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To think that if you are shy, quiet, have low self esteem, you attract red flag men?!

27 replies

Crisscro · 24/01/2025 17:56

Just that really. I was having a conversation about confidence with female colleagues at work and I said how confidence is so important for young women as if you don't have any, and from my experience, they always end up with shit men. This is all anecdotal but the really nice girls from school who were quite shy and quiet have all ended up in crap relationships. it's a shame as they are really nice, lovely women that wouldn't say boo to a goose.

Yabu- no that's nonsense
Yanbu - yes tis true

OP posts:
Whachamacallit · 24/01/2025 18:06

I’m shy and quiet but I don’t tolerate being treated badly - I don’t hang around to argue about it though.

CrestWhite · 24/01/2025 17:58

Its not about what you attract, its about what you accept.

A confident person won't accept a shit partner, but there are plenty of people with low self confidence who have great partners.