I worked with a girl I remained friends with, not close, but meet up for drinks every few months.
When we worked together I was due to be married and invited a very selected few friends from work for the Evening (as 40 odd people worked there, hence couldn't invite everyone.)
As it got closer and closer, despite several gentle nudges I received no RSVP. Eventually, about 2 weeks prior to the day she said she was sorry but couldn't come as had accidentally double booked a Comedy show out of the city.😬
I was pretty hurt, as I'd given her the invite a few months earlier and we'd been chatting about my upcoming Wedding a few times at lunch etc.(not constant, annoying Bridezilla, just occasional chat about the day, my dress etc)
My DH was quite annoyed for me as I was hurt, but we let it slide.
Move forward 7 years, we no longer work together, but still meet up occasionally and keep in touch as I'm not generally one to bare a grudge.
She got engaged at Christmas and I've received a Save The Date for her Wedding Eve do.
DH says no way - make an excuse, she made no effort for us.
I think it will be obvious if I tit for tat - so think we should just go.
I won't finish work until 6pm, so it will be a ridiculous dash. I'd prefer not to go -and am obviously not using half a day annual leave to finish early for her when she made zero effort for my Wedding which was on a Saturday.
Would you go??