Guest turning the heating on

@2petrabbits might have missed it but was it a relative of yours or your husbands????

I stayed at someone’s house over Christmas. Was very grateful for the lovely hospitality. I woke up sweating and the radiators were too hot to touch. I turned it off in the room and back up in the morning. Would not have dreamed of going to find the boiler to switch it off for everyone

I hate visiting people who have hot, stuffy, houses, but I do not take it upon myself to mess with their heating! That's really weird from a guest, and they could easily have said they were cold.

They must’ve been freezing. I hate visiting people that have cold houses.

Curious how long your guests were staying with and if they intended to reset the timer to your previous settings @2petrabbits Absolutely YANBU

I always ask guests if they're warm enough. If they're not ill put the heating on, but not to all night! Xx

It’s very common for me to wake up in the night and be so cold in someone else’s house that I can’t get back to sleep even with warm pajamas and a warm blanket. I often find hosts very unwilling to offer much more heat, and it creates an awkward situation. However, I probably wouldn’t just adjust it on my own even though I’d be shivering and miserable.

Absolutely unacceptable for a guest to alter heating. I would never dream of doing that. Put on a pair of sock, an extra t shirt, put up with it.
If it's a long stay or there are health issues involved, then ask politely if the heating can be left on for longer, perhsps at a lower setting.
But meddling with the boiler when you are a guest? Very bad manners.

They were rude!
But maybe check with guests in future if they are warm enough before they go hunting for your thermostat!

Men generally have more muscle mass and muscles do work and generate heat, but the reason women feel the cold more than men is a little more complicated than that. It is down to a hardwired survival system where if a woman's body starts to cool down below comfort level, the circulatory system restricts blood flow to the extremities (i.e. hands and feet) to keep as much warm blood flowing through the core. The extremities thus cool quicker than for a man and it is the cold hands/feet that signal to the brain they are too cold. You have a similar situation in summer where the men want the AC on because they are too hot but the women object.

It was always a bugbear for me playing bridge at the local bridge club in summer which had a long row of west facing windows meaning the room really heated up on a sunny summer afternoon. By the time play started in the evening it could be 30C in there with no airflow, yet there were nearly always one or two women that objected to the air con and in extreme cases even complained when a window was opened.

@Iceboy80
How about some more respect.
Men and girls you mean men and women.

Honestly, ask them. If their room is cold, you might need to address that.

Totally disagree, people feel the heat differently, I work in an office and the girls are always cold yet the men never are, I would rather be to cold than to hot and there are always arguments over the heating in work as we then have to open the windows. I wouldn't mind so much if it were a comfortable setting but it's from normal to suddenly 28c, which when I think 16c is comfortable is a drastic change.

I have actually read a report on this and it turns out the report stated this is the biggest reason why men and women should not work together. I also read that men use more energy than men because they drive more (so use more fuel) however, I am sure if they took into account energy from unnecessary heating they would change their views.

I ask guests to turn on the heating if needed.

I would never mess with other peoples' boiler. I would ask for a blanket.

I feel the cold terribly despite lits,of layersso I'd find anything under 19 unbearable but I'd never touch someone's heating - I'd wear pj's, socks etc.

Don't touch the heating, it's that simple. Im a single man and mine is only ever set to 16c if daughter is round 18c. That's it if you want to be warmer then cover up.

Ours is off completely at night. If newborn babies should be in a room at 18c , I hardly think an adult will be freezing at 16 under a warm duvet, no doubt in pyjamas!

Really? Ffs!!

If you can't afford to heat your home adequately, you can't afford to have guests.

It’s totally wrong of him. Surely everyone knows that these days for many people, a warm house is classed as a luxury. A few years ago it would have been different but energy bills are huge now. Thoughtless.

Your post made me chuckle because that is the sort of thing my OH would have no qualms about doing. He’s always been that way. Turns out, he has Aspergers but I love that aspect of him. He is the sort of person who if you saw a door with ‘private’ on it, he will open it, just to see what’s on the other side.🤷‍♀️

They should've asked.

That said, it sounds like you run warmer than a lot of people so maybe it would be wise to get one of those little electric heaters for guests in future/have some other discussion about what to do if they're cold?

You can get a separate radiator thermostat for your bedroom. We have them in all of our upstairs rooms. While your guest should have asked you, it is not polite to turn the heating off at 8:00pm while you have guests, unless you have established that they run hot too. I have said that I run cold, but I always ask my guests about the level of heating. If they are staying, I point the radiator thermostats out to them. My friends also ask, in winter, if I am happy with the heating level, even if I just pop in for coffee.
A couple of posters have suggested that a room temperature should be between 18 -21 degrees C, but these are figures given by the energy saving trust. A lot of people on here have said that they are happy at 21C, which I would agree with.
There are many reasons why some people might feel hotter than others. My husband started to feel the cold more when he lost weight as fat has some insulating properties, but it does not always work like this.

This 100% also- I run hot, i’m usually too warm if the heating is too high, DP runs cold and is always freezing but he would never expect me to turn up the heating because it’s a lot easier to fix being cold than too hot. OP sounds like me and surely the guest pulling on a warm jumper and grabbing the blankets is a better alternative to boiling OP alive in her own home!