend to go to school and I never sat down in her house again in case it came for my face (it apparently jumped onto the back of the sofa to go for people as well - also said laughingly). And because I wouldn't sit down to let it scar me for life, it would constantly snarl and yip yip yip snarl yip yip yippety yip yip, looking for the chance to go for a careless hand within leaping range - I kept my arms up and folded away from it and tried to keep the thing always within sight, standing on the first step of so of their stairs so it couldn't sneak up and bite my lower leg in yet another attack. Nobody took me seriously because I was so relaxed around other animals, all the way up to and including Shire horses - they thought it was even funnier that this kid who would cheerfully interact with 17 hands of solid muscle and every other dog, cat, bird, wildfowl, lizards, insects, spiders was scared of a pound or so of hair and rage.

It took until I was about 13 to realise that actually, as it was smaller than my cats, never mind my Beagle, I could sweep it aside with my foot without causing any injury to either of us when it attacked. One non damaging hoofing with a muttered teenaged 'Fuck off!' later when my friend went upstairs to get her schoolbag and the little furry shit kept eight foot away from me at all times for the rest of its life.

I have a beagle puppy, gorgeous breed.

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 28/08/2025 07:27

Any dog that doesn’t have good recall is annoying and should be on a lead.

I run with my medium sized working breed dog (who has fantastic recall) and whilst out recently a cockerpoo type dog was chasing mine. Now my dog is happy to coexist with other dogs and will never go out of her way to run up to them or be aggressive. However, she hates being jumped and snapped at. I warn the owners and ask them to call their dog back as she doesn’t like other dogs up in her face. The little dog completely ignores their half hearted attempts so I call my dog back to me as I can see she isn’t enjoying being harassed by the little dog. Said little dog then proceeds to snap at me whilst I’m running. Again I have to tell the owners to call their dog back and again it ignores them! All the while jumping and snapping, it actually managed to bite me at one point (luckily not hard). In the end I gave it a swift shove with my foot to get it away.

this sort of thing happens quite a lot. It’s not all little dogs, I used to have some little dogs who whilst a bit mouthy, were well behaved and had good recall. But it does seem that on the whole smaller dogs are not as well trained as bigger dogs and their owners often think they’re being cute when they’re actually being aggressive.

piscofrisco · 28/08/2025 07:26

I keep two of my little dogs on leads for this exact reason. One is a rescue JRT that has had a bit of trauma and can go for other dogs sometimes with no rhyme or reason as to why. The other is a Daschund who is basically just a little swine and likes to give it the big I am.
I do have a third Dog, another JRT who is beautifully behaved and just potters along. I don’t think it’s just small dogs however. Lots of large dogs will bound up to mine and their owners will allow them to. If I was a tiny dog and had a massive (to them) Labrador towering over me I suppose I might also nip. So ime it goes both ways. Basically a lot of dog owners are inconsiderate and don’t control their dogs sufficiently in my view.

SadTimesInFife · 28/08/2025 07:20

Dog owners are wilfully ignorant of canine behaviour.
Anthropomorphising of dogs is stupid, but the owners are stupid.

bakerroo · 28/08/2025 07:14

I’m so fed up with dogs off the lead running up to dogs on the lead. The owner then unapologetic and telling me it’s only 9 months old. This happened again to me yesterday, jumping up at me, around me while I’d picked my dog up to untangle her lead. Bloody bloke with the woman then had a go at me. I’m not the one at fault, they are, because they’re not keeping their dog under control. Dog owners, unless your dog has good recall, keep the damn thing on a lead.

Ratdoghater · 27/01/2025 13:44

@WiddlinDiddlin
Most owners unfortunately can't tell polite greeting or appropriate play from confrontational aggressive display designed to drive the other dog away, or bullying relentless chasing, or even predatory behaviour.

Truer words were never spoken! Too often the useless owners just stand there smiling indulgently - like parent's when their child is being a terror and the think it's being 'cute' 🙄

Unfortunately, one day these dogs will do it to the wrong dog and they will come very unstuck. And you can bet who the owner will blame then...the other dog, not their dog which was completely out of control and harassing or attacking the dog that finally snapped.

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Cartwrightandson · 27/01/2025 09:53

I have a fear reactive chihuahua, she's always on the lead, never ever off and we keep her away from other dogs. She's never attacked any other dog because she's not allowed near them. Simple.

But we get other dogs coming up to her, we explain she's reactive and they don't control their dog, so we keep ours under proper control.

TheWonderhorse · 27/01/2025 09:05

WiddlinDiddlin · 27/01/2025 05:50

Doesn't matter if they're playful or not.

Hurtling up to another dog barking, showing teeth, growling etc is unspeakably rude in 'dog speak', and liable to result in a less than friendly response from many perfectly sensible dogs.

Doggy play that involves rolling around growling, barking, chasing, nipping at necks or shoulders or legs... is something acceptable between two dogs who know one another extremely well.

Would you think it ok if a stranger ran up to you screaming and threw their arms around you and kissed you and then pushed you over for a play wrestle?

In fact you'd feel uncomfortable if a stranger WALKED up to you and simply stood in your personal space and held eye contact for too long, never mind the above scenario.

Dogs also have social rules - direct, maintained eye contact = potentially a threat. Hurtling straight up to someone = a threat. Barking/lunging/growling from a strange dog = a threat.

Just like humans, there are behaviours that are acceptable between two parties who know one another very well, that would absolutely not be appropriate between strangers.

A polite greeting between off lead dogs involves arcing around one another, approaching nose to side/bum, not head to head. Sniffing, circling, then perhaps a play bow to invite play, then some careful posturing and chasing and pausing and watching to see if it is reciprocated.

Most owners unfortunately can't tell polite greeting or appropriate play from confrontational aggressive display designed to drive the other dog away, or bullying relentless chasing, or even predatory behaviour.

I appreciate that some dogs are more polite than others. But what OP reports it's really not a daily experience for the vast majority of people so I'm trying to make sense of it.

Thanks for the patronising ebook on stuff I already know though!

Octopies · 27/01/2025 08:58

Dogs also have social rules - direct, maintained eye contact = potentially a threat. Hurtling straight up to someone = a threat. Barking/lunging/growling from a strange dog = a threat.

It's annoying when owners allowed their dogs to just stand there staring at your dog. Being on a lead can make even well socialised dogs more reactive; with enough staring and barking, even my friendly dog will lose her shit after a certain point. If your dog has a tendency to stare, it takes just a small amount of effort to distract them, call their name etc; they break their stare to look at you so they're not being so intense. Likewise not allowing your dog to rush up and approach another. My friendly dog wanted to run up to every dog she saw to say hello when we first got her, she soon learnt 'leave' means we don't run up to other dogs and give them space to work out whether they/owner is ok with saying hello.

You can lessen reactivity with consitent training and patience. My greyhound was in rescue for 3 years partly due to how reactive he was. He was absolutely terrified of other dogs and would lunge and growl at them. Eight years on and he's lived with two other dogs and will happily walk past other dogs on walks without being afraid or making a peep. Sadly, very few owners seem to make the effort to train their dogs out of barking on the lead. I've seen more owners shout at and hit their dogs when they've barked and lunged, rather than use distraction techniques.

LoveMySushi · 27/01/2025 06:50

I used to have a snappy little dog. He was attacked and almost shaken to death by a big dog off lead and after that every big dog that came closer than 5m was barked and lunged at.
I realised when I carried him, he felt safer and was quiet. This wasnt ok for big dog owners either though. I was told many times how i shouldnt be so precious and how my dog would probably love contact with other dogs. Nope.

Noshowlomo · 27/01/2025 06:36

Sophiasguitar · 26/01/2025 09:22

Wonder if we can have one thread where people don’t completely exaggerate about muddy paws, being tripped and pavements flooded with shit. Oh, too late.

I live in a lovely village. I am not exaggerating when I say dog shit is all over every street. I’m going to start taking photos to send to the council. I love a walk in the night when it’s all quiet and i now walk on the roads when possible as I know I tread on dog shit there. It’s horrendous and absolutely disgusting. There are no dogs roaming free, so these dogs are being allowed to shit all over the pavements by their owners.

NotAnotherBirthday · 27/01/2025 06:31

I swear I live in a different world.

In 20 years of walking dogs in a variety of towns, cities and countryside, I can count the number of aggressive dogs I've come across close enough for them to be an issue, on one hand. And I think I've only been jumped on with wet muddy paws about four times I can recall.

I don't know what I'm doing differently- if I did I'd recommend it.

bloodredfeaturewall · 27/01/2025 06:27

I run. <awaits comments on tude runners>

I try to give dogs space so they don't get startled.

it's mainly the small dogs that 'chase' me or jump up at me.

my favourite route I can only run when it rains, because that eliminates the shit dog owners.

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