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My H is just so fucking miserable when we take our kids out

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sofingmisreable · 26/01/2025 08:04

He always wants to come back home ' right away '.

He doesn't seem to get the same joy out of seeing them having fun.

Example yesterday we went to a shopping centre. The kids were hungry as soon as we got there so we went for lunch and then he wanted to come home straight after and had a face like a smacked arse on, the whole time we were there.

Kids are nearly 3 and 5. Yes the little one was a whingeing a bit but he actually sat through the meal really nicely and they both ate loads.

Then after, I wanted to pick up a couple of kids for the kids, get them some balloons, let them play on the little cars in the shopping centre, so they'd have a bit of fun and he was just so miserable and wanted to go home at every turn.

It's pretty much always like that. It doesn't matter what we do, he just wants to come home straight away.

Today is my DD Bday party and he was like ' great, another ball ache '.

I get we all have bad weeks but this is very persistent. I try and give him space at the weekend for his hobbies, in the hopes he'll be a bit more jolly when he's with us, but it doesn't work.

I know the kids are stressful and especially our little one, has tantrums etc but they're our kids and I love nothing more than to see them having a good time.

Does anyone else have a Husband like this ?

OP posts:
sofingmisreable · 26/01/2025 08:09

Suzuki76 · 26/01/2025 08:08

Hm. What does he do when you do get back home? I bet you end up as child wrangler all afternoon.

Yeah he retreated.

OP posts:
Eenameenadeeka · 26/01/2025 08:09

Is he anxious or depressed? It sounds miserable ruining your days iut

Suzuki76 · 26/01/2025 08:08

Hm. What does he do when you do get back home? I bet you end up as child wrangler all afternoon.

Ace56 · 26/01/2025 08:08

Did he actually want children? He needs a stern reminder that this is how life is with kids, that your 2 are not more difficult than any others and that he needs to stop behaving like this before the kids pick up on it and feel unwanted.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 26/01/2025 08:07

He sounds like a petulant teenager. What a turn off 🤢. Was he like this after the first child, or has it suddenly happened when you had another?

ScaredOfDinosaurs · 26/01/2025 08:07

Tell him he's being a prick, because he is.

It's not all about what he wants, that's his real issue. Selfish, sulking man child who can't even put his children first.