talk me down from being furious!

to be honest. i think he loves telling tall tales, he's done it for as long as i've known him. the taller the tale the better, and i think on this occasion he simply got so caught up in his story, embellishing it with facts aimed to shock, that it simply came back to bite him because of the seriousness of the infection we called his bluff! and all the anger and agro is because he's been made to tell the truth... and made himself look silly... so now we must be punished!

and that swhat i think has happened. if he had simply told us the 'true' story from the off, we would not be where we are now..

Well our relationship is now 'rocky'. He didn't really know what the condition was until he had a chance to google it, he then has his own questions. He was told the same as me.. and then when he asked questions the story changed, and changed again and again.. SS and his GF are upset that we have googled the condition and that we believe that he would put our health at risk. We believed he put our health at risk when he sat in our car and just casually told us he had a blood infection he had got from work which was contagious and was waiting until a test on tuesday to see if he was clear!

if we had been given all the information when he was with us, then we would not have been so worried, and now they can't seem to understand why we are so upset because the story has now changed and we don't know top from bottom with it all!

apparently when he initially told us, we were supposed to have taken what he said as fact! we shouldn't have asked questions and shouldn't have googled what he had!

DH is terrified of upsetting SS his GF and potentially having GC kept away from us! I just want someone for once to tell the truth! DH doesn't understand why i am so upset, now we have all the facts, there should be no further issue! we should have had all the facts from the start! ontop of that, moving forwards we have been told details and facts about their life are non of our business and that we are to take anything they tell us in the future as fact and truth! we are not allowed questions!

so yeah... its not gone well

you are right it really should have been that simple, but they are now upset that i have googled the condition and that we are asking questions such as 'should you be isolating'.

it's now turned into this massive great big drama, we've had insults thrown at us and they have now stomped off all because we wanted to understand this infection he told us he had!

I've already said... he's been diagnosed with Shigella?? When he initially told us, he simply told us he had been off work for the past 4 days with a 'blood infection', yes it was contagious but only if we put dirty hands in our mouths and he said he had an appointment on Tuesday for a test to see if the anti-biotics had worked and that 6 of his colleagues were also off with it. When i asked HOW he got it, he stated he had used his bare hands to stem the flow of blood on someones arm, and that the other 6 did the same and that basically it was down to poor hand washing? Hence my post. because i genuinely didnt know what to do for the best with the information i had been given?

As the day went on, we have asked a few more questions, for example, Him and is GF were due to see his grandparents today and we asked, do they know and should they really meet up as they are old and vulnerable.

Only for the story to change, It now turns out, he says he caught it on the 12th of January, says he's had 1 clear test and needs 2 to go back to work. he says he's only been off work the past 4 days. He says that he's followed all medical advice and that his Baby has also been tested.

When we pointed out that his inital account, clearly is not the same as the updated version we have now been accused of alsorts! We should have believed him when he said he was fine and it was safe, however initially he said neither of these things! We been told he's a medical professional and would never put his family at risk..

All we want is an honest and true account of what the hell has been going on? there's been a tummy bug going round the family since christmas with no obvious cause with the exception of him and his baby were ill on christmas day when they came to visit and also on new years day! but he's adamant he didnt contract the infection until the 12th (which we also know is not true because he was not at work on this day). My husband is vulnerable, i have 2 vulnerable daughters, another GC..

But now, all they can fixate on is that we don't believe him! which is true, we don't but only because we have now had 2 versions of the same event!

We've been told in the future we have to 'trust' him and believe he is telling the truth, and we cannot question anything ever and that we are not allowed to know what happens in their private lives? I agree their private lives, are their business, but not when there's a potential notifiable infection flying about, i think we have a right to know about that!

but hey ho, now we cannot ask questions, if they tell us something we have to accept that they are telling the truth (he has a long history of lies and story telling), and thats where we are upto!

Well, as SS has been for a jolly day out with his dad, i think its safe to assume that he thinks he's ok. His partner went to a birthday party last night, and is out with friends for a playdate with GC today, so again its safe to assume that they are also think they are ok?

or clearly not concerned enough to stay at home?

We have only just been informed of SS's illness, it's not been mentioned to us once, this is the very first time we have heard about it? Perhaps, if we had been told prior to him announcing as he got in the car that he had a highly contagious 'blood infection' as he described it.. we wouldn't be where we are now would we?

and you are entitled to think that. i think you will see my post has been reported further up, and yet i'm still here.

i'm not sure how i can prove its genuine... but as they say opinions are lke a.. holes.. we all have them.

sadly i wish it were. i've now communicated with both SS and his fiance, and he says 'it's no big deal' and that he's done as medical professionals have advised him to do. and she says, 'he's a medical professional' and to give him some credit!

i have tapped out. both myself and DH have tried to reason why we are so upset by todays events, but apparently SS is hurt that we think he would put us in such danger!!

so i am done. i won't be baby sitting for GC at the weekend, i won't be driving them about anymore. I am looking after me and mine. DH has some decision making to do

im not sure thats going to help, and i am going to assume (hope) thats shes oblivious too all this. i know she's been on a night out last night, and her and GC are having a day out today, and surley, someone in her position career wise would ignore something that i think is pretty serious?

i actually don't know if i am making a mountain out of a molehill?