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WWYD: DD drunk seperated from friends in city centre

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GLP1U5er · 25/01/2025 21:52

But back with them now. They have been drinking since 11am. I spoke with one of her friends and they said she went to the toilet but went the wrong way and left the bar. I had called her at that time to check in and she told me she was going back to them. She shared her location with me and I saw she got back to the bar her friends were in. I called a but later when I saw she was walking again and a slightly more sober friend came on to tell me she was fine and they had rang her when she went the wrong way then met her and brought her back.

She is 21 but I'm very nervous now that she is that much of a state she went the wrong way in a city she hasn't been drinking in before and is hotelling in. I live 1hr20 mins away and am on the verge of getting a hotel and staying on the city for the night incase it happens again when her friends are too drunk to react.

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TicketyBoo11 · 25/01/2025 22:33

You need to take that tracking app off your phone. This is her life now, hard as it is to let go of our children it has to be done.

CornishTeaTime · 25/01/2025 22:33

You are not being ridiculous as some have said. Of course you are worried and want to be to hand. I would also be furious and have a very serious talk with her when shes back home.

I have a DS and never sleep until he's home!

MugsyBalonz · 25/01/2025 22:33

You don't need to discuss her drinking with her either. She's 21 and on a night out with her mates, it's up to her how much she drinks and you don't need to lecture her about it like a child.

Rosesgrowonyou · 25/01/2025 22:32

So she just went the wrong way after going to the loo? I do that when I'm stone cold sober. I think you are being way OTT. Stop ringing her mates ffs.

HattieHelvetia · 25/01/2025 22:32

She is twenty one! Let her grow up for goodness sake.

Whycantitbetwentydegreesandsunny · 25/01/2025 22:30

I really cannot understand this. Why are you so involved in your 21 year olds whereabouts? She is 21 not 5!

Deeperthantheocean · 25/01/2025 22:30

Ablondiebutagoody · 25/01/2025 21:55

I wouldn't have been getting involved in any of it. Tracking, hassling her friends......she's 21 ffs

Agree, I wouldn't want my parents to know when I staggered around drunk lol 😆 Her friends all have mobiles, let them get on with it. Ugh tracking a young adult 😑

Passwordsaremynemesis · 25/01/2025 22:29

Good grief. We didn’t even have mobile phones when I was 21, but my mum wouldn’t have had a clue where I was or what I was getting up too, and thank god for that! Getting a hotel because your adult daughter is a bit pissed is absolutely ridiculous!

MumonabikeE5 · 25/01/2025 22:29

I’d do that. And next week, with she is sober I’d be discussing her drinking with her. Because how she is now is never appropriate

dayslikethese1 · 25/01/2025 22:28

Stop tracking her, that's weird.

Babycatsmummy · 25/01/2025 22:28

TomatoSandwiches · 25/01/2025 21:58

I remember Libby Squire, she was outside her house and was still targeted.
I would go myself, just incase.

Also India Chipchase.

Definitely not an overreaction these days to want to share your Daughter is safe!

Poppyseeds79 · 25/01/2025 22:28

If they've been out drinking since 11am they're not going to make it past midnight before heading it back to the hotel. DD's mates are obviously keeping an eye on her.

Purpleturtle46 · 25/01/2025 22:27

When I was 21 I was travelling the world, no mobile phone! I would maybe phone home or email once a week. Nobody would have any idea what I was up to. Think you just need to leave her to it and she needs learn to be more responsible in the future.

InkHeart2024 · 25/01/2025 22:27

Modern technology has changed parenting for the worse I think. A 21 year old who doesn't live at home should be a mystery to her mother, but because she can call 'to check in' and see her location her mother is not able to let go and allow her to live her life as the adult she is. I get it, but you MUST back off and stop doing this. It's infantilising and harmful.

Viviennemary · 25/01/2025 22:27

She is irresponsible and needs to grow up and find a sensible approach to drinking,

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Pebbles16 · 25/01/2025 22:25

Please do calm down. This sounds insane.
This and the 3am pick up thread make me realise why I am managing "adults" who are not good at adulting

hazelnutvanillalatte · 25/01/2025 22:25

This can't be real

AGovernmentOfLawsNotOfMen · 25/01/2025 22:25

I find tracking adults on the phone creepy.
Some of us had travelled the world before the age of 21.
You need to step aside. It’s all very controlling

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 25/01/2025 22:25

It's really weird that any of them called you when she lost them when you're so far away

healthybychristmas · 25/01/2025 22:24

I think your anxiety is taking over here. If you are needed you can always go but there's no point going when they don't even know you're there!

Your daughter really needs to think about the amount she's drinking and how she can reduce that. She's going to get herself into tricky situations otherwise.

TheignT · 25/01/2025 22:23

It sounds like her friend is coping. I'd try to relax.

ElleintheWoods · 25/01/2025 22:23

At 21?! My mum wouldn’t have known what I was doing any night of the week at 21, nevermind that I was drinking!

Does she have any special needs? It just seems unthinkable to me to be tracking an adult child as a parent unless they are unable to live independently as an adult

Alwayswonderedwhy · 25/01/2025 22:23

I worry about my teens but this is over the top. She briefly got separated from her friends. It a non issue.

MugsyBalonz · 25/01/2025 22:20

She's with her friends and they're all keeping an eye on each other. You don't need to be checking in, you don't need to go there, and you don't need to speak to her friends. She's an adult, she'll be fine.

I was out drinking in town from the age of 16/17, fairly standard for the 90s, and never got a parent involved. If someone got too drunk then we looked after them ourselves.