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Abusive Partner did this!!!

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OneBrightAzureBiscuit · 25/01/2025 23:21

hi all, I’m in shock. I recently posted on here several times about my now ex partner- he was showing signs of abuse, control and aggression. Anyways long story short, I think this is the final straw.
we went out to bingo tonight and he’s been in a foul mood for days. Anyways he kicked off yet again because he’s desperate for money and didn’t win- I did. We got the bus back to his road. When I got off the bus- he was behind me as I got off first. He also started walking really close behind me and I said normally to him “you can walk in front I don’t like people walking behind me it makes me feel threatened”. He then kicked off and started shouting and fuming “WHATEVER I CANT EVEN HOLD YOUR EFFING HAND” then he started storming off. I called after him but he didn’t stop walking I stopped expecting him to turn back but he didn’t. I’m a young woman with a handbag walking down a really dodgy road with dodgy people and alleyways. He stormed off far ahead and didn’t care. So I turned to another road like the strong woman I am deep down, made sure I was safe and stopped at a small main road by a church and I called a taxi home. Even though I had £0.00 on my card and have now gone overdrawn by nearly a tenner, because it’s my safety and I am done with this abusive POS. It’s not right what he’s done is it?
I know deep down I did the right thing and put myself first. He’s abusive and I’m so shocked this happened tonight. He is Jekyll and Hyde. I’ve locked all my doors up, drawn the curtains.
he has been texting twice and called twice but I’m not answering. I came on here because everyone on here has great advice and I don’t know where else to turn or who to talk to.
thank you , I’m proud of myself :)

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LostMyLanyard · 26/01/2025 02:49

Sounds completely made up to me 🤷‍♀️

UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 02:14

steff13 · 26/01/2025 02:14

🙄 it was a joke.

It wasn't clear.

steff13 · 26/01/2025 02:14

UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 02:06

You're a fully grown woman you can walk together.

🙄 it was a joke.

UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 02:13

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Wouldn't have had half the drama

Rachmorr57 · 26/01/2025 02:13

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PinkyFlamingo · 26/01/2025 02:12

Couldn't you pay for taxi out of your winnings?

steff13 · 26/01/2025 02:12

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It was a joke because of the ridiculousness of the situation. 🤦‍♀️

UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 02:09

Snoopdoggydog123 · 26/01/2025 02:09

How did you get to and play bingo with no money?

And win...

Snoopdoggydog123 · 26/01/2025 02:09

How did you get to and play bingo with no money?

Rachmorr57 · 26/01/2025 02:07

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UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 02:06

steff13 · 26/01/2025 02:05

I'd want someone to walk behind me to protect me from behind.

You're a fully grown woman you can walk together.

steff13 · 26/01/2025 02:05

FoxInTheForest · 26/01/2025 01:24

I don't understand the whole "you can walk infront, people walking behind makes me feel threatened" comment.
Why didn't you just walk next to him?
If someone told me to walk ahead and went on about feeling threatened because of walking behind I'd just walk ahead and avoid the drama.

I'd want someone to walk behind me to protect me from behind.

BoarBrush · 26/01/2025 01:56

This reads like THE poorest form of chat gtp.

FleaDog · 26/01/2025 01:55

I’m a young woman with a handbag ....the strong woman I am deep down

Bit of fantasy first novel writing going on?

UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 01:40

FoxInTheForest · 26/01/2025 01:33

If this sort of thing was a regular issue I might make a snappy comment back.
She made the choice to stop walking after telling him to walk infront, Id guess he didn't want to then stop and deal with an inevitable argument.
There's obviously more that happened prior considering she was saying not to walk with her but ahead.
Regardless its a dysfunctional relationship and good it's over.

He probably got fed up with not even being allowed to walk.

HappyWhenItsSnowing · 26/01/2025 01:39

Your posts are interesting OP

In one you say your partner is fantastic and your trying for Children

In another

You say Your partner was abused as a child, depressed and tried to take his life

Then in another

You were depressed, abused as a child and tried to take your own life

Which story are we talking about tonight OP ?

FoxInTheForest · 26/01/2025 01:33

ruethewhirl · 26/01/2025 01:28

But would you act like an arsehole about it like the ex did?

If this sort of thing was a regular issue I might make a snappy comment back.
She made the choice to stop walking after telling him to walk infront, Id guess he didn't want to then stop and deal with an inevitable argument.
There's obviously more that happened prior considering she was saying not to walk with her but ahead.
Regardless its a dysfunctional relationship and good it's over.

UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 01:29

ruethewhirl · 26/01/2025 01:28

But would you act like an arsehole about it like the ex did?

I don't think he acted like a arsehole.

ruethewhirl · 26/01/2025 01:28

FoxInTheForest · 26/01/2025 01:24

I don't understand the whole "you can walk infront, people walking behind makes me feel threatened" comment.
Why didn't you just walk next to him?
If someone told me to walk ahead and went on about feeling threatened because of walking behind I'd just walk ahead and avoid the drama.

But would you act like an arsehole about it like the ex did?

Garlicnorth · 26/01/2025 01:25

HopelessHouseMaid · 26/01/2025 01:10

I don’t know who your talking about, your boyfriend was an amazing man who you wanted to have children a few weeks ago and it was your family that was abusive??

Oh, dear Confused Still, OP, if you're still seeing this bloke I think you're right to stop seeing him and to block him on everything. He and his family sound problematic to say the least, and you've got enough other crap going on. Carrying on with him will only add to your troubles.

FoxInTheForest · 26/01/2025 01:24

I don't understand the whole "you can walk infront, people walking behind makes me feel threatened" comment.
Why didn't you just walk next to him?
If someone told me to walk ahead and went on about feeling threatened because of walking behind I'd just walk ahead and avoid the drama.

UnicornWorld · 26/01/2025 01:14

HopelessHouseMaid · 26/01/2025 01:10

I don’t know who your talking about, your boyfriend was an amazing man who you wanted to have children a few weeks ago and it was your family that was abusive??

Why am I not surprised

HopelessHouseMaid · 26/01/2025 01:10

I don’t know who your talking about, your boyfriend was an amazing man who you wanted to have children a few weeks ago and it was your family that was abusive??

DutifulDaughterWifeMother · 26/01/2025 00:36

@OneBrightAzureBiscuit

OP Well done 👏🏼 I am proud of you & I don’t even know you. Your safety comes first! Pls don’t communicate any further, just think of it as him having walked off the face of the earth & you never need to spk to him again. One text ‘We are finished’ will suffice & block. Any man that can walk away from the person they are supposed to care about in the middle of the night is not your person. Pls block him & send any belongings to him. You are worthy of more & deserve a partner who will always protect you. 2025 will be absolutely fabulous for you as you no longer have a deadweight around your neck!

CoastalCalm · 26/01/2025 00:30

Pay for the taxi with your bingo money ? Or have you used it to get drunk ?

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